i didnt say it was the sum of the man, i said if he is a complete asshole and wont listen to reason. because i was suggesting that you talk it through and let him know it bothers you. and at the same time ask him what bothers him about you, then it doesent seem one sided, and shows you want to compromise and make him happy aswell. instead of it looking like your nagging. if its just that he forgets things tthen i dont see the big problem, maybe try to help him out with his memory or train of thought. i dont get the real man and fairy tale remark though. peace.