You say that feminism is now run by extremists, and that they are trying to deny that there are differences between men and women. I agree, and that's the problem. It's an extremely juvenile argument to say that men and women are equal and therefore they ought to be treated the same. Cats and dogs may be equally valid, but they are still different. You don't take a cat out for a walk, and metaphorically that's what feminists, in their deluded mindset, think they can do. Political correctness is an attempt to stop people making observations based on truth, just because some people have fragile sensibilities and an immature reasoning process. And the truth is that women really are better suited for domestic chores than men. Can women have careers? Sure, but it's dumb for them to think they can have it all. Do you ever hear men talking about wanting it all? Nope, they just quietly get on with running the world. Can women do anything men can? That's the most ridiculous thing, of course not, nor do most women have any interest in doing a lot of the things that men do. The reason why feminists get their knickers in a twist in discussions is that they know that the truth is the truth, and it makes them mad as hell. But it doesn't matter because nature always wins, every single time.
I don't subscribe to any ism that excludes me in its name. But I do believe that women should be treated fairly. Equally? Not always, but fairly? Certainly. And fair does not always mean equal.