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darksidZz said:
I was having lunch at a coffee shop when this girl leaned over from her table somewhat and said "can I ask you something?" to which I replied "yes sure" what she said is "did you just come from working out?" I told her the truth and was like "no not really I'm just dressed this way because I moved from California." She was like "oh, because your legs are really nice." I paraphrase but that's the jist of it.

So I decided to have conversation with her while I had lunch and for like 30 mins we talked, her friend who works there came over and I knew i should listen for any hints about her having a bf. It sure sounded to me like this girl DOES have a serious bf. So I got up to throw my lunch away and she was like "you're not leaving yet are you?" and I replied "no". I continued talking to her for awhile and when I was confident she had a bf (based on what her friend said) I decided to just leave.

So I got up to leave and said "well it was a pleasure meeting you." she looked at me with this face and said "after all that is this really it Sam?" And I told her "umm well I could give you my e-mail?" She took my number instead and I got hers. She claimed she would call me around midnight but never did.

So your advice here? I decided to email her and see if I get a reply but I don't know. If I call her I mean what will I say? I'll call her tomorrow but I just don't know what to think here. Your thoughts?
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darksidZz, you plum!. Seriously if you are getting on well with a girl that well, the last thing she wants is to swap an email address and have the guy ask her to contact him.

I'm pretty sure she was set at the time about what she wanted, I couldn't suggest whether it would be the same now, that is really dependent on how paranoid you get over making the right moves and how many attempts you make to contact here.

What you need to do is first take a deep breath, clear your mind, Identify "one" message to send her (only one, not twenty messages that are all different and suggesting insecurities, neediness or clinginess. ) Make that one message identify that you weren't sure if she just wanted a friend, a one night stand or an actual lover, write some fecking poetry and send her the message.

Make sure that you state you will ring her if you have the number, that's what she wants you making the effort.

If she truly has a boyfriend then obviously you were right to walk away, I'm not suggesting you get yourself in even more heartache by chasing someone that's already involved.

I guess I'm saying pull it together, simplify your thoughts and feelings (since I know you are probably in hopeless disarray) and "go out somewhere with her" if you think she's not attached. (You do realise sometimes the Bf lines are only there if a friend thinks that perhaps you are going to be clingy, needy or just darn awkward)
 
Anti-Flag said:
I think honesty should always be used, as the act of lying can be a far larger betrayal then a hurtful truth.
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truth is easier to remember.

It should be tactile and delicate, but should be used. If a girl asks if her ass looks big in a particular dress, you should simply say the dress doesn't suit her.
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i never thought about it like that..will have to try it sometime..(doesn't that require a girlfriend first?)(..delusions of inadequacy, remember. i tend to be a hermit..)
 
NMSquirrel said:
truth is easier to remember.


i never thought about it like that..will have to try it sometime..(doesn't that require a girlfriend first?)(..delusions of inadequacy, remember. i tend to be a hermit..)
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He is a hermit.... and Speaking brutal words or tactful words can relate to anyone, doesnt need to be a gf
 
NMSquirrel said:
truth is easier to remember.
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Of course, fact over fiction, but then betrayal is remembered for its negative effects more.


i never thought about it like that..will have to try it sometime..(doesn't that require a girlfriend first?)(..delusions of inadequacy, remember. i tend to be a hermit..)
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Haha a lot of girls don't appreciate it, despite claiming to want honesty. They'll also throw any lie in your face so you can't win. Best to try and change the subject. Or suggest it'd look better on the floor by the bed, that often distracts them. ;)

Whatever you do, don't say it'd look hotter on their sister. You only make that mistake once. Unless you wake up......
 
darksidZz said:
If I call her I mean what will I say?
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"Hi, this is Sam. Remember, we ran into each other at the Name of coffee shop last Tuesday? Short pause, give her a chance to talk if she feels like taking the lead. Just thought I'd check in and see how you are doing. Another short pause.

At this point I imagine she might take the lead in the conversation since she was not bashful the first time. Let her talk too.

But before you call her, you have to have some idea of what you want to do. Do you just want to talk? Some girls will be happy with that until they get to know you a little better. But it would be better to have some activity to suggest that will get you together again in person, since she has already met you and even took the initiative. Invite her to a concert, or a book signing, or a museum exhibit, or a flower show, or a movie, or just dinner. (I'd suggest a party but I get the impression your friends don't have parties. Besides, people get drunk at parties and those are lousy circumstances for getting to know somebody better.)

If you already know what kind of work she does, think about it beforehand and ask a question that shows that you are interested in it--if it's real work and not just a dead-end job at McDonalds to avoid starving. If you don't know, then ask.

It can be very awkward to call someone for the first time, so don't be embarrassed if it is a little difficult. The fact that she was very comfortable with you the first time means it's probably that she won't do anything to make it difficult, so just have faith.

Don't worry that you waited too long. Nobody calls when they say they will. Just stop waiting and call her right now, or tonight, or whenever she said it's okay.

Other than that, I would urge you to be fairly serious and straightforward, and not say stuff that you think is silly. Save that until you get to know each other better. Some guys can do that but I guarantee you're not one of them. I'm not either and I got the best wife in seven counties, so it's nothing to feel bad about.

Good luck!
 
Would take back an ex?

Recently this girl I use to know came to me saying she thinks of me everyday and it's over with the other fella. However she told me that too when she dumped me so my question to you is would you trust this person? We fight and never get along, she confuses me, I think he knew her longer now than I have LOL

I know you can't honestly tell me anything it's to complicated, why not share some of your stories instead about going back with an ex and how it worked out.
 
Well I don't know what to say, she emailed me again saying "he has some good things of course" and other crap, I told her to take a hike and I don't ever wanna think about this again. What BS lol She can rot in hellllllllllll
 
it never works out. relationships are either good enough to remain in, or bad enough to remain out.

and for god's sake, stop being such a pussy!!!! :wallbang:
 
Based on your date of birth in your profile, you have an interesting looking natal chart, darksidZz.

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Is this the crazy chick? And not in a good way?

The one that yelled at you and then wouldn't sleep with you?

If she's going to yell at you at all she'd better be humping your brains out regularly in compensation, I tell you what.

No nooky, no shouty...
 
There are plenty of women bro . Look for someone who thinks like you ( not your cousin ) Find your complementary color so to speak , Like red goes with green , Yellow and purple ,

Some one who holds keys to your ambitions and has similar ambitions. Your goals can sync up and Man a live the fuck will be good but life will be even better
 
I'd never return to my EX because she doesn't deserve a nice, considerate, kind loving man to be with her.
 
chimpkin said:
Is this the crazy chick? And not in a good way?

The one that yelled at you and then wouldn't sleep with you?

If she's going to yell at you at all she'd better be humping your brains out regularly in compensation, I tell you what.

No nooky, no shouty...
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Well I don't remember what I've said here but yea she yelled at me and we fought alot :L I see your point
 
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