Yes, telling women that you just want to be friends will make you a loser. They will take this that you are unable to perform in bed. Or that you lack the confidence that you can perform well in bed and she will leave you, and that you think she would be the kind of person to do that. Or that you are just playing some kind of games to trick her that you actually desire a successful relationship and not sex. Or that she just isn't attractive enough for you and that you don't want to be with her in that way because of the way she looks. The reason will never be that you actually want to get to know them first and then determine if you are right for each other, unless you are a Bible thumping Priest or minister. Then this even has its downsides, they could feel that they don't want to risk falling in love with someone that could turn out to just decide that they don't really want to be with them because this is seriously in question. Basically if you ever want to be in a relationship with a women you have to be able to put out, then it is anybodies guess to weather or not she wanted to sleep with you because she had this strong desire to just be with you or if she always has a strong desire to be with just anybody. But then you cannot expect a women to always have to put out and that is very socially unacceptable. So then the decision of weather or not to have sex should be left to the women even though a lot of women don't really agree with this type of attitude, "as if they have to be the only one responsible enough to make that decision". (ie, all men are horn dogs) But, then I don't even think they realize that subconsciously they push us into this type of relationship. For instance, you say you just want to be friends, then you no longer have any chance of being in a relationship with them really, unless you are just tied to them in some way closely through life circumstances. Then if they are tied to your life in some way that you cannot control it would be better to just say that you want to be friends. You could then be forced to deal with that mistake for a long time. Then of course it would also not be a good idea to be with someone in that way if it was not morally correct for some reason.