# Why do men shout at women in the street?

Discussion in 'Human Science' started by Stryder, Mar 25, 2011.

1. ### StryderKeeper of "good" ideas.Valued Senior Member

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I haven't suffered this too much myself being a guy, occasionally maybe a drunken girl probably not squinting correctly through one eye, but for the most part it's not something that occurs to men too often.

The same can be said of groping (although again, there's been times I've been nipped, poked or cupped), being a guy however I pretty much ignored the instances, I didn't complain or "follow" things up, I just assumed that certain people under the influence of alcohol can sometimes lose self-control and do things spontaneously.

For women however it can be a threatening experience if they have men call, taunt or grope and it's something that various groups are reportedly trying to stop.

The group mentioned is located at http://www.stopstreetharassment.com
I thought I would bring this to light for both discussion and because I know that a few women that post here might well want to know about this if they didn't already.

In any case a question to kickstart discussion is already quoted:
Why do men shout at women in the street?

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3. ### DeeCeeValued Senior Member

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Could we change that to..

"Why do idiots shout at women in the street?"

Gender neutral, more accurate and don't make me feel bad for being a bloke.

Dee Cee

5. ### Me-Ki-GalBannedBanned

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Well for Me it is when I see someone I know I yell out Hey Lauren Wait up !! Where you going ? Did you get that E-mail I sent you ? Is it doable ?

7. ### sifreak21Valued Senior Member

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i saw a couple the other day some @%## was yelling at some @#$^&$% across the street it was quite funny. the guy was just walkin she was mirrioring him on the other side of the street

8. ### StryderKeeper of "good" ideas.Valued Senior Member

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That is indeed true, obviously I titled this based upon the gender bias of the initial report and/or group. As I mentioned though it can occur to either gender, obviously though women are more victimised by it.

To be honest though I doubt you felt bad for being a bloke, you just felt bad there are "idiots" that happened to be blokes.

That's Empathetic of you, something that those "idiots" wouldn't understand.

9. ### StryderKeeper of "good" ideas.Valued Senior Member

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Well that's dependent on if "Lauren" wants the world to know her name and if her steps get faster in a way to evade. In essence if she's a friend that you should be able to approach her civilly without asking her to "get her breasts out" or telling her that you "want to rump-ride her (possibly including the word "sore" here)". (This incidentally aren't things I would state, but things I have commonly heard yelled)

10. ### drumbeatRegistered Senior Member

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Why do people shout at other people in the street?

It's nothing to do with women or men.

11. ### Me-Ki-GalBannedBanned

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I don't know if that is true or not . Perceptions of female / male rolls by gender pigion holing plays a big roll in what is unacceptable behavior . Where as if the same act was commented on a Man the thought of the day would be that there is no victim status for the Man . This is in the process of change though, were as the culture in America is moving towards aggressive behavior in the feminine side of society and the male side is taking on an opposite roll also . I first noticed the change in the school girls when my daughters where growing and progressively the girls where taking on aggressive fight instead of flight attitudes . They would follow through on viciousness more often than there male counterparts . The Guys would lay back and say Wo check that out. The trend was national too and still might be .

12. ### BellsStaff Member

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I think it is more the:

"Hey luv, show us ya tits"..

And the:

"Wanna ride my pole?"..

Or the:

"Bend over so I can do you standing up"..

I hear comments like that every morning when I'd go to work from slack jawed construction workers who work on the various projects that are always underway in a city. And they do it to most women who are unfortunate to have to walk past there to get to their own buildings to work.

Why they do it? I have no idea.

I have discovered that an ipod and the volume turned up loudly works wonders.

13. ### Me-Ki-GalBannedBanned

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I might whisper that in her ear . Maybe if she wanted Me to say it louder I would have to do it. I am a slave dude . I have to do what my female Goddesses ask . I have no choice if I want to live

14. ### Me-Ki-GalBannedBanned

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O.K. your talking about Me again !! We are cave animals with beastly lust from all the testosterone flowing threw our blood by the physical work that we do. Now once and a while a girl ends up on the crew , not something most women will do . It takes a women with true grit to work in the construction industry, but The woman that suffers through the indignation of construction vulgarities wins the respect of the working class that leads a life of danger day by day . Yeah construction is an occupation pit with hazards and the vulgarly is one way the set group deals with the physical pain of day to day tasking . You should hear how we talk to our buddy worker right next to us . The dog is getting sore if anyone out there understands that bit of lingo

15. ### BellsStaff Member

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So she wins the respect of her co-workers if she ignores the sexual harassment from her co-workers?

Okay...

That is an interesting way to put it I guess.

16. ### DeeCeeValued Senior Member

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I try to be none judgemental but seeing as I'm currently a christian I feel entitled to.

Men who sexually harrass women (for thats what it is) in the street are common folk who lack breeding they are also almost certainly atheists.
On the other hand I once had a friend who quiet openly asked women for sex within minutes of being introduced. Theory being, if only one in a hundred women would be prepared to entertain congress with him then statistically he only need ask 100 women a day to be assured daily coitus.
Strange to say it seemed to work for him.
I once saw him ask a girl he had met ten minutes previous "I'm going to the toilet, you commin' with me?" She went.

It's about time women recognised their power and brought men into line.
Don't go to the toilet with us that just makes us worse.

Dee Cee EO & Gee

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17. ### visceral_instinctMonkey see, monkey denigrateValued Senior Member

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Because they're fucking worthless knockoffs who don't deserve the term human being.

The thing that pisses me off is when young adolescent boys do it. At least a grown man has some 20 kilograms on me. Of course he's not intimidated by my 'Fuck off and die'. Why would he be? But the added arrogance of a smaller, weaker KID doing it, assuming that just because he is male and I am female he is the powerful one and I am some sort of prey animal even though he's lighter, weaker and younger...Fuck. I had a 13-14ish boy do this with his friends when I went to use a public toilet. I just looked at this fucking child, this little weed who must have had less testosterone in him than I have at his age, assuming the role of powerful/dominant hunter and thinking I must be some sort of little victim because I was a woman...I wanted to hurt that thing so bad. I wanted to fucking pull his limbs off one by one.

18. ### livingin360Registered Senior Member

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are you talking about people that shout stuff like damn girl!?

19. ### chimpkinC'mon, get happy!Registered Senior Member

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I think it's a combo of two things: Male privilege and testosterone.

They can get away with being obscene without being looked down on or getting attacked-in fact it probably raises their status in the eyes of the guys around them.

This part may be a projection of what I feel when it happens to me, though...and guys may or may not mean it like this:
It's as if they are saying: "You may think you're important, and have a good job, but you're just a piece of meat, and I can come get you, like it or not."
So an expression of dominance and a threat.

Also, guys really do think about sex all the time. Even the nice ones. It's the testosterone, it does that.

20. ### visceral_instinctMonkey see, monkey denigrateValued Senior Member

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No.

About little shits who shout sexual things at me and think that even though I'm older, heavier and stronger I'm their little helpless victim and they own the world because they're male.

21. ### Me-Ki-GalBannedBanned

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There has never been sexual harassment on any Job I have been on in my life time of more than 40 years of building. It just don't happen . If it does you will be down the road so fast you will wonder how we cut your check so fast because even the fastest of computers are slower than the time it hit your hand . Vulgarity in construction is part of the developed language of the business and is part of the tasking and if you don't understand the language you are not going to be in the construction industry long . Now my wife when she worked for Washington Corp she would make the guys put a quarter in a jug when ever they used the word Fuck and she replaced it with the word combo of Fire Truck and the Men obeyed the rule as it was a game there minds could relate to. That was one word on one crew . It is a daunting task to root out the whole vocabulary used on jobs in the entire industry , but hey if the rest of the world wants to legislate it with all the other ridiculous legislation going on power to the people

22. ### visceral_instinctMonkey see, monkey denigrateValued Senior Member

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I have a very high sex drive. I also have a natural revulsion at the idea of violating someone's boundaries like that.

I remember being 16 and sitting in the same room as a guy I liked at a young people's activity and feeling so rabidly horny I thought I might black out. But you didn't see me bother him. I didn't even talk to him.

23. ### visceral_instinctMonkey see, monkey denigrateValued Senior Member

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It's not the word fuck that is the problem, nor other curse words. You can say shit every other word and still not threaten someone or violate their boundaries.