"You have left your children home alone with a paedophile."

Would you apply the same rules to a divorced man meeting a new girlfriend? I bet not.

 

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why are you making a big deal out of this situation as if it is impossible that the woman may have had even blatant signs but ignored it?

what about people who don't have a record? is a woman not responsible to pay attention and just rely on the law or a record?

again, this case is so open and shut according to this evidence but why are you upset that people may scrutinize or wonder if she may have some responsiblity? you live in australia, we don't. why aren't you telling us why they protect the criminal by keeping the records closed.

i don't understand why you post something so obvious as a topic. what did you expect?

 

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of course but we know statistically that men tend to do the majority of the sexual crimes so as a woman she needs to be even more careful. so let's stop feigning there.

 

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really? and what happened here-->"It was not the first time the man, while on the child protection register, had moved in with a woman and abused her daughter. His last victim was just 13 months old when he committed an act of indecency on her.

In that case, the police had previously warned the baby's mother that her new partner was a registered child offender - but she stayed with him."

what i mean by an open and shut case is obviously they should be held responsible for not telling her which you keep saying i or others are ignoring. everyone on this thread agrees with that as it's so obvious but what seems equally strange is you are not open to the idea at all that she may have some personal responsiblity as in signs or behavior.

it's true that it's speculation but it did open up dialogue regarding that which is important, don't you think?

don't you think that there are many people that can feign ignorance and irresponsibility when they may in fact could have prevented it?

 

Ok you obviously have a very subjective view on this. But put yourself I the position of a single mother, who wants a normal relationship like everyone else, who needs help to support herself and her children. She is obviously vulnerable in this situation but not totally culpable. If you want to go back to the root cause of this situation look at the child’s father, make laws to make him stay with wife and child and this would never arise. All too easy to be self-righteous and judgemental about a lone woman just trying to cope with life..

 

no, actually i am being more objective. i know this is speculation but it's also just as blind to assume that women in these situations have no responsiblity when in fact they may have. people are taking this more personally when they don't know this woman. this topic can be used to speculate or why else bring up this topic that is so, again, obvious. they did not tell her and of course they are at major fault. again, in real life, you cannot just count on the police or the law.

i was just making people think and consider what's behind and what else could be there besides the obvious 'evidence'.

my subjective experience is more realistic than this assumption that people are just vulnerable and never culpable.

i'm sorry, i assumed this forum was intelligent and beyond third grade logic. i thought the answers to these questions would be obvious to anyone and that you were just patronizing the obvious.

 

Uh-oh, Light. I think someone on this forum has a bone to pick with you. According to this person, women in NSW have “absolutely” no way of knowing anything about the man they’re having sex with. Apparently they just lie back, close their eyes, and hope that the authorities tell them all about the guy.

I think that, yes, being the penetratee, she is submitting herself to the penetrator. And, if my memory serves me properly, “having sex” is a major prerequisite to “living together”. Then she left him in charge of the children while she checked into the hospital. So, yeah, she submitted herself and her family to him. Again, the fact being, she made him an intimate part of her life and her family’s life as someone in a position of authority.

Uhh.... Bells, does this looks like you baited me? I simply replied to your charge that I supposedly made a “quite astounding” claim that she was having sex with him.

Again, the only news article on this story does not clearly state who knew what and when.
* Where in the article does it say that she didn't know he was a pedophile?
* Where does it say that the authorities knew he was a pedophile living there all the while?
* Where does it say that they didn’t remove the children while she was hospitalized?
* Where does it say that they removed her children from her care, where you made it most emphatic that they were under her care at the time?
Please show where the news article states these supposed facts.

This is a ridiculous supposition.

 

This is true, but sexual abuse is not the only type of abuse and women are equally as capable of inflicting physical and emotional abuse on step children...

 

So we both agree. It makes no sense that DOCS informed her that he’s a pedophile, then showed up to investigate a yelling incident (which they wouldn’t do anyway).

Okay then, per the article:

1. Unsuspecting mother … blah blah … fell in love, three more kids

2. Complications … checks into the hospital

3. “You have left your children home alone with a paedophile”

4. Check out, run home, discovers the rape [AND DOES NOT REPORT IT]

5. DOCS investigates yelling, discovers the [UNREPORTED] rape, and removes children

 

Why the FUCK are we all choosing to blame the woman?

Yeah, she might have noticed something weird in his voice, or body language. Those things don't tell you someone is a pedophile.

The fact is the authorities knew he was a pedophile and chose to keep this to themselves. You dismiss that as an aside, but you expect her to psychically sense that the guy is a pedophile?

But hey, everything is women's fault. Can't get laid? Blame it on those bitches. Social problems? Narcotics? Yup, women's fault. If those whores would only stay in the kitchen, we'd all be okay.

You people make me want to puke.

 

no, it's called scrutinizing and questioning instead of being gullible and taking this at superficial face value.

how many times does it need to be repeated that if the woman really is innocent, then she is innocent.

but we really don't know that. and the point is in these situations, she may have really failed or even was complicit. often, things are allowed to escalate until something full-blown like this happens. i can't count how many times i've heard almost the same story in group and how thier mothers failed to protect them and it's not a matter of not knowing. it was escalating abuse or inappropriate behavior that lead to even more bold moves. the girl is too young right now but we'll see what she has to say in the future and what she knows was going on in that household.

your shallow assessment is indicative that you don't know about these situations very well to even question beyond what seems to be in front of you.

 

You don't know anything else about it either, but for some reason you've chosen to focus on the woman and what you feel she probably did wrong. Why?

 

The article does not say that she reported the rape, so it would be wrong for me to claim that she did.

 

Dont they have pedophile registers in Australia?

If you meet a guy and decide to have him around your children when you are not home then you should look into it.

It is probably illegal for the govt. to get involved before any new crime and this is because of liberal litigation.