Discussion in 'Computer Science & Culture' started by sonicgirl, Sep 26, 2007.
There is a tragedy unfolding right before our eyes.
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In that case, do it legally.
Slap him a legal notice of alienation of affection; make him prove he's still attached to you.
Alienation is recognized in Hawaii, Illinois, North Carolina, Mississippi, New Mexico, South Dakota, and Utah.
what happened to privacy? Its none of your business. Either you trust him or you don't.
Better to stop now rather than get married, have kids then find out.
comon get in the 21st century. He's a fukin moron for getting married in the first place.
I could tell you how to crack his password(esp on Outlook), but this IF/THEN statement solves ALL your issues:
IF he's rich THEN Marry
IF he cheats THEN divorcetakehalfhisshit
ELSE Carry on in wedded "bliss"ELSE Dump his ass now
Yeah because you all never get into marriages that fail, or start dating an abusive boyfriend because your 'intuition' tells you not to. Please Register or Log in to view the hidden image!
You can usually find woman's intuition hanging out with Santa Claus and the Easter Bunny.
Sorry, but I'm going to have to raise the bullshit flag on that one.
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^^^This is practical advice.
But I presume she is not practical. Her problem is her bf does not take her concerns seriously OR she is paranoid and he is pissed with her.
Have you ever had the problem where someone borrows something and doesn't put it back where you expect it to be. This situation usually causes qualms because it's a slight niggle and niggles build up.
If his phone doesn't receive a message properly, he loses emails or otherwise things that something of his isn't the way it's suppose to be because of your interaction then he'll likely get upset. Perhaps he's just safeguarding you from some niggles by trying to keep the things that wind him up, under his control.
I'm sure he's just as nervous about marriage as you seem to be, perhaps his ex is talking to him because he needed someone to talk to about you. Usually when people have ex's they have them as friends not lovers, since after all becoming an ex generates a certain amount of distrust. (I guess if he's the one that broke the ex off originally, that it could be a concern but she'd be silly to get back with a guy that chops and changes his mind about what he wants)
Perhaps he wants to know what makes you happy, what would lessen your concerns and perhaps open up to him, of course if that's the case you've could to talk to him about it being a two-way thing (he has to open up to you). btw it's natural to be wary of where your relationship is going, however you sometimes just have to sit back and ride the wave rather than paddle faster upstream to rush things along.
Actually my intuition had nothing to do with that. I knew he was a bit of a prick. It was my young stupid self that thought I could change him. I have learned otherwise since. My intuition is usually correct....when I really feel strongly about something.
No matter what you guys tell her, if she feels that strongly her feelings aren't going to change.
She won't rest till she gets to the bottom of it. It's easy to give relationship advice, but can you take the same advice if you were in the situation.
Some of this advice comes from single ppl no doubt too.
BTW: Sonic are you a Scorpio? lol
Im not sure what the 'alienation' thing is but Im in the UK so it is prob not applicable
Look I just want to know for myself before the wedding
I will find his email password somehow, even if I have to instal a remote keylogger
I just wanted some advice or a point in the right direction so I can get it done properly
If he isnt cheating then Ill be so happy, it will be such a weight off my mind
I know checking up is bad, and an invasion of privacy but I feel its my only option now and as I said Id rather know now so I can prevent an even bigger mess than if I find out something when we are actually married
email cracking is stupid, just hire a private detective.
So you want to lie and cheat on him to find out if he's lying and cheating on you?
Will you look into his eyes and smile while you are plotting to break into his email account? :crazy:
Can you say "doomed to fail?"
Just give him his ring back and say you cannot marry a man you cannot trust.
You show me that you have serious doubts about his trustworthiness. I will recommend that you just drop him like a rock now before you two go any further.
Better still hire an 'Escort' and see if he spouts something about what he's been doing behind your back during his ruffled feather speech
Also what happens if he has been cheating and you find out he's BISEXUAL?
of course that way he doesn't suspect anything, don't you know anything yet:bugeye:
shorty_37- No, Im a taurus lol Please Register or Log in to view the hidden image!
As I said, I do not want to do this, I dont like snooping on people. esp not my fiance but I just need to know
I want to be 100% sure, and if I have found out for myself then I will be
And of course I will have to smile and act normal with him in the meantime because I may be WRONG
Look, this is really difficult for me, I dont like any of it and I hate even thinking of surveillance but as I keep saying, if Im right, Id rather know now
lol I hadnt thought of that! Please Register or Log in to view the hidden image! I dont know. Cheating is cheating, doesnt matter if its with the same gender or not
Id still end it
I admire you for admitting that. However, there are probably millions of other examples someone's intuition misleading them.
With that said, that just means then that women, instead of listening to their intuition (which guys have too...it's called a gut feeling), gets caught up in their emotions and dates a guy that she knows is no good for her...even worse than a misleading intuition.
But I'm getting off topic here.
If you've already asked him if he's cheating, and he told you he wasn't (by telling you you're paranoid), then you should take his word for it. If you don't, then that means you don't trust him. By even asking us how to crack an email password, you're embarking down a dangerous road.
If you were my g/f and I wasn't cheating on you and I found out you were up to this, you'd be gone, quickly. I find snooping EXTREMELY disrespectful, and it makes the person look jealous and possessive. It shows the person does not trust you and if there's no trust, there's no relationship.
Instead of sneaking around behind his back, if you love him, don't only ask him if he's cheating, tell him about his behavior change (i.e. turning off phone) and let him know that it's very suspicious and that you don't like it.
Then see how he reacts.
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