I mean there must be something physical...there must be something like an ether
After giving that some thought, I now can see [I think] where my thoughts on spacetime as possibly being the ether is wrong.With your ether comment, I would ask, could spacetime itself be inferred as the ether? If one feels the need. Why not, I ask?
The ether of Michelson and Morley fame, was thought of as an absolute frame of reference by which you can measure the speed of light against, which such an ether would have provided.
The framework of spacetime, on the other hand, are variable concepts that can be warped, curved, twisted and waved.