Grantywanty
Registered Senior Member
But your 'lived' experience cannot account for all lived experience.
If you don't like the map analogy:
If a car has crashed and is broken you do not need to know when and how the car crashed or who was involved. All you need to do is look at the car, find what is broken and fix it (if possible). for that you WILL need to know how the car works in order to put it back together.
Great example. Ok. You have someone with a problem getting it up because they have feelings of being inadequate. do you:
send in a team of microsurgeons to rearrange the connections of his brain
or
talk to him about his problem, perhaps finding out that he saw his father's (seemingly enormous penis) when he was a kid and compared it to his own and decided his was small)
And this is a fairly simple example, nevertheless talking and thinking in terms of past experiences, emotions etc. is far more elegant. This does not mean that your map is false. It means it is a limited map, as are all maps. As are the maps I tend to use.
If you want to object to the microsurgeons and mention psychotropic medications, fair enough. But 1) read the list of side effects and adverse reactions for these and calculate further the long term cost of their use, which, in the case I mentioned above vastly went beyond my fees. 2) consider the possibility that medication implies to most people illness. Even in your map, the idea is the guy has something wrong with his brain. In my map something happened, he had a reaction within the normal range of reactions to certain events (and personalities) in his childhood and the patterns of self identity he came up with were no longer useful. At no point did he need to think his brain was broken (like a car). He was a human with a problem that he solved with another human. (of course his brain changed in the process) I think my map is more humane and should be primary, unless other maps are necessary. Further the issue was resolved. He did not need outside suppport (a drug or me after two months).
I am not a car and I do not need to be treated like one. (a broken arm would be another story, here the physics involved is on a similar order to car maintenance) And a car is vastly more complex than a pulley (a simple machine) especially modern computerized cars adn they too should not be serviced or conceived of in the same terms that MUCH SIMPLER objects are fixed and thought of.
It is very rare that the map you think of as THE MAP is useful in my life. And even then it is not the only map that applies.
And the same story above could have the simple substitution of a lawyer who does not do well in court against alpha male type lawyers because of similar childhood experiences where he decided he was not reallly a 'real man'. And I am referring to a real case with a real person who felt better and performed better in court. At no point did he and I talk about neurons, neurotranmitters, dopamine to seratonin ratios, etc.
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