Are you an introvert or extrovert?

Glad to learn that JOMO is not just a famous Kenyan leader. Events with a high ratio of small talk are jomo for me. Never much for small talk, at least the kind where people who don't really know each other strain to say something. Yes, it's been hot. (This is the plains, hot all through summer) Yes, that plane crash was awful. (It tends to be awful when you fall five miles) Your [child or grandchild] played beautifully. (no one played beautifully, we show up because we love them, and maybe in a decade or so they will play beautifully) The snacks are delicious. (Yes, fat, salt and sugar taste good, welcome to entertainment food in the United States.). Etc.
 
Oh my God. How have I never encountered this term?

I have always said I am the opposite of FOMO. I did not know it had a name.

The Joy of Missing Out. That's me.

I missed my generation of TV shows because I despised the very idea of something so generic and canned that it appeals to everyone.

Hill Street Blues? Nope.
Twin Peaks? Nope.
Cosby's? Lost? Nope. Etc.
Anything that attracts a lineup is a huge turn off for me.

It's not the same as hating crowds. I mean, no I don't like parties either but I dislike things that attract crowds.
 
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Interestingly, posting on a forum such as this, or social media is very different. It’s socializing, but without all the same expectations as being in person. And we can leave a conversation unceremoniously without hurt feelings. But, I do cherish my friendships and the majority of my friends are extroverts, go figure.
 
wegs said:
Interestingly, posting on a forum such as this, or social media is very different. It’s socializing, but without all the same expectations as being in person. And we can leave a conversation unceremoniously without hurt feelings. But, I do cherish my friendships and the majority of my friends are extroverts, go figure.
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This is kind of a joke but it often takes extroverts to be friends with "us".:) Most of mine are too.
 
DaveC426913 said:
something so generic and canned that it appeals to everyone.

Twin Peaks? Nope.
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To be fair, generic and canned really don't describe TP. And it had enough detractors that one could feel part of a special and subversive niche if one did like it. Most of the others you listed I haven't seen, either, no matter how "water cooler topic" they were. But TP seems like something an introvert would like, delving into the strange and coiled depths of the unconscious.
 
TheVat said:
To be fair, generic and canned really don't describe TP. And it had enough detractors that one could feel part of a special and subversive niche if one did like it. Most of the others you listed I haven't seen, either, no matter how "water cooler topic" they were. But TP seems like something an introvert would like, delving into the strange and coiled depths of the unconscious.
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Sorry, I didn't mean the show itself is generic or canned. From what I understand, it was quite the opposite.

What I meant was: the idea of wildly popular TV shows being "must watch". It seemed to be like brainwashing.


Ever seen this episode of ST:TNG? (S5:E6 "The Game"):

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It's about the ultimate peer pressure / FOMO bait. I identify with it strongly.
 
DaveC426913 said:
Ever seen this episode of ST:TNG?
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Would my saying yes indicate that I was once subject to peer pressure? :cool:

Yes, I remember The Game, one of the weirder TNG episodes. Not least for the pairing of Wil Wheaton and Ashley Judd. It still holds up as a commentary on digital culture. And that chocolate is a serious thing.

("Darmok" remains my favorite episode of that season).
 
DaveC426913 said:
Really? Moreso than "The Inner Light"? that's my fave of the whole show.
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I forgot that was in that season. Tough call. Inner Light certainly comes out on top for soaring SF concepts, especially dreaming someone else's entire life. Might have to watch that one again.
 
TheVat said:
Glad to learn that JOMO is not just a famous Kenyan leader. Events with a high ratio of small talk are jomo for me. Never much for small talk, at least the kind where people who don't really know each other strain to say something. Yes, it's been hot. (This is the plains, hot all through summer) Yes, that plane crash was awful. (It tends to be awful when you fall five miles) Your [child or grandchild] played beautifully. (no one played beautifully, we show up because we love them, and maybe in a decade or so they will play beautifully) The snacks are delicious. (Yes, fat, salt and sugar taste good, welcome to entertainment food in the United States.). Etc.
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I thought JOMO was an offshoot of Jackie O Motherfucker (JOMF). I've never even bothered with greetings and salutations and all that. It just makes me feel uncomfortable. I started talking to a woman I knew at a festival once and after a couple of minutes she realized that I was just picking up on a conversation we had been having well over a year prior, the last time that I had seen her at another show. Apparently I do that a lot, but it's more jarring when the time between conversations is longer and when the other person actually picks up on that being what's going on. Maybe the second part makes it less jarring.

It also just seems more natural to mostly talk about particular things. Even queries about "how are you doing?" and suchlike seem kind of ridiculous. I figure if the person is dying of cancer, or if something major is going on, they're gonna tell me and I'm not gonna have to pry it out of them with vague, empty queries.

 
I'm not sure if I'm alone in this sentiment, but sometimes...when people are all around me making idle conversations, and I seem quiet, it's not that I'm uninterested, rather I'm observing, waiting to speak, etc...

I think we live in a really noisy world with so many clamoring to be heard and 'get the last word'. However, I'm often paying attention to what's not being said. Can anyone here relate?
 
wegs said:
I'm not sure if I'm alone in this sentiment, but sometimes...when people are all around me making idle conversations, and I seem quiet, it's not that I'm uninterested, rather I'm observing, waiting to speak, etc...

I think we live in a really noisy world with so many clamoring to be heard and 'get the last word'. However, I'm often paying attention to what's not being said. Can anyone here relate?
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Good God, no.

Like everyone else in the world, I hear the first five words of what someone else is saying before I tune them out so I can compose my brilliant response.

Weirdo.


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SCRREEEEEEEE!!
 
wegs said:
I'm not sure if I'm alone in this sentiment, but sometimes...when people are all around me making idle conversations, and I seem quiet, it's not that I'm uninterested, rather I'm observing, waiting to speak, etc...

I think we live in a really noisy world with so many clamoring to be heard and 'get the last word'. However, I'm often paying attention to what's not being said. Can anyone here relate?
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Yes. I usually am quiet until it is time to speak. While waiting, I observe externally and experience internally.
 
wegs said:
I'm not sure if I'm alone in this sentiment, but sometimes...when people are all around me making idle conversations, and I seem quiet, it's not that I'm uninterested, rather I'm observing, waiting to speak, etc...

I think we live in a really noisy world with so many clamoring to be heard and 'get the last word'. However, I'm often paying attention to what's not being said. Can anyone here relate?
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In a sea of testosterone, I like your lifeboat of Oestrogen. It gives balance.
 
Pinball1970 said:
In a sea of testosterone, I like your lifeboat of Oestrogen. It gives balance.
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DaveC426913 said:
This is why I knew, immediately, that wegs was female. I am more sure that wegs is female than any other member of this - or any other board - on the internet
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This is exactly how Bigfoot ''believers'' sound. lol
It is interesting to me that we all sort of know each other, but we really don't know each other. ((group-hug))
 
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