exchemist
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Mind you, you were probably safer than you would be visiting an American school
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Any helpful life hacks?
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exchemist
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Yes in the end I was able to snatch a few hours, mostly in 45min periods. But I always felt a bit shit the next day. And then there is jet lag too of course. I used to find I could run on batteries, as it were, for up to 3 days if the job provided enough adrenalin. But then I would crash and need serious catch-up. The worst was tedious conferences in a different time zone. Very hard not to nod off.
At Shell we were allowed business class for flights >4hrs. And in theory a catch-up day if we crossed more than 4 time zones, though it was considered a bit wimpy to actually take one. I found the key thing was not to accept any after hours social invitations on the day of arrival.
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Pinball1970
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I'll pm you.
Я перестала нормально спать после нескольких налётов беспилотников. Вы когда-нибудь слышали звук беспилотника самолётного типа в ночи? А вой сирен воздушной тревоги? А шум ракет? Или когда беспилотник взрывается, и дрожат стены домов на несколько километров в округе? Крысы в подвале такие милые...
Pinball1970
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ты вернулся, детка!!
Pinball1970
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Ага.
Что с переводчиком? Он и раньше был не супер, а теперь такое ощущение, что сайт установил дешёвый китайский...
DaveC426913
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Pinball1970
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It is from the American film, "Oceans 11," when the little Chinese guy speaks it's usually in his local language so no one can understand it apart from Brad Pit's character.
This is his first line in English I think and he says.
"Where th' fak you bin!?"
Or "where the fuck have you been?"
As an American, this is really hard to fathom. I've experienced a fair bit of gunfire outside of the US, owing to having accidentally wound up in war zones or places with a fair bit of political turmoil a few times--and lots of guns regardless, sans gunfire. I heard, didn't see, the massacre of Zapatistas in San Cristobal, Mexico, on 1 January, 1994--I was less than 1/2 mile away.
But overwhelmingly, the bulk of gunfire I've witnessed--heard or seen--has been within the US. I honestly can't even speculate as to how many instances of such.
Pinball1970
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It was in Asia and there had been some extremist behaviour there.
It's a weird experience, isn't it? I don't know your experience, but with me, unless things really went awry, I was generally safe. And I've also witnessed a fair amount of violence that didn't involve gunfire, as well; wherein I was generally safe.
I don't really experience empathy with humans in the way, at least to my understanding, most people do, but these were instances that I really felt, that I somehow "experienced" vicariously. Being a war correspondent, or something of that nature, was never all that appealing to me. Inasmuch as I can appreciate, or even enjoy, dangerous experiences generally, being a target--or moving target--of some sort is something else entirely.
DaveC426913
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I wanted to ask. I started to, but then I stopped. But I wanted to.
У нас нет ни одного поколения, которому бы посчастливилось прожить свою жизнь без какой-либо войны.
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Ask what? Let me pose a simple, albeit perhaps somewhat unrelated, question here to illustrate what I was getting at with the above: Is deliberately singling out transgender athletes , non-transgender athletes (whom one mistakes for a transgender athlete), and transgender high school kids, among others, for mockery and derision evidence of transphobic attitudes? When one answers "no" to this query, that's rather curious to me--to put it mildly.
Empathy and sympathy are two different things, though they are not always so easy to parse. The former almost necessarily involves some sort of identification with the other, and when that is absent... it's just really hard. For me, my perceived lack of empathy is largely a consequence of the fact that I simply don't see a whole lot of what I would describe as humanity or animality in most people. They consistently and reliably respond to very clear signs and indicators--they're uber pavlovian--but when consideration of nuance, reading between the lines, and accounting for broader contexts are factors, they often fail. Bigly. (Non-human) animals, imho, tend not to struggle so much with these things, and so empathy for them is easy for me.
Edit: In short, it's easy for me to empathize with those who are targeted or victimized--I know the experience, and I know the feelings well, in part due to the particular nature of damage to my mesial temporal lobe (probably--obviously, that's speculation). I also know that people are fickle, inconsistent, prone to not making a whole lot of sense at certain times, prone to hypocrisy, etc., but--except when these assume particular forms--are, while familiar in some respects, also not relatable at all times.
Take as an example the consistent non-response of the press pool when The Rapist in Chief singles out a woman or women to insult and berate--and no one says anything. This is beyond weird. I mean, just a "that's hardly appropriate or called for" would suffice, but they say nothing. It's really hard for me to see those people as people, in those moments, even while I may be able to imagine a scenario in which I might respond, or not respond rather, similarly. Though, given my temperament such scenarios are somewhat difficult to imagine, but they exist nonetheless.
Wittgenstein wrote a fair bit on this phenomenon, which was very personal to him. But were an ethnologist, and ethologist, an anthropologist, a sociologist, etc. to explore this, there might be a bit more to chew on. But as it stands, it seems to be an empathy deficit which is very RD Laingian in natures : the "problem" or phenomenon manifest in the individual, but it's roots and origins lie within (the nature of) society--particularly as a species which is more pack social naturally is thrust into a world wherein herd social behaviors dominate, and may perhaps even make some bit more "sense".
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DaveC426913
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If this:
"I don't really experience empathy with humans in the way, at least to my understanding, most people do,"
is you indicating that you are on the autism spectrum.
Ahh. Possibly? Maybe? Probably? Or then again, maybe not. The experts I've seen have long debated this--of course, most were neurological sorts with somewhat limited knowledge of psychology--and, on the one hand, there's things I find entirely relatable with respect to autism; on the other, there are aspects that couldn't be more alien to me.
My take: As far as social skills go, people are often impressed by my peculiar "talent" for "ingratiating" myself with people--when I want to--seemingly effortlessly. At the same time, I'm a very insular person and largely uninterested in other people--except insofar as they are "useful" to me. And yeah, that sounds bad, but what I really mean is that I like playing music with people, working on certain sorts of projects with people, but otherwise I'd rather just be alone or with other animals--so by "useful", I don't mean to say that I "use" people or try to manipulate them or anything nefarious like that. When I don't get on with people, it's largely because I choose not to get on with them, i.e., because I neither like nor respect them, and I'm mostly indifferent to what is socially acceptable as far as those things go.
The stuff that I find really relatable is the stuff that's more theoretical and not really a facet or feature of official definitions of autism, i.e., via the DMS, etc. And that would be all the sensory stuff.
In my experience, people I've known and encountered who were actually dx'd with autism had all the social stuff in spades, and little of the sensory stuff--and i did not find them relatable, at all. So... I don't know.
Вы просто честно себя оцениваете. Думаете, много людей в мире способны к искреннему состраданию, если это не относится к ним самим, или к их близким? Если бы это было так, то мы бы уже давно Рай на Земле построили. Вы хотя бы не вредите другим, и не лицемерите, уже и это хорошо.
