Bells
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Your initial comment was about incels:Sorry, perhaps a better term would have been ''research'' has shown. (Note, in the above post, I'm not merely suggesting incels in general, rather incels who have a deep hatred for women aka misogynists)
https://www.gq-magazine.co.uk/article/men-hating-women
https://voicemalemagazine.org/mother-wound-as-missing-link/
https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/psychpedia/misogyny
Studies have shown that incels who use abusive language about and towards women, and have a deep rooted hatred of them, usually stem from some type of childhood trauma.
Your first article that you linked, from GQ Magazine for your research addresses misogyny and the comments about childhood trauma or abuse:
“Even in a nurturing family, a child will grow up with chauvinism,” says Jukes. “Culture and society are the seedbed where the child’s misogyny takes root. The construction of the woman as the carer is all around us, and that is part of what informs men’s rage with women. In my millennial patients I don’t see any difference to patients I was seeing decades ago.”
Masculinity, then, appears on a sliding scale, usually depending on a boy’s childhood environment and trauma. All children experience negativity, with indifference or neglect at one end and physical or sexual abuse at the other, and the more painful childhood is, the more likely a boy is to emerge as “hyper-masculine”. Meanwhile, the more masculine a boy is, the more he represses his feelings about women, so the more misogynistic and abusive he is likely to be. This also works in reverse, with hyper-masculine men also more likely to be emotionally vulnerable, even helpless.
Masculinity, then, appears on a sliding scale, usually depending on a boy’s childhood environment and trauma. All children experience negativity, with indifference or neglect at one end and physical or sexual abuse at the other, and the more painful childhood is, the more likely a boy is to emerge as “hyper-masculine”. Meanwhile, the more masculine a boy is, the more he represses his feelings about women, so the more misogynistic and abusive he is likely to be. This also works in reverse, with hyper-masculine men also more likely to be emotionally vulnerable, even helpless.
On the subject of incels:
Incels – the online subculture of self-loathing “involuntary celibates” who define themselves through their inability to find love or a sexual partner – fit this misogynistic pattern very neatly. Paradoxically, these self-proclaimed losers also exhibit a kind of hyper-masculinity. The cultish nature of incels is not an aberration but an extension of male psychological development: a need to control mixed with a sense of humiliation. It’s always someone else’s fault – in the case of incels, it begins with a belief that genetics has dealt them a bad hand. Damn you, Mother Nature.
“The rage and righteousness against women represent one felt injustice after another,” says Jukes. “Incels’ basic premise of ‘She won’t let me fuck her’ is about as straightforward an Oedipal statement as you can make.”
“The rage and righteousness against women represent one felt injustice after another,” says Jukes. “Incels’ basic premise of ‘She won’t let me fuck her’ is about as straightforward an Oedipal statement as you can make.”
The biggest take away from the GQ article you linked was in how to combat sexism and misogyny - involves breaking away from the notion that women and mothers are the care givers and the father is the dominant one who is working to take care of the family, and instead looking at a shared and equal household, where the child grows up seeing shared and equal responsibility.
You know, getting rid of the inherent and ingrained belief that women are less than, have to stay home and care for the kids while the man goes out and works, etc.. Misogyny has its roots in that power and male dominant state.
Your second article "Mother wound as the missing link" - essentially blames misogyny on patriarchy but somehow or other blames women and mothers for misogyny and patriarchy.. You can understand how this is problematic, yes?
Your third link does not really address the comment you made about incels and childhood trauma. Instead, it addresses some of the root causes of misogyny.
Note should also be made of the fact that incels who have gone on to kill women, were not from abusive households.
I found an article recently when first posting this thread authored by a scientist who claims that misogyny doesn’t exist at all and can’t be scientifically proven. In other words, could misogyny be based on one’s perception? Personally, I believe misogyny and misandry are real behaviors that show contempt and prejudice of the opposite sex. But, probably difficult to “prove” in a controlled setting, for example, since different men and women might perceive things differently.
https://www.newstatesman.com/politi...uld-be-treated-differently-when-it-comes-hate