Ways to deal with and handle, phobias, death, and other things

R1D2

R1D2

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All Phobias, phobias of spiders an bugs, and human death. Passing out from seeing blood? PTSD, anxiety of being in a large crowd? Anger problems, bad temper? Have you been around individuals with depression or bipolar? Sexual disorders, not trusting people's actions? There is spousal abuse, drinking and drug issues? Pain and injuries?
This thread is here to share some insights about friends or yourself. How do they and you deal with and handle "personal issues", and over come them?
 
Well I will start off. I have a friend that seems something is "off" to say it kindly. He has dealt with depression before. And his live in GirlFriend, she thinks he is bipolar. She talked to me. And we are not sure how to bring it up to him. And we don't know if he has it how affected he may be. He hunts, and drives heavy machines. I don't want him to not be able to do things like hunt and not do things at his job if he has bipolar.. But he needs to be "tested" and seen if he may have it or if there is something else. Any ideas? And what do you suggest to help him deal with knowing he is "not right" and he needs help?
 
If he is Bipolar there is nothing you can do for him. He and he alone has to decide to do something and it very likely requires medication such as Lithium or Marijuana. What you can do is ask him questions like "something seems off, is everything ok?". Eventually that trend of questioning may influence him to do something.
 
It's extremely difficult to help someone with this type of problem. The first thing he has to do is acknowledge that he has a problem, and he doesn't want to do that. I don't know your friend but I am 99.999% certain that he doesn't want to acknowledge it because nobody wants to think that they are, in colloquial terminology, "crazy." You and I wouldn't! Doing this would be equivalent to giving up some of his independence, and who wants to do that?

So if you want to fight this thankless uphill battle (and bless you if you do) you have to start with finding a way to get him to admit that maybe he has a teeny-weeny little problem.

So yes, finding the right way to bring it up is the key to helping him, and that's going to be tough. This is not something that you're going to get a lot of help for on an amateur internet forum. We're all sympathetic but we're not professionals AND we have never met the guy. You and the GF will have to find the key in your relationships with him. And be careful about double-teaming him, that will make him feel like you're ganging up on him. It might be best if just one of you does all the talking.

Or not. As I said, I'm not a professional. You should probably make an appointment right now and go talk to one!
 
Thanks for those tips

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Is there a phobia about cock roaches? I can't stand them.
 
R1D2 said:
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Is there a phobia about cock roaches? I can't stand them.
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Yeah, it's called not wanting to get the plague. Also regarding your friends potential bi-polar disorder, as much as there are extreme lows, there are also extreme highs. Even if he admits that he has a problem he may not be willing to treat it as that would entail giving up the highs.
 
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