A question for doctors (tubal ligation)

For a 21 year-old woman with two children, she might choose to do it because she wants to give the children she already has the best future possible without relying on government assistance or burdening her family. The responsible thing to do would be to get a tubal ligation.
 
I already have two children. I asked to get a tubal ligation six months ago, but was told by the doctor that it was a bad idea, because I might want more children in the future and will regret it. So I continued with birth control, and found out today I am no longer qualified for the health program I'm in (as I was getting the birth control shot from the pharmacy). This is what I feared six months ago, after reading about different programs getting cut from funding.

So, let's hope condoms or abstinence will keep me from getting pregnant. If it was so easy, there would be no need for birth control programs for women my age. Unintended pregnancy among women (especially young ones) wouldn't be such a problem.

Or I can find someone with Chlamydia or Syphilis, have sex with him, and not get treated until AFTER my reproductive organs become too damaged to work again. Heck, most women don't even notice the symptoms before it's too late. Great Plan B.
 
Good for you for being a responsible young mother.

Have you tried Planned Parenthood?

Also, I would go to your health department in your county. No one will be denied on their inability to pay, and there's no shame in that.
 
No shame at all. I did it after my first son when I couldn't afford much.

But now that I can afford it, I still don't want any more kids and getting plugged (I have essure implants which are not reversible) was the best thing that happened to my love life in a long long time.
 
People who don't want children shouldn't have to risk having one.

If you change your mind later, you can adopt. Case closed.
 
Exactly. Social services like the health department are for young people who are getting things together! I'm using school services for my BC for free right now.
 
The program I was in was through the health department. But I have contacted Planned Parenthood and have an appointment scheduled on the 24th. Birth control wont be free, but the charge will be based on my income. Hopefully that wont make things difficult, since I have a feeling that's why I was kicked out of the other program to begin with. They have these stupid guidelines predicting what I can and cannot afford.

And I am by no means responsible. If I was, I wouldn't have two children.
 
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Well hun, we all (myself included) have made mistakes. You live and you learn and you get past it. You'll be stronger for it in the long run, that's for sure. You definitely have a good head on your shoulders now.
 
OverTheStars said:
The program I was in was through the health department. But I have contacted Planned Parenthood and have an appointment scheduled on the 24th. Birth control wont be free, but the charge will be based on my income. Hopefully that wont make things difficult, since I have a feeling that's why I was kicked out of the other program to begin with. They have these stupid guidelines predicting what I can and cannot afford.

And I am by no means responsible. I was was, I wouldn't have two children.
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Well, I've never made a single mistake EVER and no one else has either. What the hell's wrong with you? Are you human or something? :D

Seriously, I've made some atrocious mistakes in my time. I don't think you've done anything unforgivable. Pregnancies and children happen. You made the best decision for you at the time.

I'm going to urge you to talk to both the health department and PP if it's too expensive and explain your situation. Go to social services and see if you can get some support; fill out a FAFSA form and go back to school. There is absolutely nothing wrong with using government aide like EBT cards and WIC and money for school and childcare and healthcare if you're bettering yourself. You'll pay it back as a productive citizen. That's what these programs are for.

Liebling said:
Well hun, we all (myself included) have made mistakes. You live and you learn and you get past it. You'll be stronger for it in the long run, that's for sure. You definitely have a good head on your shoulders now.
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Exactly.
 
I just can't understand why I was denied the tubal ligation. I can't imagine why the doctor thought it would be in my best interest to have the option of having more children available. I'm at high risk of getting pregnant again. Now that I'm no longer covered by that program, the option is completely out of reach.

I even asked the doctor if she knew anyone who would do the procedure on me, and she said she'd call me back. I guess no one in my State believes in it? It's outrageous.
 
OverTheStars said:
If a twenty-one year old girl came to you asking for a tubal ligation, would you refuse? What if she already has two children? In most cases, a doctor would refuse to preform the procedure because of the chance that the woman may one day want children. But if she already has children at her young age, who would it benefit if she has another pregnancy?

As far as I know, there is a reverse procedure for tubal ligation for women who changed their mind, and want children again.

So would you do it?
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It is stupid. I had a vasectomy when I was 29 because of several reasons, besides the fact that I don't want to be around kids. The doctor was very reluctant to do it because I didn't have children. I have talked to others in the same predicament when doctors either refuse or give them a lecture. I have no regrets about it either. When my wife and I met, she was also thrilled when she found out about it.

The problem you have afterwards is the horror and shock idiots display when they find out that you don't have and don't want kids. People act like it is a duty to have kids and if you don't, what's wrong. I have had people act like it is a mortal sin. STUPID!

For men, you still have to have checkups every now and then to make sure you are still sterile. I do my own. All you need is a 400x microscope and some slides to see if anything is swimming!
 
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