Ah, Nihilism. It used to be my watch word too. Now it seems more an old jacket one puts on and then takes off again because it doesn't quite fit anymore, but still keeps because it's the best jacket one ever had.
Yes, but on some it keeps them nice and warm in senility.Ah, Nihilism. It used to be my watch word too. Now it seems more an old jacket one puts on and then takes off again because it doesn't quite fit anymore, but still keeps because it's the best jacket one ever had.
Uh-huh.And as a matter of fact, I think that some of the behaviour displayed here is just fucking stupid;
I thought that's what I was doing.RosaMagika said:Speak your mind, or forever be quiet. Make things interesting then. Dead mice aren't exactly entertaining, you know.
I assume you refer to:Very briefly, 2 kinds of passion have been addressed earlier in this thread. Maybe you can make comments on that?
Start from the abstract, work my way to the specific. Check.Calling it "rhetoric" is a a cop-out used by those who don't understand communication well. Think of this "rhetoric" as *trying out the field*, *sending probes into unknown territory* -- and it immediately makes sense.
Passionate fools.Of course, some people don't care for looking first whereto they are about to step ...
Because he has a twisted idea of a woman's expectation of "passion". Many men have the romanticized passion in mind when trying to appeal to womankind - who insists on passionate, i.e. not boring, men. Hence where they wouldn normally think of approaching a woman "as himself", for the sake of being succesful he throws all caution to the wind, and with that goes his mundane, everyday personality. He might succeed, but can the woman trust him after that?If the man himself thinks of his behaviour as disrespectful -- why does he do it then? Because he hates the woman? Women in general? Himself? Because he simply lacks all tact?
If you know that you are being disrespectful, then you should ask yourself *why* you are doing it?
And that leaves the direct approach far behind. At least in the 'pick her up at the bar' sense. Have we changed the context since then? But it shouldn't leave passion behind. My question still stands: what should the initial level of commitment be, especially if it's to be true love?It all depends on whether the two believe in "true love" or not. This has a vast series of implications. If they do believe in "true love", they will most likely be somewhat slow and careful, feel out the terrain first -- and not go on the first ball.
"True love" does not just miracolously happen. The two each have to believe that there is something like "true love", and they also have to find out whether they are compatible or not. This, however, takes some time.
True love knows what it wants. I'm representing that corner.Ah, if people really knew what they want, life would be simple.
Relationships that form under traumatic conditions never work out. Something to that effect. It's because the conditions are unnatural, and you'll have to spend most of the relationship under natural conditions. Events sometimes force people together (maybe nature favours the direct approach), but a flame that burns brightly in an oxygen-rich environment might lose its intensity in a normal earth atmosphere. That's why I favour passion that can survive on more than candlelit dinners - let's call it resilient passion.Watch Speed 1 -- what does Sandra Bullock say to Keanu Reeves when the subway crashes out into the street, and they are in the wrecks of it?
Taming it?It does not exists just so per se. Humans are feeding it, raising it, taking care of it -- or denying it, killing it, painting it with some other, *safer* colours ...
gendanken said:And why are you here?
Logically Unsound said:well thats a pile of crap (in most cases)
of course its easily refutable, even if i used that 'box with white walls and no doors youd get bored then' thing, cause then people say this:
*kev voice* id think how to get out UUUUUUURHRHRHRHRHRHRHRHH *kev voice stops*
I found that rather ironic, since big parts of the book were quite boring!As for boredom: Henry James, in the novel "The portrait of a lady" wrote this:
You've no excuse for being bored anywhere.
gendanken said:JadedJaded? Ohhh... pwetty word. I'm a two year old... I'm whatever you say I am. Goo Goo Goo Goo Goo Goo Goo Goo Goo...
Where did I leave my dollies?
Flowers... pwetty flowers... flowers and dollies.
Yep. Whatever you say, dear... I'll listen to you. Un hun. Right-O.
I found that rather ironic, since big parts of the book were quite boring!
My question still stands: what should the initial level of commitment be, especially if it's to be true love?
How's this for a pweety, pwetty word:Jaded? Ohhh... pwetty word. I'm a two year old... I'm whatever you say I am. Goo Goo Goo Goo Goo Goo Goo Goo Goo...
Where did I leave my dollies?
Flowers... pwetty flowers... flowers and dollies.
Yep. Whatever you say, dear... I'll listen to you. Un hun. Right-O.
Are you not mistaking frigid for whore?Now this makes her a beast: she is following her reproductive instinct and has sex, but at the same time she has scheduled to annull the natural outcome of this instinct.
It is nowadays regarded as normal for women to do that. Those who have problems accepting this "normalcy" are regarded as "frigid".
Then explain the bonobo who's sexual intimacies rival ours in uselessness.But it is *not* normal in the eyes of nature and natural instincts -- this is why women turn out to be such beasts.
Civilzation, morality, goodness- all these exist as soon as humans "trick" their bodies.And this is why so many relationships don't work out. People think they can really trick their bodies and their instincts.
Then explain the bonobo who's sexual intimacies rival ours in uselessness.
Explain the oranguntan masturbating with a tool she just made.
Explain the chimpanzee performing fellatio and cunnilingus on his partner.
Or the canine trying to hump one's leg.
Explain to me "Biologial Exhuberance"
While not advocating abortion since I rally to no cause, a woman does have a right to her body.
As do men.
Civilzation, morality, goodness- all these exist as soon as humans "trick" their bodies.
gendanken said:AvrilLavignefuckingwannabe.
Dreamwalker said:Yeah, most women don´t like it (says one who tried it sometimes)
Pardon, but you've picked the wrong primate:The difference between a human female and a bonobo female is that the bonobo is fertile once a year, while the human 12 times.
Explain this then.
No, that he is as entitled to fuck her as she is entitled to fuck him or fuck off.What are you trying to say? That they are entitled to have sex, and that women are supposed to give it to them?
Well, you speak as if half the Western world is "degenerate."But take primitive cultures. There, instincts are rationalized in a religious way, and they are sacred and tabooed. True, they "trick their bodies", but it seems to be in a healther way than in Western culture.
While in Western culture, instincts are rationalized in a secular way, degraded and most of all, we are extremely choosy about them.
We like to eat sweets, but we don't want cavities (so medicine figures out a way to fix the problem).
The thing is that just because we can do something, doesn't mean that it is okay to do it. It seems that Westerners have greatly lost the sense of this balance.
-- Look at how many people are obese, smoke, are alcoholics, do drugs ...