But why do we really do it, or want to?
In my current situation of being part cripple I set goals and tasks past my ability to have a good reason to get out of bed.
With my condition the easy option is to give up and just lay in bed to avoid the leg pain but I find it most satisfying to do my astrophotograghy as it has had me build two small observatories, each of which once would have only been a weekends work, but now I have to employ hoists, rollers levers and much time to do very ordinary tasks.
The setting up of an astrophotograghy rig is also beyond my capability and yet I chip away and get it done..things like the processing is so taxing on my now limited brain power and motivation but when I look at what I have achieved I somehow feel life is better than ever before.
I am now setting up another observatory, which was erected by the guy who sold it to me but in it I am setting up a 16 inch telescope that most guys won't tackle, not because of the price of the thing, but because the long focal length means you have to be very dedicated to get the mount to track without leaving round stars in your image. Frankly I am not confident that I can do it but at least I know I will have tried ...and if I can make it work maybe offer encouragement to others.
Young Pluto needs to get out and do stuff. I could have ended up like him..seeing only defects that are hard to accept and just giving up.
I am 73, poorly educated, spend many days in a wheel chair or immobile so it would be no shame to go into the old folks home and start dieing.
I talk to strangers, and at first they see an old cripple but it's not long before I find I have someone who would like me as a friend and I put it down to my positive attitude..certainly not my appearance.
Pluto only needs to become active and not worry that others may see him as unattractive, which I doubt would be the case...you only have to go to a shopping center to realise there are very few attractive people...He should get a hobby and I would suggest astronomy..you get out a lot, you have to do stuff and you can do it alone...and showing my images via my phone to check out girls is better than carrying a puppy.
And get fit, exercise makes you feel better and look better..I still exercise but I mostly do it laying down, but you can have some weights by the bed...I do sit ups when getting out of bed...knee bends while I wait for the kettle to boil..every little thing helps...not only helps physically but helps push your motivation when it become stuck.
I wish for his sake he could pull himself out of the hole he has dug for himself...I hate to see people failing because they talk themselves into it.
And self talk..I am getting stronger, my memory is getting better, my legs are getting better...even I am losing weight and looking better..it works..it works so wonderfully well..you need to avoid all negative talk..even when I am in pain I remember to say to myself ..it could be worse..it's not as bad as it was...your mind will believe it.
Alex