At what age sleepovers stop?
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If you stubble on your kids sleep over to find them naked and "manipulating" each other should you end sleep overs?
why? Did you have a bad experience at one as a child?
It just seems like an experience every child should have. I feel like not letting them have a sleep over is like never buying them a bike. :shrug:
my ldest is 16yrs and he still has his freinds to stay over for the nihgt, i still sleep over at my friends house aswell, and i am......36
It would have been more helpful if you told us how long your parents let your friends sleep over...
Maybe because the poster has 2 different set of ages and 2 different genders. I can see that this can be a problem, when the 6 years difference makes it difficult to mix kids up...
Do the 2 things happen at the same time? What your friend's parents think of your sleeping over?
I'm 17 anmd I went to a sleepover a while ago...
Well, it was called a sleepover, in practice it was more of a 'stay-up-til-5-laughing-and-being-hyper-over.
Well, it was called a sleepover, in practice it was more of a 'stay-up-til-5-laughing-and-being-hyper-over.
I don't get what is so bad about it unless you just don't want other kids in your house which would probably my greatest excuse. My brother and I are pretty far apart in age, but I don't really see a problem with mixing children of different ages. When my friends were over he would sort of hang around in the background until he got bored and when his friends were over I just avoided them. When there are big gaps in age I think there are few shared interests, unless you think your older kids might molest the younger ones or something like that
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I don't have kids but I never had sleepovers when I was one. My parents kept us rather isolated so I didn't have a lot of company, period, and I grew up to be too much of a loner.
Kids don't do sleepovers because they can't get home. They do sleepovers because sleepovers are fun. You must be like me, never had one yourself, so you don't understand what goes on in one!
It would have been so nice to have the experience, but our house was small and half of my room was taken up by my model railroad, so there was only space for my dog and me. They would have exploded if I suggested spending the night at someone else's house; they were way too protective and didn't trust anybody or their parents. I wasn't allowed to date until the summer I turned 16.
Kids are noisy. How did you make it this far through parenthood?
It's a social thing, you're just not getting it. Camaraderie, rites of passage, all that stuff.
You talk like you've forgotten what it was like to be a kid. I see that in a lot of parents, it must be an occupational hazard. They remember every stupid and dangerous thing they did, but not the fun they had, much less why it was fun. When you never have to be a parent it's easier to keep in touch with the child inside you.Syzygys said:
I remember once reading about a guy who was a master at designing toys and playground equipment. People always said, "But you don't have any children. How can you know what they like?" He said, "You don't seem to realize that I was once a child myself."
In college, in on-campus housing, it was pretty common to crash on the floor in somebody else's room during a bull session, or in the common area.
Um, that sort of thing hadn't quite gotten started in college housing in my day. I'm three years too old to be a Baby Boomer and I think they inaugurated the practice. But once we moved off campus, the Sexual Revolution had started and there were no rules.
Oh yeah. When I was in college and a bunch of us lived off campus in a rental, we had friends sleeping over all the time. I finally got to have the experience. In the era of the Flower Children, sleepovers sometimes lasted several days or weeks. Some people tolerated them so well and even enjoyed them that their homes became "crash pads." I had a friend who, as an adult with a job, every single time I went to her house, she had somebody new sleeping in her spare bedroom and a couple more in the living room. She just loved it.
The distinction between "putting a guest up" and "a sleepover" got pretty blurry. When I traveled sometimes I'd stay with friends in my sleeping bag, and there were other people there who lived in town and were just staying for the fun, and others who were there because they needed a place to stay. This was particularly common among musicians. The Grateful Dead model!
I am a light sleeper to. But come on let them have some fun. When they stay up until 6am or whatever it isn't a school night. I figure I just let them be and have fun, because it doesn't happen on a regular basis.
Sometimes in the summer they set up the big tent in the backyard and my 2 boys and his buddy come over and they sleep out there. They have the portable DVD player and Nintendo Ds, flashlights, snacks..... They have alot of fun.
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mixed sex sleepovers don't always end up as sex parties. In fact I think most of the time they don't.
I was not talking about mixed sex sleep overs: children of the same sex experiment with each other.
yep! Me and my girl cousins did. They were better at it than I was, so I think they practiced together.
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I knew of a few opposite-sex sleepovers among children young enough to live with their parents but old enough to be sexually mature--back in the 1970s, when a few people too old to be hippies were nonetheless compulsively enlisting their children into the Sexual Revolution. I'd be flabbergasted to find out that those children grew up and now provide such opportunities for their children.
Is any parent out there actually hosting opposite-sex sleepovers???
Now I ask, would you be willing to let that happen with your kids?
I was not saying any such thing! I was asking if others thought it should be prevented, if not I see no reason slumber parties need to be stopped at any age.
I hate when people say "it natural": dieing at age 40 from parasites from years of eating mammoth meat and living in a cave covered in your own waste is natural, making sweet love to your sister because she the only women for miles around is "natural", getting ass raped by the neighboring tribe, then murder, and then your sister/wife is now their sex slave is "natural". Your going to have to come up with a better excuse then "it natural" how about "it does no harm"?
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