Love
- Thread starter Mandana
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Use a baseball bat to take him down! 
What is the best way for a woman in love to approach her loved one?
Five minutes before his favourite television programme starts (if it's to ask a favour).
What is the best way for a woman in love to approach her loved one?
You should always approach naked and on all fours.
Is this someone who knows you?
Someone who knows how you feel?
Or at least has an inkling?
Or is it some guy who doesn't have a clue you exist and you're considering sauntering up and saying "Hi, I love you"?
If it's the latter I'd suggest you don't.
Unless you want him to become an Olympic sprint champion.
Someone who knows how you feel?
Or at least has an inkling?
Or is it some guy who doesn't have a clue you exist and you're considering sauntering up and saying "Hi, I love you"?
If it's the latter I'd suggest you don't.
Unless you want him to become an Olympic sprint champion.
Well, to get his attention and be loved back!
I'm sticking with my original answer then!
Depends how serious you are on the love part (as opposed to simply wanting sex). If you are too blatant, he may decide to exploit you for sex. Or reject you totally, as being too much of a tart. Or run scared. If you are focused seriously on love, you need to be more subtle.
Guys are always mainly attracted by looks. I do not know how you look, but most women can do something to make themselves look good. A smile and a "good morning" to show you are friendly does no harm.
If none of this works, then it is time to look elsewhere.
Guys are always mainly attracted by looks. I do not know how you look, but most women can do something to make themselves look good. A smile and a "good morning" to show you are friendly does no harm.
If none of this works, then it is time to look elsewhere.
Thanks for the serious! answers... I know him quite well and he knows me and knows how I feel a bit, but we have never met! This makes the situation so complicated. I can't bump into him anywhere either because he lives in a different country.I'm truly madly deeply in love... and it's not sex that I want, I don't want anything from him actually only attention to get to know me better.I'm not perfect but I'm beautiful and full of positive qualities... I just don't know how to let him know.
I'm truly madly deeply in love... and it's not sex that I want, I don't want anything from him actually only attention to get to know me better.I'm not perfect but I'm beautiful and full of positive qualities... I just don't know how to let him know.During half-time, and half-time only!.
But seriously...can you honestly be in love if you've never met?.
But seriously...can you honestly be in love if you've never met?.
Bells
Staff member
Thanks for the serious! answers... I know him quite well and he knows me and knows how I feel a bit, but we have never met! This makes the situation so complicated. I can't bump into him anywhere either because he lives in a different country.
You are in love with a man who is in another country and have never met him. You want his attention and want him to get to know you better - without ever meeting you in person.
How can you know him quite well when you have never met him in person?
The thing with the internet is that you only know him to the extent that he has told you about him (ie. He has let you know what he wants you to know and nothing more).
spidergoat
Valued Senior Member
Thanks for the serious! answers... I know him quite well and he knows me and knows how I feel a bit, but we have never met! This makes the situation so complicated. I can't bump into him anywhere either because he lives in a different country.
Skype
Cam to cam chat, I like where this is going... Giggity.
Ok ok, I'm not sure why you came to a science forum for this and not a relationship forum but what the hell I'll give it a go - Be direct, tell him how you feel. Men work best with the direct approach.
Follow it with Spidergoats idea of video chat. Get used to seeing them, their facial expressions, surroundings, talk extensively, be sure you can trust them, meet them somewhere public and see if you're still hitting it off because they will be slightly different in person.
You can't make him love you or notice you, either he will or he won't, take your time, if he cares it might show. Of course you can never know what he's up to behind your back.
And do not let yourself get too desperate. OK, it might already be too late. But the reality is that you might be a lot better off letting that guy go. The alternative may be pain far greater than anything you have felt so far. Always, always, be ready to walk away.
Bells
Staff member
Heh! I use skype to catch up with my relatives overseas and with friends who have moved overseas over the years.
You think?
If they've never met and he's hardly aware she exists don't you think "I love you" as a starter would be, er, frightening?
I had someone tell me they loved after she'd been my g/f for THREE days.
I was insulted, to be honest (after I'd got over the shock).
How much did she know about me (as opposed to what she thought she knew) as a person after 3 days?
Mandana, reverse the situation. How would YOU want someone to let you know how they felt if it were the other way round...