Why do women make eye contact?

Discussion in 'Human Science' started by artistmosi, Mar 24, 2006.

  1. Orleander OH JOY!!!! Valued Senior Member

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    I always make eye contact and smile. My husband says its because I was raised in sparsely populated Nebraska and and I am thrilled to see another human being
     
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  3. Captain Kremmen All aboard, me Hearties! Valued Senior Member

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    I'd definitely have took it back and got the dollar.
    It would take about 30 seconds tops. $2 per minute.
    That's good wages.
     
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  5. ScribJellyDonut Registered Senior Member

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    Well since a number of girls have already answered, I feel grossly underqualified to do so, but I will offer my experiences anyways. Usually, and at least in a social situation, when a girl is looking into your eyes she is trying to get your attention and wouldn't mind talking with you. A lot of women are certainly too shy to initiate the conversation, so this is how they initiate contact I suppose. I've never had a girl do that and I go to speak with her and gotten the cold shoulder.

    Actually, and I can probably count the number of times this has happened on two hands, I have caught girls looking at me, and I look/stare back (depending on my mood I may look away or stare into her eyes). We exchange smiles having been caught looking at one another (and sometimes a silent little 'hey'). Then the girl will come talk to me. Not being a braggard, and like I said I could count on two hands how many times it's happened in 26 years, but It's a surprise and a bit of fresh air to say the least.
     
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  7. visceral_instinct Monkey see, monkey denigrate Valued Senior Member

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    Ah yes. All women, or at least all women but for a few exceptions, are spoiled and whiny.

    WHY THE FUCK IS THIS MISOGYNIST FASHION TOLERATED EVERYWHERE?
     
  8. chimpkin C'mon, get happy! Registered Senior Member

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    VI, Sche was doing a little thread necromancy, that jerk isn't here anymore...
     
  9. scheherazade Northern Horse Whisperer Valued Senior Member

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    :bugeye: Hey, there......play nice all.

    Yeah, I was digging up bones, based on what some of the 'silent majority' are viewing. I tend to do a bit of research and look at more than just page 1 of 'Who's On-line.'

    Fourteen posts, not counting the zombie remark, is more than many threads see in a day, even with the 'additional content and detours'.

    I rest my case.

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    (Makes eye contact as she surveys the room)

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  10. Dywyddyr Penguinaciously duckalicious. Valued Senior Member

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    They don't.
    They just scream and run away.


    Oh, did you mean with other guys?
     
  11. scheherazade Northern Horse Whisperer Valued Senior Member

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    You have given words to the context very well, Scribe. That's precisely how the language of eye contact can work, especially when two people are in a social situation and feeling excluded by the more active and vocal membership, as frequently comes about as these functions. Sometimes it is boredom, sometimes attraction, often a bit of insecurity, that may cause women to seek eye contact with others, including men.

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  12. scheherazade Northern Horse Whisperer Valued Senior Member

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    What aspect of your form would precipitate such a response from the female gender, Dywyddr?

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    Post a picture for us, why don't you.....

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  13. scheherazade Northern Horse Whisperer Valued Senior Member

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    In my observation, the male persons who make such claim in regard to female persons are usually reflecting their own inadequacies.

    I am confident and assertive, though learning to be much less so.

    Apparently those traits are disconcerting to many guys as well, lol......

    That's fine. I set the bar high because I only have patience for one at a time. I've married the best.....you girls can fight over the rest, lol.....

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  14. billvon Valued Senior Member

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    I've found it's also very much a function of what society you are in and what their expectations are. To use the two most extreme examples I can think of -

    I used to work in Manhattan, and on the subways there no one ever looked at anyone else. If they did, more often than not some conflict would arise. "Hey spare a quarter man" "Turn that damn radio down." The expectation was that contact with someone else would generally be a bad thing. So people avoided each other and didn't look at each other if they didn't have to.

    The other extreme is Burning Man, a rather bizarre art/culture/camping event in Nevada. There's an expectation there that any interaction with someone else will lead to something good; an invitation to a party, directions to a particularly interesting piece of art, a margarita. That's reflected in the amount of eye contact people make. Everyone is looking at everyone, and that leads to a lot more chance meetings between people.
     
  15. wynn ˙ Valued Senior Member

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    It's common in Europe.
    The coin functions as a part of the lock system - you insert a coin which releases the lock on the chain that keeps the individual cart connected to the others in the line.
    You can also buy a special coin on a chain that you use only for shopping carts (like in the first picture).

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    That's strange. I would think Americans readily make eye-contact.
    I don't like people who avoid eye-contact.
    This is why I dislike Nigella Lawson, to TV cook - the woman barely ever looks straight into the camera!
     
  16. wynn ˙ Valued Senior Member

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    At some point, self-deprecation becomes boring.
     
  17. scheherazade Northern Horse Whisperer Valued Senior Member

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    Good examples, billvon.

    My experience has been largely restricted to living in areas of smaller population base, although I do get to Vancouver and Ottawa on rare occasion.

    Even in the Yukon, there is an observable cultural difference around eye contact between those of Caucasian culture and those of First Nations culture. The younger people of First Nations birth and some of their more charismatic leaders are adopting the practice of greater eye contact in response to audio-visual context of the connected world, I observe.
     
  18. scheherazade Northern Horse Whisperer Valued Senior Member

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    Those of us from a culture that utilizes eye-contact tend to be discomfited by others who shy away from our scrutiny, observably so.

    Until one has spent some time around cultures where eye-contact is not the norm, this difference can make communication somewhat less than trustful.

    I vary the amount and duration of eye-contact I use to suit the culture that I am engaging. Admittedly, most of my interactions are with Caucasians, North American First Nations and landed immigrants from Mexico, South America and a few from China.
     
  19. cosmictraveler Be kind to yourself always. Valued Senior Member

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    I guess you didn't date many before you were married. That's both a good and bad thing depending upon how you take it. I only am making an observation not trying to throw a wrench into your happy life with your husband/partner. Many women do the same thing and just end up with someone that they can manipulate easily to suit their own purposes and goals in their lives.
     
  20. scheherazade Northern Horse Whisperer Valued Senior Member

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    Actually, I have 'intimate knowledge' of more than a few

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    , and cohabited with four men before meeting my first husband. After 15 years, we parted on good terms and then I met my present husband.

    I am neither easily manipulated, nor a manipulator, though I understand the point your are speaking to.
     
  21. Orleander OH JOY!!!! Valued Senior Member

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    oh cosmic, you make me sad

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    so jaded
     
  22. chimpkin C'mon, get happy! Registered Senior Member

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    Owch.
    I thought the point was to have a shared purpose that you hopefully worked towards together...

    Although in my marriage that's not quite how it worked out...sort of a moving argument, or as I said to our marriage counselor "Bickering lesbians...or whatever I am, now showing at 3 pm!"
     
  23. Me-Ki-Gal Banned Banned

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    Wow!! You been to Burning Man . That is quite the event . I thought about going to that . Yeah dancing days are here again .

    O.K. I got a hypnotist trick for you all . When you look at someones face lock at the base of there nose . Yeah it gives the impression you are look right deep in there eyes . Old Hypnotists learn this so as to have a look of unshaken nerves of steal . Your client base will grow for any of you in the hypnotist business. Your base will broaden by this one trick . It also works for looking like your confidence level is high in your abilities ( what ever that may be . I learned it from an old hypnotist book years ago and it has served Me well . I don't use it anymore sense I learn the tell your self " I love you about the person you make eye contact with . WHen you do that you get a rubber next every time . I do it in people peripheral view now and they still rubber neck back with a big smile . Blows my mind . It almost feels like they can hear Me thinking . I think they can . It is so strange . It attracts people to Me in a bizarre way too . Then I watch them interact with the next people they come into contact with and there is an exchange of similar fashion . I seen it happen to the most of sour pussies . At first I was sure I was reading something that was not there and my own delusions were making Me feel like there was an effect . I don't think so . I am going to go do the experiment again right now at the store soon as i finish this post . It is starting to effect the whole community is what I think . Yeah over all mood of the community is being infected by Me little virus of love . You can think Me crazy all you want . It fucking works . I got it from my secret book with the 7 scrolls . That is were I really got it . Not from criminals , but after realizing the power of the tool I noticed criminal types use the rule very successfully to there advantage . It is a look on the face and when you say to your self as you make eye contact " I Love You " stand back and watch for your self then come tell Me I am crazy . I am going to go infect some more people right now . Later , Molly Dagger breaths that dragon air . Infected with Meki Disease. Watch out Tiasi ( What kind of weird spelling is that anyway, I know I fucked it up this time ) You are in my circle of influence. You might catch me virus of love . You to Spidey !! I think Spidey Did Did Already
     

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