The thing here is each child is different. Just because it backfired for you doesn't mean we have all encountered the same reaction when we have tried it on our own children. I can honestly say that my kids never went on about it, talking about it as your son is doing. They never thought it was then okay to hit another child, if they were doing something wrong. My kids did not have the same confusion that yours is going through. Maybe if mine had I would not have thought that spanking had been the best idea at the time. I don't regret spanking them the few times that I have because in my case it had a positive effect. I can't come up with anything that they did afterwards that was a negative behavior caused by the spanking. I also think that there wasn't negative or long lasting effects on my kids because it is NOT something I did a lot or on a regular basis. A spanking a few times in ones life is not the same as a child that is spanked on a regular basis for many yrs. Also I sat with them and explained what I did afterwards and expressed how I loved them and hugged them and such. It wasn't like I was a in a rage and stayed mad at them all day or night. Just for the record I do think that a lot of parents do try other methods first. When they have exhausted those and nothing works, they sometimes resort to spanking. That is what happened to me anyway. There are parents out there, that hit and ask questions later or use that as a primary method of punishment. I DO NOT agree with that.