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S.A.M. said:
I'm guessing there is more to it than that.
Well, obviously, but we're not privy to every detail. I remember, when I was fourteen, a girl I knew from school died under mysterious circumstances. A number of circumstances ended up making her emblematic of what is wrong with American society, among them an interesting assertion made by her pastor that she was a "normal" kid. She was what we might, in contemporary parlance, call an "at-risk youth". Normal kids are rebellious, to be sure, but generally weren't smoking, doing meth (in the 1980s), and going on random road trips with enabling adults to steal cars. She was, as we used to say at the time, a "rocker slut". The presence (or, as you would suggest, absence) of religion cannot be blamed as a prime suspect. Nor is it useful to point out that the family had religion that didn't do a damn thing to save her life. Indeed, they could pretend that she believed and was thus saved, even if it isn't true, but more important is the question of how she came to such a state. I cannot say she was an
abused child, but I do think it safe to suggest some manner of neglect in order for things to get so far out of hand.
And so it probably was with the teenage Satanic rebellion. As the Bible reminds (Proverbs 22.6), bring up a child in the way he should go, and he will not depart from it. Perhaps this seems naive in the face of adolescent rebellion, but I'm not the only one who sees the imprint of those lessons in the outcomes of revolt. Hollie Atkinson, of the Families Matter Ministry, wrote in 2004:
The Bible speaks of "training a child in the way he should go and even when he is old he will not depart from it" (Proverbs 22:6). Traditionally we have understood this PRESCRIPTIVELY. We have perceived this verse as a promise, i.e., if you do "X" then "Y" will happen. I think we should understand this verse DESCRIPTIVELY. Descriptively, this verse speaks of the powerful influence of parental training. "Train a child and he/she will never be able to get away from that training."
Children may and often do choose a different "way" from that to which they were directed by their parents. We are all free moral agents and responsible for the choices we make. But parental training is so powerful that in order to choose a different way, the child has to go against everything their instincts tell them is the right way - the correct way.
The fact is, "train a child in the way he should not go and when he is old he will still be effected by that training." Adult children of alcoholic parents and dysfunctional homes can testify to this truth. Children never get a way from their training. Sometimes they overcome a terrible "bringing up," but they never completely "depart from it." A child brought up in the way he should go may reject that way, but they will never completely get away from it.
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So of course there's more to it than that, but an adolescent rebellion featuring Satanism and murder owes more to Mom and Dad than it does to Anton Szandor LaVey or King Diamond.
Thats true for pretty much anything the mass media and government teaches them.
This goes beyond mass media. Well beyond. It's a pervasive, dishonest myth whose advocates over time have included the media, to be certain, but also politicians, parents, schoolteachers and, not surprisingly, the clergy.
So you don't believe in God.
Look, even accepting as I do the existence of something called God, it's not a matter of belief.
In principle, it's a
right. But, because of the conduct of my society's myriad religious zealots, it becomes a privilege.
If it makes you feel better to call the parents liars and oppressors, so be it.
You know, it depends on the parents. You are, obviously, looking at this with tainted eyes, as your next sentence makes clear:
If, by any chance, your daughter does grow up to be religious, she may have the same thoughts about your attempts to have her grow up atheist.
This is where you tread into bigotry, S.A.M. Please tread carefully.
The point is not to condition her for atheism, but to not condition her for supremacist ideologies and religious bigotry.
The question of religion is its own. It is my intention that she should be free to make her own decisions about religion and belief when she is old enough to do so. This, however, is utterly unacceptable to her maternal grandparents. It also seems to unsettle you a certain amount, although that
might have to do with the observable fact that you are responding to your own construction of what I'm trying to tell you, and not what I'm actually saying.
Can you understand a simple difference? While I don't particularly want my daughter to be a Christian, I'm aware that she might choose to be one someday, anyway. I can't stop this, but neither am I willing to construct circumstances intended to forcibly compel her to adopt such a faith. I consider this far different from people who are willing to lie in order to forcibly compel her to adopt such a faith. She might also decide, someday, to be an atheist, or a Buddhist, or even a Muslim. And that's fine with me. But it's
not fine with her maternal grandparents. And her
mother is content to pretend that her parents are telling the truth about not preaching or evangelizing because she has a financial interest in the outcome: a house. Mommy and Daddy bought her a house, so she will pretend that teaching Bible songs, stories, and principles at the exclusion of all else is not preaching or evangelizing.
Indeed, she campaigned on her parents' behalf to have my daughter put into a Seventh-Day Adventist school. And she said something amazing in that discussion, that it would be better to immerse my daughter in religion
now than to expose her to it later, when she is older and unable to defend herself against evangelization. If you don't perceive the absurdity in that argument, we can certainly run it by our neighbors and maybe even take a poll.
But, yes, seriously, I have had that conversation. After a while, one is left wondering what people
won't say in order to get what they want.
Its the nature of rebellion that it must needs have an oppressor.
Indeed. One of my parental hypotheses is that if my daughter is raised without subscribing to every common myth in society, that the
form of what seems inevitable will be different. I'm aware that this could backfire horribly, but we'll never know unless someone takes the chance, and, to be certain, the possibility that such an outlook brings a
positive outcome is absolutely unacceptable to her mother's side of the family.
You seem to be constantly projecting your own feelings onto your daughter. Why?
Not just mine, S.A.M. I've watched this process happen in many of my generation.
We'll skip out of order for a moment because it's relevant:
Again you seem to be projecting your experiences(which sound like the nihilism of athiesm to me) on the rest of the religious world.
Perhaps in a prior age, the breaking of myths was less common. But in today's world, it is becoming nearly inevitable that parental conditioning in myth will be challenged. The magnitude of the information exchange today, compared to a hundred years ago, is exponential, even mind-boggling.
I would not be so arrogant as to presume that I can prevent my daughter from rebelling. Indeed, I see the teenage rebellion as part of one's psychological and intellectual development.
The nihilism of atheism you describe is one that coincides with a transition
away from religious myths. Among my generation, at least, the people I know who avoided a nihilist phase altogether, or merely engaged it as an academic or intellectual exercise are those who didn't have as far to fall when their myths broke. In other words, they weren't twisted into form, psychologically blackmailed into believing grand ideas purporting to affect them beyond the stake of life itself.
While nihilism is not necessarily an inevitable component of one's intellectual or psychological development, certain circumstances can raise its likelihood to something near to unavoidable. At that point, the only way around it is to seal a person off entirely behind a wall of bigotry and myth. And I'm pretty sure that you object to the most common outcomes when that happens.
And we don't have to invoke suicide bombers to make the point. We merely need to point to theocrats and even those activists who would boycott Disney films because two lions playing in the dirt is apparently a deliberate attempt to subvert our children with homoerotica.
(Yes, that objection did come about. From the Wildmon camp. Seriously, I could not make that up.)
Potential alternative being the glories of atheism, I suppose. Because it so clearly is the better alternative.
Anyone who cannot fathom this message is lost and needs be saved, I suppose.
Whats with all theists and atheists in the west needing to evangelize their beliefs so incessantly?
Something about projection goes here. Again, you tread in the realm of bigotry, S.A.M.
As to the theists, many of them are instructed by their chosen God to go forth and evangelize. The atheists? Well, they're a diverse bunch, but given that asserting that children should be spared religious coercion so that they can decide for themselves when they're ready is denounced as "evangelizing atheism", I would suggest that you and many other theists need to take some time and examine, rationally, what your words equal.
I think the American experience is an excellent example of what lack of spiritual growth and replacing it with materialism can do for a people.
Take it up with the evangelicals, S.A.M. The vast majority of American Christians violate regularly one of the Ten Commandments. A significant portion—perhaps a majority—of American evangelical churches violate the teachings of Jesus on a regular basis (divorce and remarriage). Here, read this scathing parody by Betty Bowers:
Even a cursory reading of the New Testament reveals that Jesus was inexplicably on some sort of weirdly austere poverty trip. This would be a really annoying stumbling block for His followers if they actually paid any attention to what He says. For example, He seems to think there is something good about being poor. Hello? But, then again, what would you expect from someone born in a stable and -- quite obviously -- still dealing with class-resentment issues? Now, I'm not talking about "try to down-grade to business class once in a while to show some humility!" No, Jesus actually has the temerity to require His acolytes to "give away their worldly possessions." Can you imagine? ....
.... Reverend Dollar (with a name any sitcom writer would dismiss as "too obvious") of World Moneychangers, oops, I mean World Changers Ministries of Atlanta has found it in his heart to not only ignore Jesus' silly attachment to poverty, but to teach that Jesus actually wants us to be very rich! Now, that is a preacher Mrs. Bowers can certainly follow! Can I hear an "amen"? I thought as much!
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Betty Bowers)
Take off your zealot-colored glasses for a moment, please, and actually take a look at the state of religion in the United States.
Especially the influential evangelical Christians.
Don't try for a minute to blame the actions and decisions of a vast majority (theists) on the presence of a minority (atheists) who only recently have been able to assert themselves at all.
Don't forget that you're not the only ones occupying other peoples and their lands, beginning at home.
Okay, S.A.M., I won't.
And you've found someone to blame for it.
I'll leave that for you to either explain or not, as you see fit.
I doubt it. I'm pretty sure those who direct the masses are most likely to be athiests and the social anarchy, incipient individualism and lack of personal and social satisfaction are inevitable.
You know, one of the jokes I make about why Americans hate Muslims is that our Christians resent that Islam has not gone entirely apostate.
Christianity in the United States is riddled with dysfunction. You cannot look at the vicious capitalists who wield so much influence and necessarily call them atheists. On the one hand, many—even most—of them are, indeed, religious. To the other, there is a long-established connection between the "Protestant ethic" and the "spirit of capitalism". In fact, Weber's famous book is
online these days.
Not all the religious people I know are monotheists. In fact, if are talking India, I'd say very few of the religious people I know are monotheists.
Basham, in
The Origins and Development of Classical Hinduism, asserts in the early pages, that henotheism is common among Hindus. If you wish to go beyond that to polytheism, we might consider the point that polytheism is sublimated monotheism.
If you would like to inform, then do so. If you would prefer to anti-identify, I won't try to stop you, but anti-identification in general fosters inaccurate perceptions, suggestions, and conclusions.
However, it is enough to note at this time that my primary concern is, indeed,
redemptive monotheism. Coercing belief at the stake of an immortal soul is just a bit sinister, S.A.M. Perhaps you've missed my free-will analogy, which really is rather savage. But, essentially, to pretend that a decision to accept the faith made under duress is free will means that a woman who chooses to stop fighting instead of get knifed in the chest consents to sexual intercourse, and therefore isn't raped.
And since I reject the proposition that consent given at knifepoint suffices to acquit the accused rapist, so also do I reject the proposition that faith under duress is accepted as a matter of free will.
The problem arises from the
redemptive aspect. By asserting an undemonstrable stake more valuable than life itself, and then conditioning a mind to believe in it, one corrupts that mind's ability to process certain information rationally.
Considering their history, I would say God is not the uppermost on their minds, though like other self indulgences such as"liberty", "freedom" and "equality", the pretence is absolute.
You're treating the Christian experience in the United States remarkably simplistically. What you note is, in large part, the result of the very conditioning I object to. People are accepting faith because they are groomed in such a manner to predispose them to acceptance. They are not coming to faith through rational consideration. They are unprepared to deal with many of the issues life puts before them, thus allowing and even encouraging self-indulgence of all manner.
I do not think the average Indian outlook can in any way be defined as supremacism.
Good for them. It's an interesting change of subject.
You're an atheist to Christianity. Its what you would think.
Selective atheism? That's awesome.
Show me a religious experience that does not involve psychological blackmail, and I probably don't oppose it.
Think of it this way: Is a Christian an "atheist to Hinduism"? Is a Wiccan an "atheist to Christianity"? Is a Christian an "atheist to Islam"?
Retreating to the rhetoric of bigotry, despite any pretense you might have to the contrary, does not help your argument.
And I believe you. I would only ask that you act like it.
I come from a pragmatic society, so your descent into hyperbole is puzzling and seems rather over the top to me.
Descent into hyperbole? I'm trying to meet you on your terms. If I have to descend into hyperbole in order to do so, we might then wonder why you've set such a low standard.
I would suggest that you are responding to a situation with which you are somehow unfamiliar. You seem to be treating the reality of many people's experiences with religious faith as some sort of propaganda. Accept that religion has done a lot of harm to a great many people. Show some human sympathy for those who have survived, and acknowledge at least those who haven't. Show that you understand there is a reason why people are growing hostile toward mythologies that shoot up trains, blow up buildings, and aim to overthrow the freedom to be rational.
The effects of a religion are more real, S.A.M., than the cosmic and divine promises. And people are responding to these effects.
Well you're clearly tortured over the whole process.
Sisyphus is happy, m'lady. Sisyphus is happy.
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Notes:
Atkinson, Hollie. "Train Up A Child". Salon.com. Updated September 17, 2004. http://blogs.salon.com/0003213/stories/2004/09/17/trainUpAChild.html
Bowers, Betty. "Friend-Of-Our-Lord: Creflo Dollar". BettyBowers.com. http://www.bettybowers.com/fool3.html
See Also:
Weber, Max. The Protestant Ethic and the Spirit of Capitalism. http://xroads.virginia.edu/~HYPER/WEBER/cover.html