I've always made a habit of throwing my conservative prejudices around this place but I think maybe I'm getting worn down finally. I have a problem with commitment, but not the usual one. That is, every decision I make is supposed to last a lifetime and when it doesn't it's some kind of personal failure..of course that's not a realistic expectation for many many things. It's a pride/perfectionist stance that doesn't make a lot of sense to many people. It's an ever changing life for an ever changing being in an ever changing world. I remember writing long ago on this forum that I was happily married to the same woman I've been with since I was 15 years old and have been faithful to for 20+ years (which is the honest truth). One poster replied something to the effect of ..."How can you be happy with divorce looming?" In America it's a damn valid question. Everyone It seems have been divorced at least once and many men don't think twice about an "on the side" fling. So that makes me wonder, with men (as we are) living in a hyper-sexualized social environment what is a reasonable expectation? For instance, if a man is faithful 99.9% of the time, always coming home and giving his love and hard earned pay to one woman who meets all of his intellectual, emotional and domestic needs, were to slip and have a one night stand with a stranger I'm inclined to believe that it would still meet the criteria of monogamy, be it a variant of one definition. Of course, that's not me...6 weeks of guilt and I'd confess, crying like a baby and begging for forgiveness.