How many sexual partners is too many??????
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The past doesn't matter. What matters is that the person is here and now. I never ask about people's dating history because it is absolutely irrelevant and a private matter. Anyway, such a question would inevitably spark a sad conversation; you don't want that in the beginning of a relationship and later on you don't care.
Jealousy is a sign of depression and a lack of confidence. That's a big turn-off.
Jealousy is a sign of depression and a lack of confidence. That's a big turn-off.
CuriousBioGirl
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For me I only love one guy, so he would be my only sexual partner. <3
I'm kind of old fashioned where if you're in a relationship with someone you should only have sex with that one person, but I'm sure there are some couples out there who don't mind having multiple sex partners.
I'm kind of old fashioned where if you're in a relationship with someone you should only have sex with that one person, but I'm sure there are some couples out there who don't mind having multiple sex partners.
I am the same. I never had a girlfriend in my life. I am 20 and waiting for that special girl...
...they tell me around here (sciforums) that I should just go have sex with any girl, but I can't...it's not right. :bawl: but...I can't wait anymore.
In point of fact, if you were truly "old fashioned," as you say, you would not be having sex with someone just because you're "in a relationship" with him or her. You would be having sex with your spouse only.
I'm not the only one here who thinks porn is good. Just because I'm female, I shouldn't like it? :shrug:
I never said cheating was ok. EVER!!! I know I'm not the only person who ever thought 'as long as you end the relationship immediately' it wasn't cheating. I have found out otherwise. Everyone involved has moved on, except you! I swear, I will pay for your theraphy...I hear it helps people.
And unlike you, I haven't said a word about how many men I've been with or what length their dicks were required to be. For you to say that people who don't tell must be ashamed is insecure, judgemental, 'holier-than-thou' moralistic blather. I left my ivory tower decades ago. Maybe some people need to know, so that they feel better about what they consider their failures. If I slept with 2 I can sit in judgement on those who slept with 5. Right?
You forgot to bring up the fact that I talked about the evolutionary need of orgasms and the thread about anal sex. Maybe your next post?
i have no problem with porn, unless the people taking part are 18 plus. And in some cases porn can help a loving relationship, after having hysterectomy in 2006 i didnt want sex at all, couldnt even stand to think about it, and my Dr told me to watch a porn film with my husband.
it doesnt matter if a woman has slept with 10 men or 100 men, and likewise it shouldnt matter if the man has slept around aswell. People have open relationships and they work just fine. Has long has the other person knows who she/he has been with.
Why do you completely rule out a relationship with any meaning?
Anyone who is counting previous sexual partners has a skewed concept of love, IMO.
A persons past makes them who they are, thats the person you are attracted to or plan to spend your life with. Holding them accountable for a past is like saying, I like you but I dont like what made you you. That is strange to me.
That being said, bestiality and/or necrophilia plus a tendency to slit throats would make me reconsider.
A persons past makes them who they are, thats the person you are attracted to or plan to spend your life with. Holding them accountable for a past is like saying, I like you but I dont like what made you you. That is strange to me.
That being said, bestiality and/or necrophilia plus a tendency to slit throats would make me reconsider.
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Really? So you're telling me that anyone (I'm one of them) that doesn't want to date a person because they have slept with a bunch of people*, is wrong? The last time I checked, everyone has a right to their own opinion.
Funny, mortgage companies will hold you accountable for your credit history. Don't belive me, go try to get a mortgage (or one with a good interest rate) with a shitty credit history, and see what they tell you.
Now, if someone does know about someone's past, is ok with it and dates that person anyway, then more power to them. Some don't mind a cemetery in their significant other's closet. I do.
It seems like with your statement, Sam, that you would have no problem dating a former porn star that has had unprotected sex with hundreds of women?
*Sorry, but I feel that a girl (excluding prostitutes; different situation) who has slept with a shitload of people usually has self-esteem issues.
Seriously, if a woman cares that little about herself to just give herself away to everyone, why would I want to date her? (i.e. if her partner count is equivalent to every year she's been alive, IMO, that's way too many).
People have a lot of issues, self esteem is just one of them. If you are attracted to such people, that probably reflects your issues, doncha think?
I find that such people usually invite dishonesty in later partners (oh you left that girl cos she slept with too many men? hmm better not let on about that train I pulled with the football team then)
Most girls don't let on anyway, so you can be safe in what you dont know.
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I agree 100%. But sometimes those 'issues' don't surface in the beginning.People have a lot of issues, self esteem is just one of them. If you are attracted to such people, that probably reflects your issues, doncha think?
Well I think if I was dating a girl and let's say I wasn't worried about her past before and didn't ask her about her past, and she 'volunteered' to tell me one day, then I shouldn't get all worked up about it (unless she was a former prostitute).
Now, if the subject came up early on, then I found out she lied, then yes, she'd get kicked to the curb faster than a Pele' soccer ball.
And I honestly think I'd throw up if I found out a girl I was dating threw a train with any team.
Some guys actually don't mind, but I'm pretty sure that promiscuity bothers most guys. Most girls also realize that 'sleeping around' bothers guys, yet some will fuck everyone anyway, then downplay their partners to any future guy she dates. If she's so ashamed of it, then why do it to begin with?
How does the subject come up? Is it just "Oh hey, how many have you slept with?" or "Can I tell you about every single sex partner I've ever had?"
Maybe that's why I don't talk about it. Nobody has ever asked me and I've and never asked anyone. Why do people ask?
Maybe that's why I don't talk about it. Nobody has ever asked me and I've and never asked anyone. Why do people ask?
Because people know from past experience that they are off putting?
I don't think girls are "ashamed" of their past in the way you imagine, mostly they don't let on out of consideration for the delicate sensibilities of guys. Girls are more pragmatic about sex than guys, for them experimentation is probably related to other emotional issues rather than a desire to shag everything in sight. Besides, for women, a relationship is more about what she needs and she'll keep on looking if she's unhappy.
I would suggest everyone interested in this subject watch Kevin Smith's Chasing Amy. Its as good a treatment of this subject as I have ever seen.
And a guy that's slept with "shitloads" of women has self-esteem issues?
I realised I missed this.
He would have to more than the sum of his porn star past to get my attention. For example, if he did it as a way to put himself through school, I would consider it a pragmatic decision; though I would presume that he would have the intelligence to protect himself. Beyond that, it would not concern me.
agreed!!
has long has the guy/girl has been sensible and been using contraception what differance does it make