I have seen this with my own eyes fail (refer to references of Ryan). Some children do not care, they enjoy what they are doing and the consequences do not bother them. I do not believe you should not do that but some children will not listen, you must tell them what they are doing is wrong and why it is wrong, if they continue you must discipline them, failure to discipline will make the child believe s/he can do what ever they want despite the warnings of their parents, a lack of respect for the parents is generated and narcissistic personality develops as the child gets what every they want despite s/he parents attempts other wise. What a blatant Ad Hominem! How can you say I have never experienced positive reinforcement as a child? And how can you say I know nothing about it even if I have never experienced it, how does my understand of psychology and reading of my step-mothers how to raise a child books not validate that I at lest know what positive reinforcement is? Ad Hominem is a fallacy and a failure of proper argument construction on your part. This is a difference of opinion, can you bring up proof that spanking alone traumatizes children? This is a serious generalization fallacy on your part! How do you know that no children desire personal entertainment over attention? How can you blame this on the way the child was raise because if you do then you are debunking your own ideals on raising children since I have brought up a child raise thoroughly on such ideals and yet desiring personal entertainment over positive attention. Again you refuse to notice this is what psychology defines as positive reinforcement I have brought repeated proof on this yet you ignore it.