Actually, she says we BOTH have been wrong for the ENTIRE trip before your modified velocity change occurred. So I don't lose a lot of sleep worrying about whether she thinks I'm wrong or not.
Okay, fair enough. But before giving up on this line of thought, let's take a quick look at the message he would send to her the moment
before he decelerates. In that case, he would say the following:
"Hi Sister, you are moving away from me with a speed of 0.577c, so of course we are not going to agree on any frame-dependent measures. For example, your distance marker showing 23.09 light years is passing right next to me at this moment, so you probably think the distance between us is 23.09 light years, but to me all of your distance markers are length contracted, so to me the distance between us is currently 23.09/1.2247=18.85 light years. So, using my own frame of reference I would predict you are currently 26.67 years old, but I know you will disagree, however if I use yours instead, I would predict you are currently 40.00 and I believe you will agree to that."
Now that last line could be a way for you and I to come to an agreement of some sort. Let me add that last line to the message he would send
after he decelerates. It would be as follows:
"Hi Sister, I have decelerated, so I am motionless with respect to you, and I am currently located 23.09 light years away from you. So, using the Fontenot method and my own personal* frame of reference, I would predict you are currently 26.67 years old, but I know you will disagree, however if I use your personal* frame of reference instead, I would predict you are currently 40.00 and I believe you will agree to that."
*Note that I had to add the word "personal" because after he decelerates, SR says he is in the same frame of reference that she is, because their relative velocity is v=0.000c at that point. (Notice that they are able to agree that their separation distance is 23.09 light years now, unless you disagree?) You should at least be able to see that your method makes a distinction between different people's *personal* frames of reference, instead of relying on relative velocity. If you are okay with that, then I am also, but it is a departure from what is normally done in SR.