Discussion in 'About the Members' started by darksidZz, Jun 12, 2007.

1. ### kenworthdude...**** it,lets go bowlingRegistered Senior Member

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not since i was 14,i kissed someone and asked if she wanted to go out with me and she said she just wanted to be friends.luckily she is really ugly now.

3. ### shorty_37Go! Canada Go!Registered Senior Member

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so see rejection isn't always bad lolol

5. ### phlogisticianBannedBanned

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Hey, I'm not setting myself up as an 'expert', in fact, I can't see anything less atractive than some shagadelic sexpert giving advice!

I do however think I'm qualified to point out where Darksidz is taking the wrong approach. I appreciate it's more difficult to be calm and laissez faire about asking people out when he has little experience, and that comes with age and experience, but really, having the 'coupling' thought in his mind when he asks a girl out should set her alarms bells ringing, and if his lack of success is anything to go by, does!

7. ### shorty_37Go! Canada Go!Registered Senior Member

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I was totally kidding with ya

He needs all the help he can get lol
If he said anything about mating purposes to me i would take off......................:runaway:

8. ### nietzschefanThread KillerValued Senior Member

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I was always pretty cautious and scoped a "target" out pretty thoroughly before I bombed it.

There was one time I guess I was rejected and really soured my whole outlook on the "bar" scene also.

Was chatting with some Italian woman and after about 5mins she's like "Hey you got any change? I need some change..." I'm thinking shit, that's a nasty smoking habit if you have to hit that vending machine right fuking now. So I dump a few coins in her hand and she talked a bit more while she counted it(I figured she was lining up her loot for a run at the smokes machine), then she makes to go running through my pockets! I'm like "what the fuck, am I talking to a parking meter?".

Anyway I'd consider that rejection if you have hand over some money to carry a conversation with someone.

Toronto women - :crazy:

9. ### shorty_37Go! Canada Go!Registered Senior Member

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Shit and now you just have someone stealing  right out of your wallet......lmao

10. ### BenTheManDr. of Physics, Prof. of LoveValued Senior Member

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That's a load of shit. Guys want bad girls just as much as girls want bad guys---even if just for a few nights. You don't think Paris Hilton's boyfriends are looking for emotional attachment do you?

Ok darksidZz I'll tell you a story. I might have told you this already, but I can't remember.

I was always bad with women. Seriously bad. Hopelessly bad. I would buy flowers and ask them out, and always get responses like But we're such good friends'' etc. In this sense, I think DanceAndExplode is full of shit---it only works out very rarely that you end up with someone you've known a long time. More often you end up with someone who you match with on many levels, one of them a plutonic level. I would ask DanceAndExplode how many other boyfriends she's had that HAVEN'T been her friends.

Either way, I was terrible with girls. In high school I would write poems for a girl and buy her flowers, and then get shot out of the sky anyway. They would always use the same lines like I can't be the person that you really deserve'' and I don't want to lose our friendship'' and such---obvious bullshit lines that aparently come in some book or something. In college I tried doing the secret admirer'' thing to one girl, which she hated and never talked to me again. One girl I really liked loved NSYNC, for some unknown reason. So I bought a bunch of NSYNC puppets and made a video wherein the members of NSYNC told her what a great person I was, and how she should go out with me. That didn't work.

So finally I just gave up and said fuck it. I decided to be confident, and I decided to be good with women. I went to a party one night, and decided that I was going to hit on the most attractive woman there, and that I was going to get her phone number. So I did. And three years later we're still together.

So I was good with women. Once

This is all it takes man---you have to decide that you want a woman, just like you have to decide that you want to lose weight, and you have to decide to quit smoking. Nobody here can give you anymore advice than this. Go ask a bunch of women out. Put up an add on fling.com or hornymatches.com saying that you're a virgin---some chicks may really want to deflower you, who knows? But more importantly, what have you got to lose? Ten bucks a month? You live with your freaking parents---you can swing that.

Like Richard Feynman said---"What do YOU care what people think?"

If you haven't done so already, I'm telling you, I'm BEGGING you, go and rent a copy of Swingers from NetFlix or something. You NEED to see this movie.

11. ### shorty_37Go! Canada Go!Registered Senior Member

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Put up an add on fling.com or hornymatches.com saying that you're a virgin---some chicks may really want to deflower you, who knows? But more importantly, what have you got to lose?

I think this advice is shit!!!
He isnt a bad looking guy. He just has built this thing up so much he is a nervous wreck. The mating talk and female talk has to go.
He sounds too much like a dork....if he just relaxed and didnt put so much
pressure on himself he will meet someone.

12. ### BenTheManDr. of Physics, Prof. of LoveValued Senior Member

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Please, that advice is GOLD. If he just gets laid a few times, he'll BE relaxed. Doesn't it work that way for you? Even if he gets laid once, it'll be a start---he won't have to spend his free time beating off to anime porn and thinking up new poll ideas.

13. ### DanceAndExplodeFear me, for I am Death.Registered Senior Member

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Well majority of my bf's started out as friends first, so i guess it depends on the person, and what they feel comfortable with?... i was just saying that in my case, it worked out, but i know in others, it may not...

14. ### BenTheManDr. of Physics, Prof. of LoveValued Senior Member

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Fair enough---it's just always worked out the compete opposite for me. To be fair, I once HOPED that it worked out this way. But then, you and I were never friends

15. ### DanceAndExplodeFear me, for I am Death.Registered Senior Member

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hmmm... are you suggesting something??

16. ### shorty_37Go! Canada Go!Registered Senior Member

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Yeah i never ended up with the guy who brought me flowers and stuff..........they were the ones that did that whenever i was already taken lol

17. ### phlogisticianBannedBanned

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I agree completely. It's about being calm, and not really investing too much in the asking out. If Dark is really asking for a fuck, when he should only be asking for a date, he'll be tense. Once he's got some experience, and sex isn't a big thing anymore, he'll chill out, take a step back, and hopefully be able to engage females in conversation without having 'coupling' at the front of his thoughts.

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19. ### nietzschefanThread KillerValued Senior Member

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I have to agree, for men, virginity is a huge BURDEN to be gotten rid of.

20. ### originalsineRegistered Senior Member

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It is good that an argument for both prostitution and birth control has been validated by this topic.

21. ### shorty_37Go! Canada Go!Registered Senior Member

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WHAT WHAT!! I wasn't your first??????????

22. ### nietzschefanThread KillerValued Senior Member

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Do you really want to go there?

23. ### shorty_37Go! Canada Go!Registered Senior Member

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RELAX .....you are uptight