Less sex please, we're geeks!

Oli said:
That's the point I'm trying to make: most people don't REALLY do it.
They just put up with the physical side of it.

Heart, mind, body and soul... that's real. :D
(If you're lucky).
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I am good except for maybe the soul part lol
 
Frankly, your mind fuck does not sound nearly as good as an experience where you see things through another person's eyes. This can be a life changing occurrence. Your mind fuck sounds rather useless.
 
The mind fuck that Oli's talking about sounds like that one scene in the movie Demolition Man where Sandra Bullock's character asks Stallone's character if he wants to have sex. He's all like, uh yeah! She then pulls out those VR helmets and proceed to have virtual sex; no friction, all mind. LOL.
 
Oli apparently means someone who is very, very, very smart. In other words, you rarely meet someone so much smarter than yourself who actually takes the time to show you how much smarter that person really is. No?
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Have you actually been reading what he's typing?

Oli:
Or not mess you up.
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Or mess you up. :) It's a very odd experience to have another person in your head, and sometimes it throws you for the rest of the day. It's not an unpleasant feeling, just odd.

Where's the fun in that?
Half of the fun is the chase, the anticipation.
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There I disagree. If I'm going to bed with a man, I'm going to bed with him - and I'm not going to feign disinterest just to keep him buying me drinks. FIghting is foreplay, but anyone who thinks of me as a prize to be won can sleep with the myriad of other women who lack self respect or the ability to sexually please themselves.

There are contests of dominance and they make awesome foreplay, but that shit belongs in the open.

Does boredom foster awkwardness?
Or just a general disinterest in going through the meaningless, ritualised, socially-accepted motions?
Although that could come across as awkwardness.
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I think they must feed off each other. I've been to a few parties with precious little booze or :m: and just bored out of my mind trying to socialize with people who really, really have nothing that entertains me. I feel bored, I feel awkward.

Fraggle:
You forget computer programmers. There is a resurgence of interest in the geek now that IT Is such a huge field.
 
Being in someone else's head? Is that what Oli is referring to? Hell, women are masters at that. What's the big deal with that?
 
John J. Bannan said:
Being in someone else's head? Is that what Oli is referring to? Hell, women are masters at that. What's the big deal with that?
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I am not him. And how are women masters at such a thing? Men aren't empathic?


Mike:

Loooovveeee......exciting and newwwwww....

You don't know how to use the three seashells!
 
John J. Bannan said:
Frankly, your mind fuck does not sound nearly as good as an experience where you see things through another person's eyes. This can be a life changing occurrence. Your mind fuck sounds rather useless.
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So you missed completely the bit about them getting you to put everything in context, the bit about showing you what there is...
You're STILL misunderstanding.

Xev said:
There I disagree. If I'm going to bed with a man, I'm going to bed with him - and I'm not going to feign disinterest just to keep him buying me drinks. FIghting is foreplay, but anyone who thinks of me as a prize to be won can sleep with the myriad of other women who lack self respect or the ability to sexually please themselves.
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Badly worded: the "chase" is when you both know it's going to happen and it's the foreplay/ build-up.
"Wanna screw?" "Okay" just doesn't do it for me.
Two or three hours chatting, flirting and "circling" does...

There are contests of dominance and they make awesome foreplay, but that shit belongs in the open.
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Da, but the "fight" has to be on nearly equal terms, otherwise it's a walk-over and no fun.

I think they must feed off each other. I've been to a few parties with precious little booze or :m: and just bored out of my mind trying to socialize with people who really, really have nothing that entertains me. I feel bored, I feel awkward.
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Agreed.
WTF am I doing here and why? :shrug:
 
Of course women are masters at reading minds. Why? Because they are more concerned with what others are thinking. Call it paranoia, PMS, sensitivity . . . whatever, but men aren't generally as sensitive and therefore usually far less skilled in reading minds.
 
Oli said:
"Wanna screw?" "Okay" just doesn't do it for me.
Two or three hours chatting, flirting and "circling" does...
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When in a long term relationship is it ok to just say Lets Screw?
or there still needs to be all the chatting flirting etc.
 
shorty_37 said:
When in a long term relationship is it ok to just say Lets Screw?
or there still needs to be all the chatting flirting etc.
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All the time?
Where's the fun in that?

Originally Posted by Nasor
On a side note: I don’t have a reference handy (I’m sure you can google it up if you want), but I read about a study a while ago that more educated people tend to have better sex and are more likely to have “kinky” sex than less-educated people. There’s probably a correlation between educational attainment and intelligence, so it seems that even though smart people have less sex...they are better at it when they do manage to have it!
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"Wanna screw" leads to "kinky" sex?
It leads to "something different"?
 
Yes they do. I think geeks don't think they are attractive but we are (as long as they are clean in the sock and underwear dept)!
I'm not sure that men find intelligent women attractive though.
 
sniffy said:
Yes they do. I think geeks don't think they are attractive but we are (as long as they are clean in the sock and underwear dept)!
I'm not sure that men find intelligent women attractive though.
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You haven't read this thread have you....?
 
shorty:
When in a long term relationship is it ok to just say Lets Screw?
or there still needs to be all the chatting flirting etc.
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That would depend on the partners. I wouldn't find it ever really a turnon to put things so bluntly - sex is an intellectual exercise, not a satisfaction of physical needs. It is why I mentioned in the other thread, that I wouldn't think of sex as a way of keeping someone "satisfied."

Oli:
"Wanna screw?" "Okay" just doesn't do it for me.
Two or three hours chatting, flirting and "circling" does...
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Ah. I can't really sleep with people on three hours notice, but I do get what you are saying.

Da, but the "fight" has to be on nearly equal terms, otherwise it's a walk-over and no fun.
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Obviously. And sometimes you go to bed with someone because they are nice and not very much on the fighty conflict thing.
 
Oli said:
"Geek" and "cute" do NOT go together.
I've threatened women with a kneecapping for using the word "cute" to describe me. :D
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guys really hate that huh being called cute......I tend to
say that myself:eek:
 
That's okay then... :)

(PS, why ask me? Whatever works for you, go with it).
 
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