On either side.
Starting - in many cases - with people finding themselves assigned to some "gun lobby" of bad character and rhetoric.
Hence the jamb.
What counts as not so long ago, in these Trumptacular days? It feels like it wasn't so long ago—well, okay, November—that
K. T. Nelson↱ asked the obvious question about Trump supporters: "How do you engage with someone who doesn't just not care if their aggressive political stances upset you, but wants you to get upset—someone for whom 'this makes people upset' is actually the whole reason to have that stance in the first place?"
These days later, our society finds itself somewhere between murmur and buzz and screech about civility, yet in its particular context one of the questions you and I might agree on is, "Civil compared to what?" It is easy enough to see, as Nelson considers, among certain quarters of the #trumpswindle ("It's supposed to be sad when we can't bring ourselves to sit down to a meal with people we disagree with"), or the incel tantrums demanding allocated sex partners or mass murder: Is there actually a polite way for one to go out of their way to be offensive? Is there a polite way to blackmail society that one would stop being violent if only women would sexually satisfy him? I think back over years—let's go with a decade, since I still invoke the hand grenade bit—and is there
really a
polite way to justify rape? Or if we want to be "civil" and not make those advocates nearly so uncomfortable, is there a polite way to advise women to suspect all men and then complain that feminism suspects all men? Is there a polite, "civil" way for a police chief to tell lies in defense of murderous racism? Is there a polite way to tank process in order to protect racist killers? It still feels like it somehow makes proverbial perfect sense that it was the head of the Fraternal Order of Police in
Baltimore who dropped the line about requiring unequivocal support. Is there really a polite, civil way to demand unequivocal support for lethal corruption?
Any given episode of folksy machismo probably doesn't live up to a police chief going after Black Lives Matter over a make-believe "Ferguson effect", but there is also a cumulative effect after
decades of consistent disrespect. And this really is a weird bit about the American firearms discussion: For all the chatter we've heard over the years about how there are no accidents, or the charming, folksy versions about not wasting ammo, the one consistent aspect about those self-gratifying distractions is insincerity.
Gun owners, in any collective sense, are
not in any way over the NRA. Do you remember once upon a time, probably during the Bush Jr. administration but especially as the GOP dropped its pretenses of civility during Obama's presidency, when it was possible to be surprised that independent generally voters broke Democratic because the only time you heard people actually calling themselves independents, they were also reciting Republican pitches? (It's also true most of my would-be independent friends who supported Democrats just called themselves socialists or liberals and eventually registered as Democrats, anyway.)
There are plenty of gun owners who try to distance themselves from the NRA, but what prevails over time is that even they will echo some of the most basic pop tripe dogma.
Not wasting ammo, or whatever folksy charmspin one wants to put on it, sounds wonderful, and all, except we already know gun owners simply refuse to be held accountable; our neighbor makes the point; while your conservative appeal to "the bothsides jamb" is about as desperate as when we hear it from other conservatives—
(One side wants to go out of their way to be deadly assholes, the other is sick and tired of that shit! It's a bothsides jamb! What a world, what a world!)
—the question, "Do you really believe that passing laws solves problems?" is a cheap evasion reminding his
mockery of "gun control"↑. How about,
skip the bullshit. He goes on to
make the point explicitly↑: "it's just good advice".
Yeah, if it worked, it would have worked. And the gun lobby certainly won't stand for good advice being made requisite under law. And the thing is, we already know the only body count high enough to discourage the gun lobby is the one that necessarily reduces its clients' sales because there aren't enough people left to buy the damn guns.
Meanwhile, it seems worth wondering what body count will satisfy our neighbor sufficiently to stop mocking the dead. I mean, sure, maybe he doesn't like the idea of mandatory responsibility, but going out of his way to remind why the gun lobby's pitch people can't be trusted doesn't do anything to help that "good advice" ring any more sincere.
To wit:
What's that? Another gun advocate bullshitting people the same way they have for decades. Well, shit, nothin' new, here.
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Notes:
Nelson, K. T. "Trump Fans Are Owning Libs by Losing All Their Friends". Vice. 9 March 2018. Vice.com. 7 July 2018. http://bit.ly/2oXBZwM