Would all members prefer it if moderators did not discuss and ask for options but just banned people they had continuous problems with? Is it wrong to discuss options with other moderators and then decide the best course?
I think we would prefer mods to ask each other for opinions on certain posts, and no pre-empt the punishment due by talking about a ban.
IE 'What do you think about this? <linkl>'
reply "That's worth a warning' kind of stuff, and take the consensus.