Kittamaru said:
At present, it is not rape, and thus is not pertinent to this conversation...
Thirty-eight minutes of some man minimizing rape, and our neighbor can't comprehend that fraud might be offensive to the defrauded.
Thirty-eight minutes of advertising exploiting sensationalism so that we can hear a man tell us everything we need to know about rape.
A lazy topic post. Intellectual sloth. Apparently this aspect of the rape phenomenon is so important that she needs people to sit through thirty-eight minutes that she can't be bothered to distill in any way.
But first he's going to tell us something about parents selecting the sex of their child.
I find it interesting that we should consider it a mundane assertion that people would not find being defrauded offensive.
I think, however, that we could start making rape "just another assault", but alongside that, well, you know those people who teach sexual "virtue" to their children? Those people would need to be arrested and jailed for making too big a deal out of sexual immorality; the damage their confusion causes, when rape is "just another assault", is criminal. Furthermore, transforming rape into just another assault would mean anti-abortion people are evil for trying to prevent women from seeking medical attention to solve the injuries inflicted by this particular assault. They, too, will need to be jailed for aiding and abetting assaults.
But given the prominence he puts on "humiliation" as the factor that makes sexual violence "special", and maybe in his thirty-eight minutes he unpacks that somewhat so that it makes sense in some context other than a well-to-do male telling women about rape, but you know, that sort of thing wasn't important enough for our topic poster to explain, so no, I'm not sitting through thirty-eight minutes of the British petit-bourgeoisie telling women in India about rape.
Of course, the idea that the penis is a weapon would rise front and center; assault and battery? Sure, in the way that stabbing or shooting someone is. It's just that I don't see how getting rid of the word "rape" will make the actual phenomenon go away. Maybe Trooper would be happy if, like, we started calling all black people "whitey", and then black people would ... what, disappear? It's always interesting to watch people pick up a new tool and have exactly zero ideas about how it works and what it is used for.
There are, or course, similar processes between the characterization of rape as just another assault and the question of broken promises. In either case, that the question exists in the twenty-first century is by the will of men. We could have legislated for our daughters' virtue at any point over the centuries, but we didn't; either the virtue is a lie or too many men feel they'll lose too much if society goes in that direction. But as it is, the general tendency in societies of all developmental stages is to do what it can to protect the unwrit right of a man to get laid. The breadth of factors compressed into the question of broken promises is such that we really do enter the realm by which we can call a woman does owe a man sex because he bought dinner, and then we can turn around and call her a prostitute.
Many people think they've found a bauble of insight but fail to check it against the rest of the shards on the market. In the end, it becomes a question of specificity, such as inquiring why we might redefine
these specific issues so generally.
And it is morbidly entertaining, in a way. Under such a general circumstance I can actually think of a woman I know who would get burned in court for being a genuinely lousy lay. That is to say, No means no, and yes, you're supposed to stop even mid-thrust if she decides she's done, and we need not dispute these principles. But under the generalizing scheme our neighbor's rape-as-just-another-assault notion requires, yes, I can indeed see a circumstance that comes down to the court having to look at an alleged rape victim and say, "So ... when was the last time you actually got a guy off during sexual congress?"
Better yet, imagine a woman up on one of these assault charges:
She told me she was good in bed. And she's lousy. Just kisses the tip? Can't take a full thrust? Doesn't swallow, won't finish, and is verbally abusive about it all.
Yeah. Poor dude.
And, yes, I've had a lover like that. Go down, wait for her to tell you to penetrate, copulate for thirty seconds, then stop because she's done. After a while, it becomes routine. And in the end, 'tis better to simply admit that one's own hand is more stimulating, and stay the hell out of that particular bed. But dude, the number of women who could be brought up on fraud charges under such standards? And honestly, I'm pretty sure the solution
shouldn't be that our daughters need to learn how to deep throat.
It's almost like some people
want morbid comedy. Life itself is entertaining enough that we should not have to invent such dangerously farcical outcomes.
Hmph. Maybe it would be more functional if our neighbor actually proposed a scheme instead of thirty-eight minutes of,
Here, I'm incapable of expressing what I want to say, so watch this video and distill whatever it is I'm not able to tell you to distill.