I never said that if there was sexual desire(which is lust) that there couldn't be love as well. I am stating that the two are not the same but can exist side by side. You can love your spouse and have sexual desire or be physically attracted to them and love your child as equally as your spouse but the sexual desire component is not a part of it. equally, you can have sexual desire toward your mistress but not love them at all etc. My view is not silly but more realistic.