If you meant that they leave at different times in the moving frame; that's fine, I never claimed otherwise. I also don't see how that's an issue?
Yes, I meant that they accelerate at two different times according to the moving frame, and I'm glad you agree. This means that one accelerates before the other, according to the moving frame.
The importance of this issue is as follows: Whatever age Alice might be (according to the moving frame) when one of them accelerates, she will not be the same age (according to the moving frame) when the other one accelerates. "Different times" means that time must elapse between the time the two guys accelerate, and Alice must age during that elapsed time.
Note that this fully invalidates your argument that Bob's calculated result for Alice's age,
immediately after he accelerates into the moving frame, should be equal to Charlie's calculated result for Alice's age,
immediately after he accelerates into the moving frame.
Since that is not the case in SR, there is no reason to expect it to be the case in CADO either.
Let's look at the moment right after CADO_T=CADO_H. All three people agree that Alice is 40 years old. Then the two guys accelerate.
You and I seem to have no problem agreeing that Bob,
immediately after he accelerates, would calculate that Alice is 40 years old. Of course, immediately after he accelerates, he is in the moving frame, not the home frame anymore.
But you and I do seem to have a little problem agreeing that Charlie,
immediately after he accelerates, could possibly calculate that Alice is some age other than 40 years old. Of course, immediately after he accelerates, he is in the moving frame, not the home frame anymore.
Your requirement that both Charlie and Bob should calculate the SAME age for Alice,
immediately after each one has accelerated into the moving frame, even though you agree these events happen at different times according to moving frame, would result in them perpetually being in disagreement about her age, even though they are both in the same frame. In case you still don't see the reason why, please consider your earlier statement:
"If you meant that they leave at different times in the moving frame; that's fine, I never claimed otherwise. I also don't see how that's an issue?"