To be clear: I have never suggested you are a sexual predator, which would be somebody who stalks women for the purposes of committing sexual crimes.
Sexual harassment is another matter. That is not necessarily about your intentions. It is about the perceptions of your victims.
Sometime in the past - a year or two ago, maybe - you may well have been able to argue that you weren't aware that certain behaviours by men are generally not welcomed by women and are considered sexist, offensive and/or sleazy. You can no longer run that argument. Now, every time you engage in such behaviours, you are knowingly acting in an immoral way. Those behaviours were not excused by your ignorance in the past, either, but now you're ramping the whole thing up to a different level because you're choosing to continue them while conscious that what you are doing is inappropriate.
Nobody has argued that calling somebody "luv", or asking for the extra virgin oil with a wink and nod, is equivalent to rape or physical assault. But those behaviours contribute to creating a culture that condones the kind of disrespect and objectification of women that makes those crimes more likely. Along the way, they make life uncomfortable for the women who put up with them, day in and day out, regardless of whether they ever register any formal complaint about them. That you're apparently fine with this makes you a bad person, paddoboy, regardless of what you'd like to think about yourself. There are plenty of worse men than you, but there are also plenty of better men than you, in this regard. You could be better, but you choose not to be. Why is that?
wegs is telling you the same thing that Bells and I are telling you. She is just being somewhat less confrontational about it. You're better disposed towards her than you are to Bells because you perceive wegs as conforming more closely to what you believe a women "ought to" be like. Which only means that you're seeking to impose your sexist values once again. You find it difficult to cope with a woman who will stand up to you forthrightly and tell you what is wrong with you directly to your face.
Your animosity towards me comes from a different place, which I think for you is a battle for alpha male status. You refuse to listen to me because your ego won't allow you to be lectured by me, even when you're clearly in the wrong. You'd probably feel a lot better, ultimately, if you just admitted I have a point and moved on with your life. The women who are obliged to interact with you would also appreciate that, I assure you, so it would be a win all around. Instead, we get this.
Either of us could ban you at any time. That's a fact. But you're still here. That is also a fact. Deal with it. Consider the possibility that there might be a better outcome here, for everybody, than banning you would achieve.
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