Xelasnave.1947
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Not rubbish. You demanded (even more) evidence before you'd believe women are offended by the behaviours we are discussing.
I get it James.
condone the behaviours
Demanding justice is not condoning.
You and paddoboy ought to be able to give a clear "no" in answer to that question, but you can't.
Paddo may be evasive but I have made it entirely clear what I think such that I am surprised you still do not understand me at all.
paddoboy is proud of engaging in those behaviours, and determined to keep behaving like that in regards to women. He has told us all that. He has also made it clear that it doesn't matter to him that he knows that those behaviours are inappropriate - that he (now) understands why women dislike them and are offended by them. In other words, he continues to knowingly act like a sexist pig, and has no intention of ever stopping.
Well I don't condone that at all.
As for you, Alex, you say you don't engage in such behaviours yourself, but you're happy to condone them in others (as in the case of paddoboy
I say that context must be considered...lots of old folk talk that way with no malice..that is what you need to take on board...if Paddo was here and he presents as you say to me I will rip him to pieces....you must appreciate, as I now do, that I came in at the tail end of something with a long history..all my concern turns on is making claims without evidence...and I have no doubt some ladies are offended, I get offended, ....
Why not? If 9 out of 10 women find that behaviour offensive, why would you want to condone it? Because there's a 1 in 10 chance that a random woman paddoboy meets in a shop might not be offended by his inappropriate remarks and attitudes?
James a survey should not determine guilt in any way shape or form..the facts that pertain exclusively to the case in question is all that is relevant....
But you still say I'm talking "rubbish".
That is prompted by the fact you do not have evidence from the ladies in the bank...further your claims that lubricate is a sexual thing is not what I have found in my world..if you want to show Paddo was being sleazy you need more than your say so...that is the point and there is no other...you can not sentence someone for what you are thinking, actually not even for what they are thinking..now if you could show Paddo said in addition ..and I imagined pouring virgin olive oil over them and...whatever..it would be different..if he is that way he would not last with me but we can't go on what you think he is thinking.
You and paddoboy ought to be able to give a clear "no" in answer to that question, but you can't.
If you establish sleasy behaviour I am on side and would not be gentle in the way I called it.
Why? Because I reference a meaning that 95% of the population is aware of, although you claim to be ignorant of it?
James that dictionary had one meaning ..it only dealt with sex..nothing about cars, machinery or booze..it is a shit dictionary and search as I did every other dictionary dealt with machinery, some with booze, ..I am afraid that dictionary can only appeal to sicko....why did it not have anything re machinery, why did it only deal with a sexual thing...my guess is popularised.. I can just see dirty minded little folk looking up words in that dictionary..it does not represent community dictionaries in the least.
The whole point of this thread is to get some men to start thinking about what they say in reference to women and, probably more importantly, what they say directly to women.
Well I am doing my best to keep it rolling and somewhat playing the devils advocate given Paddo is gone but also injecting the notion that justice must be done fairly and not by survey or popular vote.
Your attitude is more like.. let's give him a fair trial and then we hang him...you can't get ahead of yourself and should focus on the fair trial bit not the hanging..bit..now you know me I am all for hanging wife bashers but after examining all the evidence...
To be brief, I think that your desire to put all the blame for sexism on the Church and Hollywood is naive and unsustainable
Read the research which completely contradicts that view.
Honestly James think it thru...say we found Paddo with drugs in his possession...we would ask him why but at some point we would ask...where did you get these drugs...now my bet is he won't say I made them myself but be able to point to a source...these beliefs that women are inferior just don't book into a blokes head..think of an average life..not that there is one ..however..the kid goes to church learns good things but the fact women don't get a look in must leave some impression..add to that they may come across the quotes l posted or may have been at Mommy's side as the priest told Mommy to suck it up.think about that for more than the time it takes for you to ignore it...and why do you ignore so many established facts?..can you not just think about the proppsition rationally.. perhaps read the research..aquaint yourself with the reality that Jews and the church of England are happyly adjusting to the problem you say is naive and unsustainable
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Why? Because I reference a meaning that 95% of the population is aware of, although you claim to be ignorant of it?
Of course you can't but please bring evidence to support your 95% claim.
In fact tell us how you arrived at that figure..link the paper perhaps.
James you are a decent chap and I hope that after dealing with me you will see the need not to make wild claims that you can't support other than to say you found them in your personal reality.
You are wrong and the longer you take to conceed the sillier you look..your arguement has the sophistication of " tis so"
Then you put up a dictionary that only lists lubricate in reference to sex..honestly what will the audience think of you?
at the expense of defending women
You are really grasping at straws...
Anyways I will think about all you have said and let us hope that passers by realise that they could do well to ask themselves if they are being unwittingly offensive, if they condemn folk without evidence and if their culture needs to be updated with the decent norms I think we both feel sound offensive, become common place.
I left the place. I found it hard enough to turn up but I will not be disrespected and left like a shag on a rock...I will now relax ...a whole day wasted...no lubrication in this state of mind.
So you don't feel bad..whether by design or accident both you and Bells are doing a wonderful job of providing a place to reach out to in these times...kicking you around I sadly find extremely satisfying ...and I forgot to buy guitar strings..honestly what is happening to me...keep up the good work.
Alex