I really dont want to buy presents for people, or receive them...its just such an objectified, commercialized, judged gesture, and its really hard for me to enjoy it. When people give idiot gifts that the other would have never wanted, showing they know nothing about the person even though they're married, and faking happiness and ruining kid's lives when they figure out their parents have been lying to them the whole time and being forced to be with people you cant stand and gah its so horrid. I'd rather just spend time with the person i love and squeeze what fundamental joys of being alive and together and loved out of this mundane existance this holiday season. and maybe build a gingerbread house and watch a christmas story for 3 days solid. So how do i explain to them that I wont be getting them a present, and i dont expect any, without sounding like a complete jackass?