I guess my real question is why does the wave probability collapse in the same way for all observers? You typically don't have 2 people looking at the result of an observation and seeing 2 different results.
The state of a system in a quantum superposition is expressed mathematically something like this:
state = aA + bB
Here, A and B are what are called
eigenstates of the system. (This example uses two eigenstates, but other systems might have many more eigenstates). When a measurement is made of the system, the eigenstates are the only possible observations that the measurement can output. The a and b are numbers that express, roughly speaking, the probability that any measurement on the system will result in outcomes A or B.
Applying this to the cat, the initial state might be something like:
cat = (50%)Alive + (50%)Dead
When somebody opens the box, that's the equivalent of making a measurement of the state of the system. The only possible (mutually exclusive) outcomes in this case are Alive or Dead, and in this example the chance of each outcome is the same.
A quantum measurement produces a random outcome that is
weighted according to the probabilities in the initial state (in this case, the numbers a and b, both 50% in the cat example). But the measurement also does something else: it
changes the state to whatever the outcome of the measurement was. For instance, if somebody opens the box and sees a live cat, then the state immediate becomes:
cat = (100%)Alive
We could, at this point, write
cat = (100%)Alive + (0%)Dead,
but since there's no chance at all now that the cat is dead, there's no need to write the part with the "Dead" state.
In a typical quantum system, after this particular measurement the quantum state of the cat could continue to evolve according to the usual laws of physics, so that at some later time we might get back to something like
cat = (70%)Alive + (30%)Dead,
hypothetically. However, in the example of Schrodinger's cat, the experiment is set up in such a way that the decay of a
single radioactive quantum particle is linked to the fates of literally
billions upon billions of particles that make up the macroscopic cat. When that initial measurement is made, there's a cascade effect that goes on. Those billions upon billions of particles lose that special quantum connectedness they had before, and whatever happens to them afterwards, we can be confident that a macroscopic "Alive" state will never spontaneously evolve back to some superposition of "Alive" and "Dead", at least while measurements (observations) are being continuously made on the system (the cat).
There are lots of arguments that go on about what "counts" as a measurement of a quantum system, and opinions on that vary. But it is clear that a superposition state
always collapses to one of its eigenstates, and
all observers always agree on which one it collapsed to.
As I tried to explain, one you open the box, all observers can see for themselves whether the cat jumps out or lies there dead. So there is no wave function any more. The wave function expresses the probability distribution of the state. No probability distribution, no wave function. That's what is meant by "collapse".
It's not
quite right that there's no wave function. I'd prefer to say that the wave function simply becomes equivalent to one of the eigenstates, rather than being, as it was before, a superposition of several eigenstates.