Ms Rowling: insightful critic of gender policy or myopic [insult]

Many older people have trouble adjusting to the times; I've known several of them, including people in my family. Their Overton window simply cannot move that far. Younger people were born during a time when the Overton window has already moved; they grow up in a world where gay marriage and interracial marriage are simply the norm. Older people do not have that luxury.

When I asked someone↑ if they would hear it from the eighty-six year-old woman, it's because Joyce Carol Oates made an important point that people keep forgetting. Generationally, I've had the discussion with my mother, and the youngest generation of women in our family has talked about it with the matriarchs, as well.

It's a straightforward question with a straightforward answer: When was the last time a transgender woman caused you any trouble in a restroom or locker room?

We might also wonder about the first time, but for women like my mother, or my aunt, or the unrelated eighty-six year old lady at Princeton, the answer is that it never really came up. And I might recall nearly eight years ago↗ when I had occasion to object to the proposition that transgender should be expected to answer for a cisgender pervert. Even eight years ago, the answer to the question was so obvious that anti-trans activists had to do the creepy stuff in order to suggest, well, imagine if that was a trans person. And that was a rehash, even then, at least a year↗ after the fact↗. And if, nine years ago↗, I reminded it is easy enough to joke about the idea of Mike Huckabee and Ben Carson putting on dresses in order to masturbate in the women's restroom↱, and that there does come a point at which we might wonder about the immediate functional dangers of testing their argument like that, it was nearly ten years ago that the great restroom debate appeared in presidential politics.

Will they hear it from the eighty-six year-old woman? No, and we need not wonder why. Thus, they start in medias res, presupposing traditionalist and even rightist talking points.

I wouldn't disagree about the overton window, but there is also a mysterious diversity implicit in the otherwise strikingly consistent anti-trans argument and conduct. This is what it looks like when an ossified overton window runs up against reality, i.e., that point I keep making about when science↗ and reality↗ inform differently↗ than the superstitions of the prevailing societal narrative.

The rough line is to remind that one need not be explicitly religious to be a terf or masculinist, but if there's one belief terfs, masculinists, and Christian nationalists (and even actual Nazis) all share, it's the proper place of a woman. And, yes, that value is in play. The kid-glove version is to simply suggest that if the behavior looks familiar, so also is the threshold. Vis à vis overton frameworks of certain vintage, it's kind of like religion in a time of fundamental truths coming unanchored.
 

I also wrote: "Anybody who resorts to violent acts to try to prevent thoughtful people from speaking is a danger to civil society. Trying to shut down discussions you'd rather not have is not the way to go about changing hearts and minds. It's what fascists do." Do you agree or disagree?

Violence (including death threats) are not acceptable. Trying to shut down discussions, including uninviting such people to private speaking events, or telling them they are wrong and/or to stop promulgating those opinions, is not a problem provided it is not the government doing so.

For example I have, several times, told anti-vaxxers to stop spreading their misinformation, because it can (and has) killed people. I would also support a local private venue uninviting anti-vaxxers to public events during pandemics, because giving them such a platform can also kill people.

Are you saying you don't believe that Rowling is telling the truth when she reports that she has heard from other women who have received rape and death threats? Do you think she is just lying? Do you think she is unfairly demonising the kind-hearted souls who are trying to shut down speech about "trans rights"?

I think she is exaggerating, as often happens in cases like this. I also think that information is less reliable.

I believe first hand experiences; experiences I have had. For secondhand information (i.e. experiences reported by the media or someone I know) I consider the source, but if the source is one I trust, I will generally believe it. For third hand experiences (i.e. media reports on what someone else's experience was) I believe it less. For fourth hand experiences (i.e. the media reports on what someone says someone else's experience is) - those, for me, are the least credible. They are akin to Trump's "immigrants are raping and killing everywhere; everyone says so."

How do you go about determining whether somebody is a Nazi sympathizer or a Holocaust denier?

I think you would not find it hard. For example, when Daryl Cooper (a guest on Sean Hannity) started talking about the Holocaust one of his first comments was that Germany didn't intend to kill any Jews. "They went in with no plan for that and they just threw these people into camps. And millions of people ended up dead there.” In fact he claimed that Churchill was the “chief villain” of World War II because “he was primarily responsible for that war becoming what it did, becoming something other than an invasion of Poland.” Hitler conquering France was
“infinitely preferable in every way” to an image from the recent Paris Olympics opening ceremony showing drag queens.

After hearing that, would you conclude he was a Nazi sympathizer and/or a Holocaust denier? Or would you feel the need to watch several more hours of interviews to make sure?

Such a law would allow a male sexual predator to enter women-only spaces with impunity, if he were willing to say "I am a woman". And in case you imagine there have been no cases of men who identify as women sexually assaulting women in restrooms, I'm here to tell you that there have been (and Rowling is, too).

Yep. I am sure both you and Rowling can identify such cases.

Now let's compare the number of men who go into women's rooms and assault women. If there are a representative number of cases for both non-trans men and trans women doing this, then there is no benefit to banning trans women from women's bathrooms. And this is what studies have found. From one such study:

“Opponents of public accommodations laws that include gender identity protections often claim that the laws leave women and children vulnerable to attack in public restrooms. But this study provides evidence that these incidents are rare and unrelated to the laws.”


In addition, such laws generally REQUIRE people who are visibly, anatomically and hormonally men to enter women's bathrooms. I would argue that that does not improve safety of women.

On the broader issue, can I ask you: are sex and gender different? Has your personal Overton window moved to the position where you think sex is an outdated and irrelevant concept, such that we should dispense with it and just use gender, exclusively?

Yes, sex and gender are different. Sex is not an outdated concept, nor is it as simple as anti-trans activists believe it to be.

One thing she has said (I'm paraphrasing here, to be clear) is that accepting that any man who self-identifies as a women must be a woman is effectively "erasing sex".

I know several trans women who were once men. None of them "erased sex" either effectively or in reality. I know one kid who is genetically male and phenotypically female. They have not "erased sex." A Belgian supermodel - Hanne Gaby Odiele - is also genetically male and outwardly female. She has not "erased sex" - which, again, is not the same as gender.

I know several nonbinary people as well. Kel identifies as "they." So does Emmett. That has not erased sex. Which is also not the same as gender.

Is that your position on these issues? Sex is redundant, passe, outdated and irrelevant?

Nope.

You should not assume that everyone over a certain age is a conservative bigot. That's a big mistake to make.

I don't. A 60 year old, however, does have a stronger tendency to retain the societal mores they learned 40 years ago than a 20 year old. That's basic logic.
 
One for the Ages (b/w, Seriously)

We may have to agree to disagree! I am sure I can find one person in the world who considers me to be a bigot. There is no objective scale or measure for determining bigotry :- it's not subject to empirical analysis. We may stick to our opinions - even illogically or irrationally - but it might be that we do not consider logic or reason to be the foundation of our thinking, or even criteria for discussion. We may argue that feeling and emotional impact serve an illogical, irrational, but biological master ....

.... Saying that everyone is a thinker doesn't undervalue thinking. My feeling is that 'bigot', belongs to that part of the dictionary reserved for polemical vocabulary.

It seems we're back to alternative facts, then. The unanchored moral relativism of sincerely held beliefs is not exactly unfamiliar.

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Tiassa
Ms Rowling has not yet told anyone to “kill their self” for their views.
But, in your attempt to defend parmalee’s use of those same words, you both come across as absolute"killer" cancelists.

Again↗, your manner of histrionics↗ is unreliable.

Your own advice↗ that you shouldn't be taken seriously remains the most credible thing you've said.

 
There is some truth to that. I'd amend it to "everyone starts as a bigot." Whether you remain a bigot or not depends on how hard you work to overcome that basic tendency towards homophily.
Sure - but recall the invisible knapsack (Peggy McIntosh - used it for white males; but it applies in many other cases) - we often have no idea or awareness of the privileges we are afforded; the most of us live in a small stereotyped world that forgets or ignores entire cultures, traditions, beliefs, or realisations. Our challenge is that we must always continue to work to overcome our shortfalls: Mao talked about continuous revolution - and and it's a good point: As soon as we are resting on our laurels we are no longer wearing them.
 
One for the Ages
It seems we're back to alternative facts, then. The unanchored moral relativism of sincerely held beliefs is not exactly unfamiliar.
No, Tiassa. That's a conflation. "Alternative facts" was coined as a circumlocution for lying or deception. Moral relativism itself is a broad term that covers many different considerations - but in general argues that morality is a human endeavour, not a gods-given one. I am an ardent proponent of critical thinking, not belief.
 
A few years ago, on the bus from Bristol to Newport, a couple of young muslim women were having a rather heated and intense discussion in their native language. An older passenger was sitting behind them and was getting increasingly agitated. In the end she felt she had to intervene and she spoke up just as the bus drew in to the terminal. "You should at least learn to speak the language where you live!"

The younger passengers stopped, looked at each other , and then one of them decided to respond: "We are. We are speaking Welsh. Felly, nawr beth?"
 
billvon:

Are you saying you don't believe that Rowling is telling the truth when she reports that she has heard from other women who have received rape and death threats? Do you think she is just lying? Do you think she is unfairly demonising the kind-hearted souls who are trying to shut down speech about "trans rights"?

What would it take for you to believe that, in fact, other women have received such threats? I'm sure that first-hand accounts wouldn't be hard to find, if you were motivated to go look for them. Would you prefer to pretend it isn't happening?

And that includes you, does it? You assume you already know what her opinions and concerns are, without hearing what she herself actually has to say? And you're willing to pass judgment on her on the basis of what you've read about her, including the deluge of hate on the interwebs?

How do you go about determining whether somebody is a Nazi sympathizer or a Holocaust denier? Second-hand rumors?

Perhaps you think that concerns for the safety of women in such spaces are just "loudly complaining" and that they shouldn't be taken seriously? People certainly shouldn't be allowed to discuss them publically, without being shouted down by a mob. Right?

Is that your position on these issues? Sex is redundant, passe, outdated and irrelevant?

You probably think that "cultural appropriation" is a bad thing. If I were to "pretend" to be African American, you would probably have all kinds of concerns about that. But when it comes to men pretending to be women, you apparently don't have the same concerns. Why?

I must have missed something. When did Billvon say all of these things? Did Billvon even imply any of these things? Not from what I can tell. Could it be that is James simply making up shit (as per usual) so as to make himself out as the paragon of virtue? Heavens! Still, even for James that’s a lot of baseless assumptions to be making. Just seems like lying to me.

This is telling:
One thing she has said (I'm paraphrasing here, to be clear) is that accepting that any man who self-identifies as a women must be a woman is effectively "erasing sex". One of her concerns is that there was legislation in front of the British parliament that would have let anybody calling themself a woman use woman's changerooms and restrooms, with no requirement for any medical diagnosis of gender dysphoria, or any medical interventions, hormone therapy, transitioning or anything else. Just the person's say-so.

Such a law would allow a male sexual predator to enter women-only spaces with impunity, if he were willing to say "I am a woman". And in case you imagine there have been no cases of men who identify as women sexually assaulting women in restrooms, I'm here to tell you that there have been (and Rowling is, too).
Soooo… Cisgender people are committing these assaults; therefore, let’s hold transgender people responsible? Interesting. Perhaps James is just a bigot?
 
Tiassa
Ms Rowling has not yet told anyone to “kill their self” for their views.
But, in your attempt to defend parmalee’s use of those same words, you both come across as absolute"killer" cancelists.
That’s some real solid reasoning there. Move over Frege and Peirce, we have a new contender for greatest logician of all time!

But if this guy’s so concerned for the welfare of an avowed rape advocate, then what does that make him by the, uh, curious laws of this extraordinary new system ?
 
Sure - but recall the invisible knapsack (Peggy McIntosh - used it for white males; but it applies in many other cases) - we often have no idea or awareness of the privileges we are afforded; the most of us live in a small stereotyped world that forgets or ignores entire cultures, traditions, beliefs, or realisations. Our challenge is that we must always continue to work to overcome our shortfalls: Mao talked about continuous revolution - and and it's a good point: As soon as we are resting on our laurels we are no longer wearing them.
Definitely.

At my last job I was part of the team that came up with the DEI interviewer training guidelines. One of the most important parts of any interviewer's training is teaching them how to identify and counteract their own biases, which we all have.

The scariest thing to hear during any interviewer training is "I don't see race or religion or accent; I am completely impartial, so I don't need any of this." That means they will refuse to understand and work on their own biases.
 
The scariest thing to hear during any interviewer training is "I don't see race or religion or accent; I am completely impartial, so I don't need any of this." That means they will refuse to understand and work on their own biases.
When people say things like that, it doesn't even strike me as naively well-intentioned. It just seems more like a pre-emptive excuse for bigotry--like, "well, I did say that I don't see race..."
 
Soooo… Cisgender people are committing these assaults; therefore, let’s hold transgender people responsible? Interesting.
This is very, very common. James is a cis man; therefore, in his mind, some other group must be responsible for bad things that happen.

Just as in the US, crime is regularly blamed on illegal immigrants - despite the fact that US citizens are TWICE as likely to commit violent or property crimes than illegal immigrants. But those US citizens want someone to blame other than themselves for the problems.
 
This is very, very common. James is a cis man; therefore, in his mind, some other group must be responsible for bad things that happen.

Just as in the US, crime is regularly blamed on illegal immigrants - despite the fact that US citizens are TWICE as likely to commit violent or property crimes than illegal immigrants. But those US citizens want someone to blame other than themselves for the problems.
That's the thing about JK Rowling: some of her concerns are not unreasonable, but where she chooses to go with them? Confabulating preposterous scenarios wherein transgender persons are somehow accountable for the crimes of cisgender persons? Unbelievable. (Well, not really.)

And regarding Payton McNabb, the volleyball player who suffered a TBI from being spiked by a transgender woman (whom Rowling refers to as a trans-identified man), as somehow emblematic of a systemic problem? What, so no cisgender female volleyball players have ever caused other players to suffer serious head injuries? Seriously? TBIs are common in a number of professional sports--that is the problem. Not some transgender woman, who has--as per their own rules--been receiving hormone therapy for at least a couple of years prior.

Here's John Oliver's recent segment on transgender athletes, which includes a portion wherein he addresses some of Rowling's comments and claims. Especially of interest is the part where he addresses the oft-repeated claim that female athletes have lost 900 medals to transgender athletes. Firstly, it's not 900--the "study" counts a gold medal as three medals (due to gold/silver/bronze displacement, apparently). Secondly, it most certainly is not "according to the UN"--it's some private and not very scientific "study". Finally, many of the individuals who lost to transgender athletes have been interviewed and they enthusiastically accept and embrace these transgender athletes, and accept their own losses.
 
That's a conflation. "Alternative facts" was coined as a circumlocution for lying or deception. Moral relativism itself is a broad term that covers many different considerations - but in general argues that morality is a human endeavour, not a gods-given one. I am an ardent proponent of critical thinking, not belief.

Honestly, it reads more like you're doing that thing where you try to launder bigotry by dragging everything else down. Kind of like the old canard about how refusing racism is itself racist because it considers race. Or people dismissing prejudice according to vanilla ice cream.

Also, observe that I used the word "unanchored". You skipped over that in your rush to declare yourself a proponent of critical thinking. Unanchored critical thinking is arbitrary, or, as you put it, "gods-given".

Consider that—

Saying that everyone is a thinker doesn't undervalue thinking.

—not every homicide is murder, not every punch in the face is assault, and not every prejudice is bigotry. Saying that everyone is a "thinker" does undervalue what it means to be a "thinker". And that's what you've managed to do to bigotry.

It always stands out when we should hide what is notorious among the masses and accuse everyone.

My feeling is that 'bigot', belongs to that part of the dictionary reserved for polemical vocabulary.

Well, that goes for conduct, too, and therein lies the problem. Your argument would allow people to behave in certain ways while shielding them from the words that describe what they do.

And, as such, what would make bigotry so special as to reserve it for polemical value is precisely what you would erase by accusing everyone. This isn't new. It's not clever or innovative.

Indeed, there is no astrology that might tell me when I will next encounter this range of argument, but it's always so unsurprising when it finally comes up. The whole thing just feels dubious and dysfunctional. It's not just a lack of anchors, but also a refusal or avoidance of any such markers by which we might test an argument for its consistency.

Which, in turn, brings us back to a question of alternative facts:

We may stick to our opinions - even illogically or irrationally - but it might be that we do not consider logic or reason to be the foundation of our thinking, or even criteria for discussion. We may argue that feeling and emotional impact serve an illogical, irrational, but biological master.

What do you think would constitute reasonable accommodation of this circumstance?
 
Tiassa, I have no desire to launder bigotry. I would ascribe bigotry as a product of ignorance: It's sad, not bad.
You may be tired of hearing the same chimes - but you reject them every time. Why is that? You ask me for my stance - yet appear to believe that you are, somehow, superior to me, and many others - I make no such claims of myself, or of anyone else - and that includes you. I don't accept that there is an objective measure, and you feel that such a statement is a nihilistic slant - because, it appears, you will not accept that there can be a middle way. I do not claim to be a skilled orator - but neither do I consider that a skilled orator has any better hold on truth than I.

In my life I have met quite a few celebrities - some of them as famous as JKR or even more so. My experience has been that almost all of them have become ... adversely affected by the attention slathered onto them. Some of them are naive enough to believe that they have some oracular ability - but they do not.

We are deeply complex animals. We are incredibly skilled at narrative. Storytelling is what defines us amongst the primates. But the map is not the territory. And we are so bound up in our narratives - our own personal narratives of identity and truth and meaning - that we must ask ourselves: Is this really the territory? Or is it just another map?

We may consider identity to be a construct - but it's still potent for many of us. There is no 'one true perspective' for this sort of thing. It would be like saying that one cannot claim to have been to Paris if one hasn't been to the top of the Eiffel tower - regardless of the fact that many Parisians have not, and would not. But maybe that's not your point.

What is your point, really, Tiassa? Where do you stand? What is the truth you see so brightly?
 
My opinion is that everyone is a bigot

Never thought about it like that.
The younger passengers stopped, looked at each other , and then one of them decided to respond: "We are. We are speaking Welsh. Felly, nawr beth
That's funny.

There was a letter in the UK Metro a few years ago from Jewish man, he said the racism and Bigotry he encountered was mainly from Muslim men but there was one time he was in the supermarket and an old lady came up to him and said, "Get out of Palestine!"
He looked at her and said, "We're in Tesco."
He then looked in her shopping bag
"By the way those oranges you bought are probably from Israel."
 
Also, observe that I used the word "unanchored". You skipped over that in your rush to declare yourself a proponent of critical thinking. Unanchored critical thinking is arbitrary, or, as you put it, "gods-given".
No, I did not skip it. Where is the anchor? Where could we find an anchor? I doubt we want to turn to medieval thinking for an anchor. I would suggest that Bertrand Russell was the last to attempt to find an anchor, and his attempt was shown to lack any concrete foundation: That there cannot even be a foundation.

We cannot prove consistency, we can only demonstrate inconsistency. But your accusation seems to imply that you have discovered an anchor. Roll over Russell, I say, and share your insight, please. Regardless I dispute your assertion: We do not need an anchor to be critical thinkers: We can still demonstrate inconsistency, fallacy, and incoherence. Even more, we can persuade, as long as we do not patronise: Our path to persuasion is through empathy and understanding the views of others, as I stated above.

I am neither stating nor implying that we are lost in some inchoate chaos. My moral 'anchor' - albeit a soft one - is that this moment determines the next, and as we have a (much reduced) ability to determine our thoughts and actions, we hold some degree of responsibility: What we do, say, and think does, therefore, matter.

When we sit in some corner of the internet, fuming about those we will never meet, or even talk with - are we being responsible? We may have some insights, but if they are blended with invective, polarised thinking, arrogance or disgust - do we not think it is possible that such insights will lose any potency in light of the rage?

I have noticed, over the last two decades or so, an increase in the idea that browbeating - even outraged bullying - is used to silence opponents, to deny, or 'cancel', their views. Playing outraged victim as a means of excusing one's aggression is older than history. Yes, let's call it out. But we cannot do that by shouting back: It's a playground tactic that doesn't even work in the playground. Should we really normalise such behaviour by engaging in it? I would prefer to set a better example.
 
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It's a straightforward question with a straightforward answer: When was the last time a transgender woman caused you any trouble in a restroom or locker room?
If we ask our relatives - of any age, the following question...
"When was the last time another woman caused you trouble in a restroom or locker room?"
Most will have a story, or can think of a time. It begs the question: What does the qualifier prove?
That 'transgender' is a modern word.
 
I still don't quite understand why anyone deign to defend JKR's behaviour, or likewise deign to defend those who would threaten or bully her. Likewise, to attack either side is to give credence or legitimacy to their position. It's all so ... childish and sad.
 
I still don't quite understand why anyone deign to defend JKR's behaviour, or likewise deign to defend those who would threaten or bully her. Likewise, to attack either side is to give credence or legitimacy to their position. It's all so ... childish and sad.
You are allowed to express your opinion here because of freedom of speech. It's the right to speak, not whether Ms Rowlings is right or wrong.
 
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You are allowed to express your opinion here because of freedom of speech.
Yes. I have never been unaware of hyde rights and privileges that free speech affords me.
My point stands - being free affords me the opportunity to act responsibly in every moment that I have.
I sometimes fail - but I would not choose to abuse the opportunity to inspire, model behaviour - or indeed wirk to at least bring civility, non-harm or consideration into every conversation I engage in.
That is how I choose to exercise my freedom of speech.
 
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