Can we flesh this out a little more?
A. a couple decides not to have a child
B. a couple has a child, provides him with a wonderful, happy life for 10 years and then painlessly kills him in his sleep.
C. The couple kills the child à la B, they then eat the child.
D. A child is born to a single mother who was raped. Soon after birth, the mother abandons the child. The child lives in poverty on the streets, eventually going on to become a drug addict and dying of an overdose at age 23.
E. A couple has a child. The child grows up in a loving family and leads a rich and fulfilling life, eventually dying of natural causes aged 86.
Which situation is better? We might well ask: better for whom? And also: better in what way?
Here is a list of questions to consider:
1. Which situation (A-E) is better for the child?
2. Which situation (A-E) is better for the parents of the child?
3. Which situation (A-E) is better for society in general?
If you prefer more specific questions, try these, considering the three perspectives (the child, the parents, society) for each one:
4. Which is better, considering
only options A and E?
5. Which is better, considering
only options A and D?
6. Which is better, considering
only options B and C?
7. Which is better, considering
only options D and E?
8. Which is better, considering
only options B and E?
9. Which is better, considering
only options A and B (as per the opening post)?
I'm not sure whether considering the options in pairs (as for Q4 to Q9) makes things easier. I think
some of those questions have fairly obvious answers, but others require an examination of some complicated ethical dilemmas.
If fact, maybe a good thing to try to do first is to rank Qs 4-9 in order of difficulty. Deal with the easy ones first, then work your way down to the difficult ones.
There are other questions that could be asked once we're done considering matters from a anthropocentric perspective, like: which is better for non-human animals on Earth, or which is better for non-human life on Earth in general? But I suggest leaving those questions for later.