I'm sure you've all heard of word association, yes? Good- think on this. In experiments the same response is given to different words- both the words sex and father, for example, would make a victim of incest wince when repeated at intervals. Jung called this a “perseveration” of the instinct or reaction, and we see it in a watered down form among lovers who find that everything triggers a memory of their loved one. As cute and romantic, where lovers are concerned, it is still a psychic disturbance. “Sometimes a complex will become associated with certain words which, although seemingly neutral and unrelated, are in fact linked to an underlying disturbance. Moreover, sometimes a person will draw attention to an underlying emotional problem by using or repeating certain words or phrases which, when linked together, hint at its existence.”- from his Archetypes Here we are concerned with the lover who suffers this disturbance in silence, either conscious of it or not he is infected. He is driven to make patterns in his conversation or behavior that act as pointers which he uses to drive our attention (or his) towards the illness, and by doing so he alleviates the sadness or loneliness that comes with it. Its the earmark of the so called ‘hopeless romantic’- the man either burns with desire or the indignity of loneliness and we find him uttering these love words sporadically as something like psychic balm for his malady. Instead of the purpose being that of edifying the object of his love with the words he uses concerning it ( I love you pathologies) , his selfish, mildly unconscious motive is that of redeeming the chill of that sadness inside; it alleviates his condition with the warmth these words carry and the images they provoke. This or we find that this practice of repetition gladdens our subject because it verifies his competence in being a Romeo. For every conviction, for every second or hour that he spends dissecting his feelings the specter of love comes alive again and into his lonely world it injects those feelings of hope, desire, faith and anticipation that without a human is rendered sterile. Or confused and frustrated. Even if his mistress never yields, the experience has granted him the theater he thrills in, where "thrill" is either a rapture or torture depending on our human’s purpose and nature. Therefore, his thoughts and feelings, the very words he uses to express them are not as much the agents he utilizes for clarity and meaning as something like arrows he shoots at his object- they are more like the opiates he uses on himself.