To the contrary, it was all supposed to be the other way around. Read the postings to dozens of previous threads, here and elsewhere, the countless variations from water on the pathetic theme of the harm done to water, and not just by me, more so by jenyar and kotoko. How remarkably unfortunate, the way that the same story repeated itself over and over again, with each in turn accused of the same sort of cruelty. How horribly cruel it can be to tell the truth. According to what, I wonder? I would not have supposed so, but I should be glad in any case to have assisted in some way to achieve her sincerely stated intention. For some considerable time already she had promised herself to get on instead with school exams and a consequent thesis, matters more worthwhile, and if this is now the case, so much the better. Let us hope that she succeeds. That advice might better be directed elsewhere. I never posted a "Recovering after Relationships topic to a public forum. If you'd rather not encourage attention to personal grief, then don't. Please, by all means, shut up and mind your own business. Nobody here called for you or anybody else to comment in this fashion on a personal issue. --- Ron.