Counterbalance
Registered Senior Member
I asked her to try and make Chagur understand her point of view, remember we do not have to change each other completely to meet on mutual ground, but if we can agree on some things we have come a long way......it's not as simple as saying Chagur has a different point of view so leave him alone........NO we want to get into his mind and understand WHY he disagrees with us...............what do YOU think Counter???
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I think Chagur is intelligent enough to recognize when others are "trying to make" him do anything. I respect his right to respond to such as he thinks proper.
I don't think in terms of changing others. I understand that this is impossible. This kind of change comes from within an individual. The more we try to make someone do or think anything, the more resistance we are likely to encounter. It's the way the universe works. Even if we do get them to "change" to some degree, the more valuable, real and long-lasting change comes about when they do so on their own. I try to look at things realisitically.
I also think that part of the solution to "resolving" any difference in opinions includes truly understanding how recognizing the fact that there are differences is significant enough in its own right.
Speaking of rights, I don't think I have the right to demand that others explain themselves simply because they have a differing viewpoint. --or to belittle them when they don't explain themselves.
I also understand the futility of trying to discuss something with people who are more interested in "making" others accept their view.
Feel free to disagree.
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Counterbalance