A note on enabling behavior and mutual degradation Keep pushing the issue, continue to be social, and stand against the hatred. Any fight for justice is going to suffer casualties. In the meantime, we think poorly of "enabling". You don't give a recovering alcoholic a drink; you don't give a recovering junkie a shot. This is no different; accommodating the problem only perpetuates it and increases the harm. You remember the old discussion, don't you? Are you a machine? Are you without will? I would not presume so. But others would: You're a man, nothing more than a hand grenade, and tight jeans on a woman pull the pin. After that, you shouldn't be held responsible for exploding. It's not the grenade's fault if someone pulls the pin. Or so goes the argument. And that's the sort of thing that denigrates men in seeking to justify bad behavior.