The less you care to get them, the more they care to get you. I've gone through spurts of having three or more girls very happily offering up (I'm seventeen), and only recently I've noticed that every one of these spurts comes when I have stopped wanting a girl, stopped trying to get a girl and couldn't give two shits how I act in front of a girl. For the most part, I'm the jackass that people talk about when they say "nice guys finish last". When I don't care about getting a girl I basically act as I do with men - everything I say/do is either for intellectual purposes or t find/enjoy humour. So a joke I make may have me look like nothing more than an asshole to one girl - but to her friend it some how makes her attracted to me. If I understood this any less I'd be completely useless. So far I haven't figured it out, I'm just rolling with it. Point is - never look like you're trying. If you're trying, they know they don't have to try. IMPORTANT: This only pertains to getting women! Once you have a girlfriend you care about, obviously you just act naturally and let her know you are trying to make her happy. Just always always always act naturally. Whether it's pre-girlfriend (when you just act like your natural, not-trying-to-get-laid self), or during a girlfriend.