What does love feel like?

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  1. Cactus Jack Death Knight of Northrend Registered Senior Member

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    Allright, in good metaphor/philosophical terms what - from personal experience - does love feel like?

    For me, its every moment your mind has free time your thinking about the person. You don't see her for a day you're missing her, and even when you do see her dring the day it always seems like it wasn't enough time spent together. You burn for physical contact, I can't believe shes real, something so beautiful can't be real. You burn for return feelings, for discussion, for interaction. And most imprtantly shes perfect, not as in some impossible to fill ideal created by man, but in your standards, and as a human shes perfect. Also shes so beautiful its like looking at the stars, you can make a second last an eternity. And you never get sick of being with her.

    Oh, well.......... :(

    What about you guys?
     
  2. Squid Vicious Banned Banned

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    Don't worry cactus, that feeling wil pass and you'll begin to think again ;) :p
     
  3. Tyler Registered Senior Member

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    Not wanting to leave her side. Spending the time away from her only thinking about her. When you wake up and are in pain because you don't have her. When you could spend hours just holding her, and not doing anything else.

    That was what kicked me the first time. When I was very happy to just hold her for a few hours. That was a new experience for me.
     
  4. Asguard Kiss my dark side Valued Senior Member

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    I agree

    when there is nothing you want to do but hold her and kiss her that is love

    when you don't want to leave her (even if you have to) and miss her as soon as she gets on the train thats love
     
  5. Adam §Þ@ç€ MØnk€¥ Registered Senior Member

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    Like warm apple pie...
     
  6. Xev Registered Senior Member

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    Adamski! ;)

    I think Cactus' description is the closest.

    Love? When your heart beats a little faster when you see him. When his voice is enough to send a small shiver of what is called 'electricity'* down your spine. When his presence - well, you get the idea. Describing love physiologically is rather difficult.

    It is one thing when his presence can do this, and quite another when his ideas do. The combination of the physical sensation and the - how do I put this? - intellectual sensation, that is love.

    You'll get over it, Cactus. You want devotion? Get a dog, I recommend a German Shepard or Golden Retriever.

    *What the hell is that, anyway?
     
  7. Pollux V Ra Bless America Registered Senior Member

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    Cactus you seem to have the whole concept down, no one can really tell you that you're in love unless you know yourself. The feeling is generally the same, I'm without it right now but I don't really mind. Just have to keep my eyes peeled....

    Xev have we met before?

    Hahaha just kidding.
     
  8. Cactus Jack Death Knight of Northrend Registered Senior Member

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    I think this quote from the Matrix describes the knowing for yourself thing the best:

    "Being the one is like being in Love, you just know it from balls to bones."
     
  9. orthogonal Registered Senior Member

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    It's the other way-around with me. When I see or hear something beautiful, I tend see it in the context of her, that is, the metaphors flow the other way...

    Glenn Gould perfoming a passage from one of Bach's Goldberg Variations is interpreted through my memory of lying on my back on a summer morning with her head on my chest. I'm still half-asleep but I hear her softly echoing a morning dove down in the garden.

    Occasionally when I visualize a curve in mathematics, my mind drifts, and I'm thinking of the curve I feel as my hand runs across the small of her back. I suspect another man might see as much in the shape of a yacht's hull, or in the flow of a stream. There are countless examples, for all aesthetic beauty is derived from this singular feminine curve. This is the source.

    There used to be a sculpture of Venus in the Montreal Museum of Fine Arts that I particularly enjoyed. This Venus had nearly the same pleased little smile that greeted me at the door, one day soon after I was married. My wide had baked her first loaf of bread and was excited that I should try a piece. I remember the look on her face at that moment twenty years ago, better than if I'd taken a photograph of her.

    Most everything of pure beauty I enjoy in this world seems to be related to her.

    Michael
     
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  10. Pollux V Ra Bless America Registered Senior Member

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    Ortho,

    Are you having better luck with this love thing than the rest of us?
     
  11. TruthSeeker The Truth is Out There Valued Senior Member

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    Peace

    When I lose my peace I know that my Love is fading out and my desire and need are coming up. I do my best to stay in Love...
     
  12. Tyler Registered Senior Member

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    I don't think peace sums it up. Nelson, correct me if I'm wrong but I was pretty sure you hadn't had a girlfriend let alone experienced love in the way we're discussing. Peace is more of an artsy-fartsy kind of bad metaphore for it.
     
  13. TruthSeeker The Truth is Out There Valued Senior Member

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    Tyler,

    I had a girlfriend... and I'll tell you my experience.

    Before I went out with her, I really Loved her. I missed her, but not enough to lose my inner peace. I was having fun and enjoying life with her. The problem came when I began to go out with her. I tasted the sweet honey of a girl's lip and fell in despair whenever she wasn't with me - she became an addiction. I couldn't have fun anymore when I was alone, and whenever she was with me, I wanted to stay with her and don't let her go. She started feeling umcomfortable with the situation and broke with me. It was really painful - I had lost my Love.

    You see. My Love turned into love. My joy and simplicity were transformed into an addiction, a need. That's why people say that love hurts. It doesn't. Love is very peaceful. Love creates peace. Why do you want to go out with someone? To be fulfilled by the other person? To discount all your problems in the other person? Or it is simply to have fun? I don't know about you... but everything I want is to have fun and to be happy. :)

    You see... people transform Love into an addiction (and sometimes it's addiction since the beginning) and this creates suffering. If, for example, a guy want to stay with a girl that is addicted to him, he can control her. She becomes his pet. She does everything he wants because if she doesn't, the guy won't give her "love" and she suffers. She is addicted to him. He abuses her. Who is to blame? Anyone. She wants that, he wants that and that's it. Not very pleasant, but many people are like this. That's NOT Love. Love is self-fulfilling. You don't NEED other person neither other person NEEDS you. You just want to have fun. If there is a need/attachement, you don't Love each other, you just want to be with the other to satisfy YOUR "NEED"... what is very selfish...

    People know love...
    But don't know Love...

    love creates suffering and addiction...
    Love creates inner peace and happiness...
    :)

    Love,
    Nelson
     
  14. Cactus Jack Death Knight of Northrend Registered Senior Member

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    I have to admit that's admirable, a guy whos so into the subject of Love he has two meanings for it: Non-capitalized and Capitalized.

    I know what you mean though, love (note capitalization) is painful, because once its gone it is just like going cold turkey from an addiction. It feels as if it's been ripped from you. I think people get addicted physicaly to the reactions in the brain cause by love and commitment. They also get addicted physcologicaly too.

    I have a question I'm pondering Nelson, can one feel love and Love toward another human being?
     
  15. Asguard Kiss my dark side Valued Senior Member

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    i don't know if its possable to describe love but i know i have it

    she is mine again

    YAYAYYAYAYAYAYYAYAYAYYAY
     
  16. TruthSeeker The Truth is Out There Valued Senior Member

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    Cactus,

    At the same time? No.
    One at a time? Yes.

    You can Love someone and than transform it in love when the relationship become more intimate and physical, creating a dependence (that's what happened with me... :( ).

    The other way around I don't know because I've never experienced it... Probably, if someone has an awareness of the difference between Love and love, and go out with some that loves him or her, the person can make the other aware of the problem and transform love into Love. That's a possibility.

    There's two big differences between Love and love:
    Love is impersonal (to everyone), love is personal (to someone in specific).
    Love never hurts, love always hurts.

    Love :)
    Nelson
     
  17. Tyler Registered Senior Member

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    I think I'm too young to say this myself, but I'll throw it forward for someone more experienced to chime in. Nelson, Cactus, most of us are throwing around the term 'love' too easily here. A strong attraction does not mean 'love'. If you've only had a few experiences, 'love' is easy to assign to the best one. In my personal experiences, I know I have given the term 'love' in my head to things that were just strong attractions. 'likes' for lack of better word.
     
  18. Cactus Jack Death Knight of Northrend Registered Senior Member

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    I guess you're right Nelson, it's been bugging me.

    Tyler we aren't really throwing the word love around maybe Love but love happens a lot I believe. And I know what you mean, but I am in Love currently and this is the only time I've ever been, I've described it here too.
     
  19. Bebelina Female Messiah Valued Senior Member

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    Love is to be in harmony with oneself and all that is. To see no boundaries between I and other.
    To just be. :)

    Now, gaze into the banner, gaze..gaze...let go of control..gaze....trust...gaze....obey....gaze...obey...obey...obey....:eek:

     
  20. Tyler Registered Senior Member

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    Turn off your mind, relax and float down stream,
    It is not dying, it is not dying
    Lay down all thoughts, surrender to the void,
    It is shining, it is shining.
    Yet you may see the meaning of within
    It is being, it is being
    Love is all and love is everyone
    It is knowing, it is knowing
    And ignorance and hate mourn the dead
    It is believing, it is believing
    But listen to the colour of your dreams
    It is not leaving, it is not leaving
    So play the game "Existence" to the end
    Of the beginning, of the beginning



    "Tyler we aren't really throwing the word love around maybe Love but love happens a lot I believe. And I know what you mean, but I am in Love currently and this is the only time I've ever been, I've described it here too."

    You're getting confued with Nelson's mumbo-jumbo definitions. Love is a state of accepting and inner peace with nature and the world (correct me if I'm wrong, Nelson). The other love (which I will talk about. As Love is a concept Nelson has developed/made up) is not something that happens a lot. I can tell you that personally, love is a step above the kind of thing we feel for someone 90% of the time. It's a little frightening and a lot amazing, but it doesn't happen that frequently. And at our age, jarrod, you will find tons of people who say they are 'in love' with a boyfriend/girlfriend (generally, it will be a girl saying it about a guy. most guys won't use that term around other men) when it's nowhere near that level.
     
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