Pre marital Sex - Why or Why not?

Read OP first! Pre-Marital Sex, yes or no? [Explain Below]

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wynn said:
It depends on what one's values are.

How can two people be sexually incompatible, but be compatible in other ways? It is not possible.
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Sometimes it is better to get an education on a topic before you pontificate rather than the other way around. :eek:
 
scheherazade said:
Your questions do not resonate with my thought processes.

Calling me unintelligent, cowardly and Ms. Pokerface does not incline me toward investing considerable time and thought in debating your remarks.

There is an old saying, "You will catch more flies with honey than with vinegar."
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Ever considered what you call me??

Besides, I'm not interested in catching flies.
 
Bells said:
Of course it's possible.

Sometimes a couple can click in every other way except sexually.
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I suppose if things are kept nicely superficial ...

Of course, when one of them then falls sick and cannot have sex anymore, and the other betrays them or leaves them, this shows how much they "click" in every other way except sexually ...
 
wynn said:
I suppose if things are kept nicely superficial ...

Of course, when one of them then falls sick and cannot have sex anymore, and the other betrays them or leaves them, this shows how much they "click" in every other way except sexually ...
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Firstly that was very insensitive

Secondly not every relationship is based on sex, your relationship with your parents for instance and therefore that bonding occures in other ways (was reading something which says the same chemicals which cause pair bonding during sex are relaced in dogs when they are patted) however in pair bonding sex is an important part as it activates both the reward pathways AND the pair bonding ones (oxycotin for women and vasopressin for men). BTW just because i say pair bonding there is no reason why it couldn't be to more than one in a poligimist relationship. The pathways are the same in all mamals and most others and lots of animals such as lions bond with a group of females
 
Asguard said:
Firstly that was very insensitive
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Why?

Isn't your wonderful romantic relationship that includes a strong sexual component equipping you with emotional stability, maturity, stability and good reason to believe that it will be "in sickness and in health"?


New studies show that men are more likely to leave their partners who are terminally ill than women. The study focuses on the role that gender plays in partner abandonment.

According to the study, a woman is six times more likely to be faced with separation or divorce following the diagnosis of dreaded diseases such cancer or mutiple sclerosis than if it was the male partner who was diagnosed with it. According to the studies, people who are married longer also seem more resilient to "partner abandonment".
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The study also found connections between the rate of divorce and separation and the age and length of the marriage. According to the results of the study, older women were more likely to be left by their partners.

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The title of the study is "Gender Disparity in the Rate of Partner Abandonment in Patients with Serious Medical Illness", and was authored by Marc Chamberlain, M.D. (Seattle Cancer Care Alliance), co-authored by Michael Glanz, M.D. (Huntsman Cancer Institute).

http://www.divorceguide.com/divorce...likely-to-leave-sick-partners-than-women.html
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Secondly not every relationship is based on sex, your relationship with your parents for instance and therefore that bonding occures in other ways (was reading something which says the same chemicals which cause pair bonding during sex are relaced in dogs when they are patted) however in pair bonding sex is an important part as it activates both the reward pathways AND the pair bonding ones (oxycotin for women and vasopressin for men). BTW just because i say pair bonding there is no reason why it couldn't be to more than one in a poligimist relationship. The pathways are the same in all mamals and most others and lots of animals such as lions bond with a group of females
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Red herring.
 
Originally posted by Wynn

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Originally Posted by gmilam
Where did anyone even imply that being sexually compatible makes people compatible in every other way?
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Here:

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Originally Posted by scheherazade
The suggestion is that unless people are sexually compatible that they can't be compatible in other ways.
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I posted AFTER gmilam and you are not reading what I said correctly.

gmilam's question is valid.

Using my post as a counterargument after the fact is not.
 
wynn said:
Here:
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Originally Posted by scheherazade
The suggestion is that unless people are sexually compatible that they can't be compatible in other ways.
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Come on wynn, you've taken scheherazade's comment completely out of context. Her comment was made to your comment below.

wynn said:
It depends on what one's values are.

How can two people be sexually incompatible, but be compatible in other ways? It is not possible.
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I was replying to Bells, and then Sche appeared to disagree with me, and appeared to agree with Bells.
It appears they had the same stance, I then just quoted the most concise version of it, which was in Sche's post.


Do you agree with this

scheherazade said:
The suggestion is that unless people are sexually compatible that they can't be compatible in other ways.
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or not?
 
wynn said:
Here:
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I suggest you double check your reading comprehension. It doesn't say what you seem to think it says. Scheherazade's comment was on your absurd declaration that it's impossible to be compatible in other ways but incompatible sexually.
 
wynn said:
Fallen off your enlightenment mountain, again?
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Your arrogance and naivete is showing again, young man. :(

Just wanting to be an authority does not make you one. It is necessary to actually learn about these things in order to even converse with others rationally on a topic, let alone proffering instruction.

Your lack of experience in establishing and maintaining interpersonal adult relationships is painfully obvious. :eek:
 
Stoniphi said:
Your arrogance and naivete is showing again, young man. :(

Just wanting to be an authority does not make you one. It is necessary to actually learn about these things in order to even converse with others rationally on a topic, let alone proffering instruction.

Your lack of experience in establishing and maintaining interpersonal adult relationships is painfully obvious.
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Looked into the mirror recently, old man?
 
wynn said:
I suppose if things are kept nicely superficial ...
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I wouldn't know. Maybe you can enlighten us on being superficial? Since you appear to be the resident expert on it.

Of course, when one of them then falls sick and cannot have sex anymore, and the other betrays them or leaves them, this shows how much they "click" in every other way except sexually ...
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Wow wynn. I never knew you could be so bitchy.

Our lil' girl's all grown up.

But if that does happen, and I am sure in many instances it does, there are other underlying factors to the relationship that was failing.

Unless of course you are speaking from personal experiences, in which case you have my sympathy.

In my case there were other factors that led to the separation. Or is this your way to try to find out about my sex life with my husband? Who'd have thought you could be so kinky and bitchy. Quite a little package, aren't you? Like dumb and dumber all rolled into one.:) But nice try.
 
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THIS IS NOT A DISCUSSION FORUM.
REPEAT: THIS IS NOT A DISCUSSION FORUM.
Topics should not be discussed here. Everything should be made and taken personally.
This is not a discussion forum.

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wynn said:
Public notification:

THIS IS NOT A DISCUSSION FORUM.
REPEAT: THIS IS NOT A DISCUSSION FORUM.
Topics should not be discussed here. Everything should be made and taken personally.
This is not a discussion forum.

/Public notification.
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Come, come Wynn, at least own up to your bitchiness. Don't backtrack now!

You, knowing my personal circumstance, decided to bring it into this discussion with that snide little comment of yours. So don't back track. Own your bitchiness, dearie.
 
wynn said:
I suppose if things are kept nicely superficial ...

Of course, when one of them then falls sick and cannot have sex anymore, and the other betrays them or leaves them, this shows how much they "click" in every other way except sexually ...
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Marriages can fall apart for many reasons. Sometimes the reasons are not as they appear to the outside world. Judge not.
 
Bells said:
Come, come Wynn, at least own up to your bitchiness. Don't backtrack now!

You, knowing my personal circumstance, decided to bring it into this discussion with that snide little comment of yours. So don't back track. Own your bitchiness, dearie.
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You, too, need to adjust your sarcasm radar.

And I have nothing to "own up to."

It's some others who refuse to discuss the topic, and instead focus on ad hominems.


The reference to spousal abandonment that I posted had nothing to do with you.
My world does not revolve around you, sry.
 
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