Ok, One thing i've never got is. Why have kids ? Why give yourself a large headache that will never go away ? I know theres the whole continiuty of life and generation and spitting image thing, but is it really worth it ? Sure, they love you back, but the early years are so hard, can you really be sure ? just so you know, I'm just wondering why people chose to have kids, I have nothing against having kids (otherwise I wouldn't be here) .
because we're sadists!! -------------------------- yeah its worth it, in the long run, babies are cute sure they are, but they smell, they are sick, poop, and then they becomme toddlers and they are lovely, they say they're first word, which is amazing, and they love you at this stage, but then they turn into teenagers, and oh my god!! they turn into little demons, you look at them and say "where did my angel go"? -------------------------------------- but its all worth it (when they leave home)
i told you already, because we're sadists! lol ---------------- ok seriously, because (for the most part, and i can only talk from my expierience) we do it out of love, for the person you want children with, it's to make sure your family name gets carried on, for example, my kids have my maiden name, and they also have they're dads name, i wanted to make sure that my name got passed down from child to child and not lost in marrage, which if i didnt keep my name it wouldve been.
When I look at a patch of dandelions, I see a bunch of weeds that are going to take over my yard. ... My kids see flowers for Mom and blowing white fluff you can wish on. When I look at an old drunk and he smiles at me, I see a smelly, dirty person who probably wants money and I look away. ... My kids see someone smiling at them and they smile back. When I hear music I love, I know I can't carry a tune and don't have much rhythm so I sit self-consciously and listen. ... My kids feel the beat and move to it. They sing out the words. If they don't know them, they make up their own. When I feel wind on my face, I brace myself against it. I feel it messing up my hair and pulling me back when I walk. ... My kids close their eyes, spread their arms and fly with it, until they fall to the ground laughing. When I see a mud puddle I step around it. I see muddy shoes and dirty carpets. ... My kids sit in it. They see dams to build, rivers to cross, and worms to play with. I wonder if we are given kids to teach or to learn from? Enjoy the little things in life, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things.
I don't know if you wrote that but it's great. and true. On a selfish level,having children opens your eyes to many things you never saw before. Also,I think some people (me) believe they can extinguish the bad things about themselves by forcing their kids to do "everything right". Some how it rights a wrong. (in your mind, anyway)
You have a dog so that you can receive unconditional love. You have a child so that you can give unconditional love.
I didn't realize that dogs were incapable of being given unconditional love. :shrug: Maybe I should go home and tell that to my dogs, who are unconditionally loved. I'm partially with challenger on this one. I guess it's one of those things where you have to have a child to understand. While I will put forth 100% effort to be the best parent that I can if I ever have children, I honestly think that I won't be that disappointed if I never have any children. If people want to have children, that is entirely up to them. If they are happy with their children, then I am happy for them. What I don't want to see, however, are parents that have that 'holier than thou' attitude towards people who don't have, and choose not to have children. Those kinds of parents piss me off to no end.
If I had to move into a place that was either no pets or no children.....I could give away a pet, never a child. <sigh> FINE! Some people love their pets unconditionally. I don't. I wasn't raised to think of animals that way. Feel better???
My dogs aren't pets. They are family members. -I would have the intelligence to steer clear of and refuse to live in a place that didn't allow pets. The sign might as well say: No children either. -I would never date a girl that even mentioned giving up my dogs as a condition for dating her. She'd be out the door before she was even finished with the sentence. No, because that's the holier than thou attitude I was talking about. Very condescending. As for the word in bold, you better change that to 'more people than I could fathom'. I had a female Boxer who died (three weeks short of her third birthday) a couple of years ago. She jumped the fence and my neighbors found her body in their yard the next day. I still don't know why she died. As far as how devastated I was, she might as well have been a human daughter. Had someone done something to her and I found out about it, I'd probably be in jail right now for painfully ending their life too.
As far as I know you can't legally spay and neuter a family member. ANYWAYS.... the reason I gave was the reason I feel people have children. Please Register or Log in to view the hidden image!
True, but human family members can't get pregnant and have multiple children by the time they are a year old, either. Please Register or Log in to view the hidden image! And I understand. That's quite a popular reason. Like I said, I'm not 100% opposed to having children, but I won't be disappointed if the only children I ever have, have fur, 4 feet and barks.
The fact that population tends to start declining (assuming it isn't propped up by immigration) whenever a society gets wide-spread access to reliable birth control seems to indicate that most people aren't crazy about having kids. Or at least, they aren't crazy about having more than one.
i hate kids. ill probably end up with some, but i still doubt i will like them really. i'll take my dog anyday. She's cute, she poops outdoors, she's great at playing frisbee, she spoons and can a make REALLY nice foot warmer. She's not picky about food and likes everything i bake. why bother having a kid? a dog has all the feel-good qualities of a child without the obnoxious neediness. I just wish i could take her on an airplane. /sigh.
OMGHI2U!! Please Register or Log in to view the hidden image! But seriously, as for the bold, come down here and meet my dogs. You'll withdraw that statement if you do. My Doberman Kingston is so needy and clingy that I've nicknamed him Klings-a-ton. He's always trying to poke my hands/arms with his nose/snout for me to pet him.
