I really need to leave this place for many reasons but the last thing that happened made me actually leave for good. I just don't trust a place that someone can break into without any problems even with 3 changes of door locks.
Nomophobia. Do you have it?
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I really need to leave this place for many reasons but the last thing that happened made me actually leave for good. I just don't trust a place that someone can break into without any problems even with 3 changes of door locks.
Of course but I'd rather stay where I am and use the net but due to circumstances beyond my understanding I am not going to stay here any longer nor use the net except on occasion. Leaving , to me, will at least give me another change of plans with myself and changes are good every so often. Whether or not I'm paranoid doesn't bother me as much as not trusting where I live does. If you can't be secure in your own home then it is time to move along.
Thank you, I'm sure I will be much happier when I move out of here for peace of mind is more important than most anything else.
That's good for you to have but I didn't have a cell phone before I bought my first one so I don't need another one now. I can get by without it althoiugh it is a handy device to have with you at times when needed.
Of course but I'd rather stay where I am and use the net but due to circumstances beyond my understanding I am not going to stay here any longer nor use the net except on occasion. Leaving , to me, will at least give me another change of plans with myself and changes are good every so often. Whether or not I'm paranoid doesn't bother me as much as not trusting where I live does. If you can't be secure in your own home then it is time to move along.
Well I have to agree with you on trusting where you live. Where ever you choose to live, it might be a good idea to set up some hidden cameras that record to a remote storage device not at your home. To me it doesn't matter if your stalker is real or imagined, the fact that you don't feel secure is of concern, and you can address that issue. If you have a determined stalker, he will probably follow wherever you go. But my point is do as much as you can to both secure and protect your home as much as needed to put your fears to rest.
What is your ideal home from a security point of view and how close can you come to it by moving? Also, are you able to identify any people from your past that might want to go to the trouble of making you feel insecure in your home and disrupting your life in a major way. There is a big difference between really tracking your activities or just making you believe that's what's happening at least from a resource point of view. It wouldn't cost much to stimulate your level of paranoia, if you know what I mean.
But suppose you had a smart phone, and you used it for everything. Internet access, Facebook, GPS, Games, impressing your friends, ...etc?
A burglar that persistent is a walking dead man. He/she has made it real clear that is their goal.
If I was a stalker, your attitude would make think about stalking someone else.
But then I would guess that's your intention.Hi cosmictraveler, pleased to meet you.
Anyone who has been keeping abreast of the increasing trend towards criminals Local/or over-internet) using IDENTITY THEFT for their nefarious purposes (whether for permanent identity papers for 'disappearing' off the law-enforcement 'radar', or just to use your personal/financial details/passwords etc for transacting some 'business' in YOUR name and leaving you with the problem of clearing your name afterwards), then perhaps any such 'suspicious' activity as you may 'think you imagine' may not just be your 'phobia' acting up! The steps you are taking wll to some extent 'settle' the matter of whether someone is nefariously interested in acquiring your personal/internet 'identity' for their own purposes, or just to make trouble for you (you haven't pissed off anyone lately, have you, either on the net or personally/businesswise/politically etc?).
Anyhow, I hope and trust your problems will be minimised in this area by the steps you are taking to minimise your 'profile' overall. Cheers and good luck, mate!
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The name may have started out as a 'tongue-in-cheek' type of thing and then just stuck for all I know, but I did find it of interest that there was a piece on the news addressing the very kind of behavior that I have observed.
I agree with your comment that it speaks to insecurity to be so anxious about 'staying connected'. Almost a 'hive' mentality...
As a tool, technology has enable so many potentials that perhaps some of the anxiety comes from the realization that there is so much to be seen and experienced that people are anxious about 'missing something' because they realize that they cannot possibly experience it all and with so many choices, they can never be sure of making 'the right one'. :shrug:
Precisely as you suggest, if one can 'see' as in exploring the internet, then one can also be 'seen' by others and for as good as much of the security systems are, hackers are busy circumventing each new one that comes along.
Some persons may have unsavory purposes to mind while others to it just for the giggles and to enhance their own skills.
Mother and I were comparing notes that each of us have been receiving suspicious 'phishing' calls on our landlines, and strange messages which are only ambient sound and then a mechanical voice saying "goodbye". A woman called with an East Indian accent claiming that my computer was 'sending error messages'.
There is plenty on line about that scam. I wasn't rude but I ended the conversation almost immediately.
Of course but I'd rather stay where I am and use the net but due to circumstances beyond my understanding I am not going to stay here any longer nor use the net except on occasion. Leaving , to me, will at least give me another change of plans with myself and changes are good every so often. Whether or not I'm paranoid doesn't bother me as much as not trusting where I live does. If you can't be secure in your own home then it is time to move along.
I'm sorry to learn that you are discomfited enough to feel that moving is needed, cosmic.
All the best with your future plans and I do hope you stay connected with the forum, even if it is at infrequent intervals from a public access point.
They have made it illegal in the Yukon also, not that it has made much of a difference. We have too few means to observe and enforce for the number of offenders.
Congratulations on being 'symptom-free'.
A burglar that persistent is a walking dead man. He/she has made it real clear that is their goal.
Have you had much experience with persistent burglars in your neighborhood, Stoniphi?
Hello RC.
You raise a good point with identity thieves wanting to gain access to personal information. Hubby does some shopping on-line and recently found a ticket on an Arab Emirates Airline on his credit card statement!
The company was excellent about canceling the card and the charges and sending a new one within a week.
Obviously one of the suppliers he bought from must not have been secure, is our suspicion at this point.
That's why I still do most things the old-fashioned way. :bugeye:
You raise a good point with identity thieves wanting to gain access to personal information. Hubby does some shopping on-line and recently found a ticket on an Arab Emirates Airline on his credit card statement!
The company was excellent about canceling the card and the charges and sending a new one within a week.
Obviously one of the suppliers he bought from must not have been secure, is our suspicion at this point.
That's why I still do most things the old-fashioned way. :bugeye:
This is no good. Definitely a bummer. I hope that works out for you.
We had just one that was persistant - a crack head that was staying at a nearby hotel (within walking distance). He hit most of the homes on this street - except mine - while he was working this 'hood. I was at home during the day (still am) and have a large dog (still do) so burglarizing this place would have meant a face-to-face confrontation and he passed on that. A cop friend saw the perp get into a taxi and head East, so he followed him across the big city to a pawn shop where he fenced the goods that he stole from my neighbor 3 houses down the street. The fellow had been using the cash to buy crack and the services of a prostitute. Now he is staying at a state facility.
Many of our Detroit petty criminals like to hit a place repeatedly. Sometimes that brings them down, sometimes the victims just don't ever wise up.
Many times here though, if you are at home when they come in, they will kill you AND rob you. We have some pretty bad people around here. Lots of good folks, mind you, but a few very bad apples for sure.
I was struck by the etymological aspect. A combining form like "nomo" would usually be taken to refer to "law", so that nomophobia would then mean "fear of laws, rules, etc". But that it is instead an extraction from "no-mobile-phone" just reminds one that arbitrary elements have skyrocketed yet again as a force in the term-engineering market.
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