I wonder how many times you and I, and others on the forum in the past, have had to make this speech about energy. It really does seem to be one of the most widespread and enduring misconceptions about physics.
I think that many people - some more than others - have a tendency to want to
reify things. For example, they might think of fear as an actual "force" in the world, rather than as a label that we attach to a certain set of emotional reactions.
In science, it is often a
very useful shorthand to speak
as if the entities and concepts in the models we use to describe nature actually exist in the physical world. Since we so often speak of conceptual constructs such as "spacetime" or "energy" or "electric charge" using an unspoken shorthand that obscures (or assumes) certain details of what we're actually talking about, a lot of non-scientists (actually, a lot of scientists, too) tend to assume that we can go out into the world and
see spacetime or energy or electric charge.
To an extent, this is not a great problem. We say things like "an electron carries a negative electric charge" and in many ways the electron acts
as if there is a kind of magical substance called "electric charge" riding along on it. Of course, there is no such substance.
What's more problematic is when people start imagining that abstract properties like electric charge can exist as real things
in isolation, away from the real things they help us to describe. What does electric charge look like when separated from any object or particle? Well, since it's imaginary, it can look like anything. Maybe we imagine it's green fuzzy stuff that flutters around in space.
This sounds a bit silly, but only because most people don't find themselves having to picture electrical charge all that often. But when it comes to
energy, we all hear the word all the time, but only a tiny proportion of human beings are able to define what it is with any accuracy.
We hear that energy is something that power plants can generate by burning coal. That it is something that can be piped along cables to our houses. That it is something that makes light when we flick a switch in the kitchen. So we imagine that energy is, mostly, some kind of invisible substance. Maybe we think we can see it from time to time. Maybe lightning is "pure energy". Maybe sunlight is "pure energy". Maybe an inner feeling of gently-glowing contentment is "pure energy". Maybe, in its "purest" form, energy is like a bright glowing ball of light.
All of that is wrong, of course. Power plants don't create any substance called "energy". Wires don't carry a substance called "energy" from the power plant to your house. Energy isn't "turned into" light when you flick the light switch to "on". And E=mc^2 doesn't imply that matter is "made of" energy, or even that it is "equivalent to" energy. Nor can matter be created from energy, or energy created from matter.
So, it's all wrong, but the idea not only persists in popular culture but is actively
encouraged to a large degree.
From time to time, I come across people who, apparently, find it almost impossible to consider concepts and ideas, in isolation from real-world experiences or examples. Some of them don't understand hypotheticals, apparently. For them, everything has to be either true or false. They have a hard time with "Let's assume, for the sake of argument [counterfactually], that X were the case. What would be the implications of that?" They can't cope. It's too hard. "But X
isn't like that!" is the best they can come up with, in response.
If you try to tell those people that energy isn't a glowing substance, they will say things like "Are you telling me that energy doesn't exist? That's crazy talk." After all, why would we have a word for something that doesn't exist in reality?
Love is a real force in the world. If we can understand
that, then energy is a no-brainer. Energy is the stuff that your TV runs on, dummy!
Largely Star Trek's fault, but also reinforced by decades of the gosh-wow school of science journalism that seeks to make things mysterious, instead of demystifying them.
Sci-fi has something to answer for. Thinking here about the many "beings of pure energy" and such that appear in (the worse kind of) science fiction. On the other hand, I have a soft spot for science fiction. Science fiction is one of the things that helped to spark my interest in science. I imagine that's true for a lot of science fiction nerds.
Science fiction, however, is seldom explicitly distinguished from science
fantasy fiction. If you're learning by osmosis through reading science fiction, you might gradually pick up the difference. But it's better to broaden your horizons and find out what science is, separately, then let that inform your consumption of sci-fi. I think that the net effect of science fiction (and fantasy) on the fandom comes down mostly on the side of encouraging people to learn something of what science is, but it's certainly possible to be an enthusiastic fan while remaining largely clueless about the difference - or even that there is a distinction to be made.
Science journalism varies widely in quality. Of late, there is certainly a trend towards click-bait articles (often AI generated these days) that seek to get more eyes on screens by sensationalising current run-of-the-mill research (making it seem far more earth-shattering than it actually is) and/or by extrapolating the implications of scientific results way beyond anything that is actually supported by the cited research. There is also quite a large new sub-genre of pseudoscientific "reporting" of current research in which most of the work goes into creating the most sensational click-bait headline to entice the reader to click through. "New Hubble telescope picture breaks cosmology!" "Einstein was wrong, says researcher!" "New mathematical model threatens to overturn Big Bang theory!" "13 reasons why evolution is false. Number 11 will blow your mind!"