The narcissist's playbook

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  1. Michael 345 New year. PRESENT is 72 years oldl Valued Senior Member

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    https://www.abc.net.au/news/2022-03-14/stephanie-wood-dark-side-of-dating/100631402

    Narcissistic liars they may well be but, not victim blaming, did (do) they only pick "I don't ask and look the other way" victims?

    How many narcissistic liars have been picked out on the first day?

    Were these random picked or selected, in the sense known to have befallen to the lies?

    These women thought they'd met the man of their dreams. Then the lies began to unravel.

    Possible but I don't really buy the scenario

    Considering the time frames (years) cracks would have shown up sooner?

    Confess have not read what was learnt. I'm guessing (love guessing) should have asked more questions early in relationship would be near, if not on, top of list of learntings

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  3. RainbowSingularity Valued Senior Member

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    i read it

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    emotional manipulators
    pathological level

    would make an interesting documentary if you could get the interviews
     
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  5. Michael 345 New year. PRESENT is 72 years oldl Valued Senior Member

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    Thought there were interviews (subject of the article)

    If the interviews were videoed for a documentary I wouldn't watch. To much stress for me yelling "I can see, short sighted me, what's coming (a bad situation from a bad person) a mile off. Why cannot you see it (a bad situation from a bad person) when it is happening in the same room?"

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  7. RainbowSingularity Valued Senior Member

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    good question
    i have fallen victim to this
    but the person was also lying to themself as they lied to me
    so they sold the lie really well.

    i found this news item though you might like it
    it says he is a gambling addict which is why he stole all the money
    i will copy n paste in the entire news piece its short

    https://www.1news.co.nz/2022/03/18/ex-all-black-zac-guildford-gets-home-detention-on-fraud-charges/

    Former All Black Zac Guildford has been sentenced to nine months home detention after de-frauding family and friends out of $100,000.

    The 33-year-old appeared in the Masterton District Court on Friday after he admitted to stealing $41,500 from his grandfather and deceiving a friend out of $60,000.

    He pleaded guilty to the first charge in June last year, as well as driving with a suspended licence. In January 2022, he pleaded guilty to obtaining by deception.

    Guildford was also disqualified from driving for six months.

    He stole the money to gamble, according to court documents.

    Guildford was ordered to attend counselling and a gambling addiction programme.

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    as a child i was taught stealing was wrong
    but as a teenager i stole cash off my parents which i thought they would not notice

    i changed quite a lot in my late teenage years and became a more honest person
    i was very evil back then.
    but i somehow got converted into a good person

    so i know the difference & choose to be good
     
  8. Michael 345 New year. PRESENT is 72 years oldl Valued Senior Member

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    Did a little bit of that - but grandma

    Also a little from work. Add them both could not be more than about $40 then

    Grandma got hers back

    Took a few items from the RAAF

    Think statue of limitations run out for those by now

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  9. sculptor Valued Senior Member

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    Are some women attracted to narcissists?

    One of my degrees is in psychology. I once worked the night shift in a chemical factory.
    ok
    Night shift workers have a higher divorce rate than average, and more mental illnesses.
    So, the question obtains: Does night shift work make people crazy, or do crazy people tend to work the night shift?
     
  10. RainbowSingularity Valued Senior Member

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    i once infiltrated a day care centre inside a large building looking for things to steal
    i had to get past windows doors and such like
    it was like a movie
    then i stole thier tea & coffee money out of a container
    didn't break anything, left as i came

    that was when i believed cash was the all mighty god & there is only 2 different types of people
    with cash
    without cash
    better to be with cash than without cash and everyone is a liar and will steal if they get the chance to not be caught
    so dont get caught
    basic societal morals of most large society's
    but somehow my morals got upgraded
    possibly from my girlfriends showing me what love is.

    helps when you are small and light & young you can crawl through small spaces and small things support your weight easily
    my family & friends were very community minded law abiding folk
    but i had a friend who was a bit of a rebel and we would get up to mischief together
     
  11. RainbowSingularity Valued Senior Member

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    yes
    yes
     
  12. James R Just this guy, you know? Staff Member

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    I'd say: not specifically.

    The problem is that narcissists direct their energy towards themselves. That can mean that they spend a lot of time crafting a personal aura that can seem attractive and appealing from a distance. They can work on hiding their self-absorption and sociopathic tendencies from casual viewers. That means that it can take time to recognise the narcissist for what he or she really is. Unfortunately, people can fall into relationships with narcissists and then find it difficult to extract themselves, especially since the narcissist will be happy to maintain the relationship as long as he (or she) perceives there is a net benefit to be had for him or herself. The other person's feelings or welfare are ultimately of no importance to the narcissist, except insofar as they might impact on how third parties see the narcissicist.

    Narcissism and psychopathy/sociopathy go hand in hand.
     
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  13. sculptor Valued Senior Member

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    In this context, I think that extricate would have been a better word to use
     
  14. James R Just this guy, you know? Staff Member

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    Yes, you're right. Thanks.
     

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