We've all uttered this sentence from time to time, ''I judge people by their actions, not by their words.'' But, do we? I ask this because one of my friends right now has a friendship with someone who from an outsider's viewpoint, is very damaging to her life. This friend of hers will tell her all kinds of thoughtful comments, ''I'm so glad we are friends,'' or ''I love you like a sister,'' but then she will betray my friend's confidence in a variety of ways. My friend will often vent to me, asking for my advice, and I've said to her numerous times ''You should judge the friendship by her actions, not her words.'' My friend usually agrees, goes silent with her other friend for a while, until that friend apologizes to her, promising to never betray their friendship, again. Rinse and repeat this strange cycle, for nearly a year, now. It is easy for me to say what I'd do - end this crazy-making friendship, and block this person, forever. But, that is because I tend to determine someone's truthfulness based on actions, not mere words. But, I think that if we're honest, how many of us have overlooked behaviors of others, people who are treating us terribly, and still want so badly to believe that the person really cares about us, because of their words? All it takes is an easy apology on some days, and we are right back to where we were, accepting the doormat role once again. This of course isn't relegated to personal ''ships,'' but it can be said for how we're treated at work by our boss or coworkers. Words mean a lot, but actions will always speak louder. Then, why do we often find ourselves in the predicament that my friend finds herself in? Do you tend to determine truthfulness based on people's words or their actions? We are what we do, not what we say we will do. Do you believe that what we do in life, has far greater impact than what we say? Please Register or Log in to view the hidden image!